To tell my friend that her husband is trying to cheat on her - with me?

Stop being polite and be brutal, tell him to fuck off

How exactly did you respond to him when you 'brushed him off' ? Because you might have downplayed that too...

That wasn't what I was saying. I was trying to get across that he may well do it again with someone else. I didn't want the op to think she was just anyone but that there is a risk that he is a wanderer. Don't stir the pot

Been through it. Her other half waited till I was drunk to grope me. He Actually called me up the next day to see if I remembered anything.
She stayed with him and we no longer speak.

Whatever you do, if you do decide to tell the wife, don't give him any kind of warning ("I'll tell your wife!" or anything to that regard) because you're giving him a head start to spin a story that will paint you as the initiator. Just go straight to her.

"But I have evidence, I have the texts!"- his wife won't care. She will believe what he says before she believes the content of the texts, regardless of how irrational that is.

Yes, it’s obviously all the OP’s fault for letting him crack on to her 🙄

Those messages aren’t hints or innuendos. They are outright attempts to cheat with his wife’s friend and she needs to know. He should have never started to begin with and that idea that you didn’t shut him down hard enough makes his behaviour seem like your fault, when it’s his. I’d invite her round and take her through the entire exchange of messages, telling her why you’d tried to minimise it for as long as you could - purely so as not to make this situation explode.

But you don’t even have to confront.

OP could have just blocked him after the first message and so he wouldn’t have been able to send more.

He has been asking her for sex and she’s been letting it go on for weeks.

i Would say eww no thanks and block

I wouldn’t think twice about telling her!

She’s your friend, not him.

A stranger, I may have reservations about saying anything but my friend I would absolutely tell.

I don’t understand why you are still allowing this.

Why did you not tell him to fuck off, screenshot, block and send it to your friend the first time it happened.

Whether you love her or have decent moral values, the right thing to do is to tell her, whatever her response to you.

Sounds like you’re not the first person he’s been trying it on with behind his wife’s back and won’t be the last.

If you tell her then it's highly likely you'll lose the friendship and if she finds out it's highly likely you'll lose the friendship. You're in a no-win situation I'm afraid.

Send him a text and really tell him off and tell him to back off right now or you will tell her.

That he is.

Oh good lord, surely it can't be news to anyone that many women have been conditioned to react politely and smoothe over any embarrassment in any and every situation. This is precisely why he feels confident to send these sleazy messages. He may even have targeted OP because he knows she's unassertive and will neither tell his wife nor tell him to fuck off.

OP: Tell him to fuck off and tell his wife. Don't be surprised if they stay together and blame you. You have done nothing wrong but this is a no win situation, because some people would always rather blame a woman than a man for the fact that he can't keep it in his trousers. Sorry this is happening to you.

But even if any of your reasons

He’s as thick as shit putting it in writing

Or he's a dog who just goes sniffing at every tail until someone falls for his 'charms'?

Or he has such little regard for his partner that he doesn't even need to take his filth further afield.

There could be any number of reasons that don't make the OP guilty of leading him on.

I think you should tell her right away but make sure you telling him to stop is included in the screenshots. Explain how awkward this has made you feel and at first you didn't know whether you were overreacting or whether he was joking.

If he has form for being untrustworthy, she could very easily look through his phone and see the messages. If you don't tell her, how could she ever trust you again? Kids or no kids, I think you should tell her. I would want to know.

I also can’t believe the amount of posters saying they haven’t and wouldn’t tell their friends in this situation!!!

OK, so she blocks him, and no, he's not going to say anything in front of his wife unless he's an idiot. What happens after? The Ops never going to be comfortable around him again

Yes, but not blocking him isnt going to magically make this go away either is it? The damage is well and truly done now- she is NEVER going to feel comfortable around him even if she doesnt block him but at least blocking him means he is physically unable to do it again

So basically, you think he is either joking and it’s the OP’s fault for misunderstanding OR
SHE has led him on in some way?! So in both your scenarios, it’s not his fault??

How about secret option 3 - he is an entitled wanker and has made the OP feel very uncomfortable and put her in an awkward situation?! Men can sense ‘polite’ women. Trust me, I used to be one. He probably thought she would be an easy target and wouldn’t want to rock the boat. And he was right - he has preyed on her. OP has already said she regrets not shutting him down sooner and that she is going to tell him to stop and tell her friend.

In absolutely no way is OP just as bad as him. He’s a nasty cheating scumbag. The only thing she’s guilty of is not knowing how to handle it.

I also agree this is a great message. Send this now. There is no reason to wait and see because he has shown he wont stop. I get you didnt want to make it awkward but its bloody well HIM making things awkward, not you. He has basically asked you round for a shag and you keep laughing at it- I am not blaming you in any way as he is the sleaze here but he may well have thought by you joking about it that all he has to do is push just a little bit more and you'll agree to it. Then its going to ruin your friendship with this woman.

Send this message now and tell him in no uncertain terms to fcking stop. If you dont, you will lose this friendship.

That's a good idea. Clear and inconvenient for him to explain if his wife asks him to pass on a message for any reason.

Well he is certainly not the sharpest tool in the box otherwise why on earth would he basically condemn himself by putting it in writing