I am too old, aren’t it?

It's not that you're too old, you aren't. But you have been through so much, and finally reached a very happy safe place, why would you want to essentially turn it upside down with a baby? Even the best babies are hard work. And your children have peace and your attention after what sounds like a rough few years, if it were me I would focus on them, and on your own happiness. Only you can decide though.

Failed science did you? At this age regular periods and fertility are linked. Most women who get pregnant over 44 and give birth to a live baby do so naturally. Also the birth rates for women over 45 is rising.

I wouldn’t, on the basis that your children who went through your abusive marriage with you every step of the way, deserve to have the time that they had stolen from them repaid with your attention and seeing you happy , not whittled away again by a new baby on the scene.

I think it’s too old but if you really want a baby then go for it.

I had one of these too-well, a great-great aunt. 47 when she had her last baby. She also ran a football team!

I don't think you're too olde OP. If you want a baby and your healthy, go for it. Maybe without pressure, just remove your coil and see what happens. As others have said, any difficulties could cause issues.

You are old, let's face it.
I would not do it if I were you.

I wouldn’t at that age, but if you want to then try.

Unfortunately fertility has nothing to do with having regular periods. It’s highly unlikely you’ll get pregnant at 44.

It’s not the age you have the baby…. It’s how you get through the following years…. Massively disruptive for you other kids.

The one person I know who did this ended up a single parent of three kids and had to juggle two sets of dads, in-laws, parenting maintenance etc. it’s a nightmare and I feel for her. Don’t ruin a good thing - be grateful for what you have now.

I think it's too old.
The chance of having a child with additional needs is very high at your age, which will take even more attention away from your existing children.

Personally I think it’s too old, but we all have different opinions and tolerances.
im late 40’s now and looking forward to finishing Uni payments in the next few years. I wouldn’t want that financial commitment in my 60’s and I think I would be way too tired to parent teens.

There is more to OPs situation but I see these comments on mumsnet time and time again saying how unfair it it's on the older children for a woman to have a baby later in life. My mum had a baby at 44. We doted on him, changed hid Nappies, bathed him and pushed the pram for my mum! No jealousy at all.

Go for it ! (Now) you won’t regret it.

Certainly not too old! If my own mother had thought that was too old for kids, I wouldn’t be here.

Yes, the age is a definite factor. However, I'd be more concerned about the children who have already been passengers in your abusive marriage, and you want to rock their world... again? It's not within their best interests. They need stability and your undivided attention. Not throwing another grenade in their lives.

Sorry I somehow missed the ages of your children! Thought they were a bit older.

Honestly, I'd caution you to think carefully. Mostly for the sake of your existing children, who are coming up to probably some of the hardest years they will ever experience. Life is not easy for teenagers and young adults right now and they will likely really, really need your help and support. I'm not sure it's fair to be busy with another baby/young child and potentially too exhausted to be properly present for the older ones.

Just the other side of the coin.

I’d give it a try, what have you got to lose really? If you both want one, have a go.

I thought you were going to say you were 60!!!! 44 is not too old. My mum had my brother at 44! Go for it op. X

I had another little one earlier this year and I was 45. They keep me young to be honest. Only issue I see is I have quite a few children and all close in ages. You will have a big age gap so little one would grow up as an only child. Not that that is an issue but it is a consideration.

You sound like you're in a good place in your life, after a shitty time of it. I'd be very reluctant to throw a baby sized spanner in the works.

Your age doesn’t matter much (provided you are healthy) as he’s under 40 and you have adult kids who could provide help and support when you get older. If you want a 2nd do it now. Don’t wait.

Better to try than wonder what if ?
.Good luck

Not for me I had mine in my 20s. But if you want to try with your new man get cracking asap. No one knows what the future holds.

You're not too old - my friend had a baby at 45, she's a wonderful mother and he's a lovely happy well adjusted little boy. Her 4 older children are great with him. She says having him keeps her young! I wouldn't rule it out but only try if you really want a baby with your partner, don't just do it for him.

This in spades.

Physically you may be fine. But your older kids would probably prefer to have their mum help them navigate adolescence, choose their exam subjects, visit colleges and unis, do fun things on holiday, have days out. Not pushing a pram and changing nappies. And FWIW haven’t they been mucked about enough.