AITA for wanting to be able to speak to my child’s teacher in the morning?

Do a note and get your child to hand it either to the teacher or the TA/LSA. I used to be the one on the door, the teacher was in the classroom. I always had a notepad with me to take messages and if someone needed to talk to the teacher then it would be after school as in the morning they are on a deadline for getting everyone into class and registration. Or it would be arranged slightly earlier than doors opening so that there was time to discuss if pick up wasn't done by the parent.

The school I was in had a system where children put notes onto the teacher's desk into a special tray marked for it. The reason being the school was a 700 plus primary and nursery so parents were often trying to get two children or more into different doors to the school year groups and had a ten minute slot, not great if you are waiting for your queuing child to go in. The school was sprawling as you can imagine.

The school office is there for parents to talk to them, they are used to it. You could also mention the teacher hogger too so that maybe someone might do something about it.

I think the best thing to do is stand near enough that it is very clear that you too are wishing to speak with the teacher during this brief drop off period and rightfully assuming their chat will be short and teacher will move on to you next. This gives the teacher a chance to indicate the conversation is over as she's needed by another parent . It can be hard to shake off the hoggers. Parents that need a longer discussion need to arrange time with the school. Drop off and pick up should be more informal, the passing on of quick non-urgent messages etc. Try this first and if it doesn't work maybe call the office and explain the situation.

I’d write a note and pass to teacher or TA if something I really wanted them to know.

short and to the point - no essay, on a bit of notepaper - just essential information.

‘ DATE . Dear Mrs A . Cassie is very emotional and upset as her rabbit died last night. Tearsandsmiles’

‘DATE Dear Mrs a - Cassie will be collected by Jane’s mum tonight. Tearsandsmiles’

if can’t get to see adults - safety pin to front of kids jumper .

At our school the teachers won’t come out on the playground for this reason - the PITA mums who want ‘just a quick chat’ when they are busy.
You have to schedule an appointment with the office if you need something or write in the planner if not urgent.

Think we might be at the same school! We have the same every day, so frustrating when you need to pass a quick message over or just want to make sure your child goes into the classroom ok and it's the same parent hogging the door and teacher every day. The teacher looks fed up too!

Everyday is too much even with a child with additional needs.
Do you have a online learning journal or system etc? Or email for the teacher? I always send messages via the journal as my DS goes to breakfast club so I don't see his teacher most days.

This mum sounds like a huge PITA, but it's on the school to enforce their policy around teacher comnuinication.
Our school has 1 teacher on gate to playground to pass on urgent messages, otherwise we are asked to send messages via Dojo app or school office, or make an appointment.

YANBU. What school year is it? I found this happens a lot in reception but much less further up the school.

I think i'd be tempted to call in at the school office on my way back out of school and leave the message there. The school secretary will soon get fed up of ferrying messages and tell the teacher to sort it out.

If she's physically blocking the kids getting in and out I'd ask her to move or get my child to bump in to her few times

Could you not have just said to the parent do you mind if I just nip in there I need to speak to the teacher quickly?

I would have been tempted to politely interrupt "I'm really really sorry but I need to get off to work, could I just quickly tell you...."

Definitely not being unreasonable, there's a mum who does that when I'm collecting my DS every day too, as soon as the door opens she's right there in the doorway asking tons of questions and talking to the teacher for ages while the teacher looks visibly annoyed as she's trying to get the children out to the correct adults and the children have to squeeze past her to leave the classroom. There's already been emails sent out to parents to say unless it's urgent then parents need to message the teacher on the class app but this particular mum still needs to be right in the way every single day. Rant over 😂

Parents like this are WELL known in school and regarded as self centered pain in the arses with zero self awareness. Who is supervising the children when this adult is at the teacher. The teacher is there to bring in the children. The office is there to take messages etc from parents. Why is this in any way not obvious. The other parent will never change and the kid will be needy too.

Yanbu. Is there a home school book for parents to write messages? Or online equivalent? The teacher probably needs to settle her class rather than ignore them to talk to parents?

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all, all the children are important and one parent shouldn't be taking up all the teachers time.