Get off your phone and supervise your toddler!

I would very loudly ask the child where her mother is. Shame the woman into putting down her phone and supervising her toddler.

Having spent 2 weeks on a burns ward with ds (scalding spill from steam inhalation accident) I know why you’re worried 😟

YANBU

@5iveleafclover

I'm not wound up, just pointing out that OP didn't need to get involved but if she was concerned she could have done something. 😅

At no point in any of her posts did OP ask for advice. I'm baffled as to why you're so wound up.

And you could have just ignored OPs thread instead of moaning about it. The irony.

I posted advice to ignore the child and get on with her day, or tell the mother/staff. Unlike OP with her faux concern. 😉

A similar thing happened in a restaurant where the children from one table were running riot, the manager had already asked them to control their off-spring and got a mouthful of invective. I told them the 'bugger off' when they pestered us and gave the manager our phone numbers in case he needed anyone to confirm the appalling lack of child care from the breeders.

And you could have just ignored OPs thread instead of moaning about it. The irony.

Aw bless. Is this your first foray into discussion forums?

These two statements directly contradict each other. If you have a genuine concern for the child's safety then you need to tell someone. If you don't want to address the parent directly then you can tell a member of staff.

Of course, if you just want to froth with like-minded souls about parents today then do crack on, but maybe say as much in your OP.

Thanks. I was genuinely concerned that she was going to get hurt. However I don't see why I should have to be supervising her. I'm not her parent. Children and hot drinks get me twitchy.

No one said you had to supervise the child, you could have just ignored her, or if you were genuinely concerned, you would have said something to the mother or staff. Instead you did nothing but post on here. 😂

I've stopped going to cafes now as they're just full of this kind of thing. I used to be a person who'd gently redirect ambling toddlers but the last time I did it, the mum told me to stop being such a "busybody dickhead". Oddly enough I'm less inclined to bother now.

I'm sure lots will be along to do the whole "you're only seeing a snapshot", "parents need a break too" and my all-time favourite, "stop parent-shaming", but in reality we all regularly see people on their phones ignoring their kids.

Bloody hell. What's going on with Mumsnet recently. OP is just having a discussion. If it winds you up maybe find another thread.

Eh? I doubt the OP objects to phone use altogether! She probably just objects to focusing on your phone and ignoring your own toddler!

So? She's not neglecting a toddler.

How about you tell us which cafe it is and all these Mumsnetters who simply can't stand idly by can jump in their cars and do something about it instead of just complaining on here

Well that could be said for every single thread on AIBU couldn’t it. So with the greatest respect that’s just a silly statement

Blimey, why is the OP getting a hard time about this? It's a forum, people are supposed to chat, aren't they?

It's not her child and It's not her job to parent the adult either!

You’re like a group of 14 year old mean girls, grow up FFS

Is this your first day on Mumsnet? 😂

Maybe mum is not that bright and needs advising? Or, you could video the situation and shame her on SM, because bystanding and showboating that you see the danger, but aren't willing to do something about it other than post, is not going prevent a potential accident 😏How odd to advertise you see the danger, but aren't willing to educate.

I mean, it would probably be good for the mother to hear that. But not your circus, so up to you whether you say anything.

No, but it is your job to tell the parent you're concerned. Are you scared to say something to the parent?

Not her toddler,is it?

How can she get an uber with a toddler and presumably no car seat?

She allowed to be, she doesn't have a legal responsibility to be in charge of the child's safety.

Everyone saying to OP to take the child back to the mother... its not OPs job and no one should do that. That then empowers these people to think others are watching their kids, the village will do it for me and they are entitled not too not bother. The child is then as a result in danger, if they are brazenly like this in public think what they must be like at home.

Not that you should have to do anything but if you do then you take the child to a authority figure and tell them they are wandering alone in an unsafe place and not being supervised by an adult.

Really the only thing that will have any impact is if everyone reports the neglect the see happening, they then build up otherwise eventual they child will get hurt (possibly seriously) because everyone ignored it.