AIBU to complain about this Dr interaction?

Wtf!!!

That's why I've questioned it. If he's not a doctor why op have got a doctors appointment with him?
Op hasn't given enough info really?

It's the dress thing I find hard to believe does the doctor always dress like this?
Is this doctor a regular at the practice?

100% say something!! Seriously inappropriate imo

If this is true, then you absolutely must report it.

Imagine how uncomfortable you'd have been having a pelvic exam from him after that comment?

If he's doing things like this to you, he'll be doing it to others. Who knows if he's a doctor or not. You must report.

I wouldn’t care in the slightest how my doctor was dressed but PLEASE report those comments. Something tells me you won’t be the only one to lodge a complaint…

Wow just wow. I would never ask a woman that! Let alone in a professional capacity!

Report report report...if he gets away with saying that sort of thing, what about when he has to examine someone

Don't berate yourself for not responding differently op. It's easy to be wise after the event. I can think of several occasions over the years where men have done/said something to me and I've just smiled weakly because I've been caught off guard. You can't quite believe what you're hearing/seeing and think you've maybe misunderstood. For most of us our default position is to be polite and not cause offence. Especially when that person is in a position of authority. I often look back at such incidents and wish my younger self had been more outspoken.

Also look at the website for your local health watch.

What the fuck?! That’s totally inappropriate and really quite grim!

Stupid man can't even get the pervy euphemism right. It's does the carpet match the drapes.

Yes, all the experiences like OP's and mine give a completely different world view to that of a man.
I bristle immensely if anyone questions whether I should have a choice in choosing sex of a doctor in front of whom I may need to undress or talk about intimate issues. Even worse when some people seem more concerned about male doctor (poor lamb!) being "discriminated against" than what a wrong un' could mean to me.

I've been operated on in a gyneacological setting by a male surgeon. But I was under a general anaesthetic and he was saving my life, surrounded by other medics.
I view that very differently from having to talk to a man about post-sex thrush or having him perform a smear test.

Seems like nowhere is safe sometimes. Actually, scrap that - too placid. Nowhere really is safe!

so awful...

I'm a GP and that needs reporting please. Not normal/correct/appropriate.

Doctors dress in all kinds of ways these days to be fair. I don't think the way he was dressed is anything you need to be concerned with. His comments on the other hand...

The Doctor who correctly diagnosed a long-term problem of mine wore a very fancy pattern shirt and so many gold rings and gold chains.

The appropriate answer is 'that's none of your concern' .

Our hospital chaplain was dismissed for behaviour utterly incompatible with being a man of god dealing with very vulnerable patients and families….it happens!

Then I hope your eyes have been opened by reading the whole thread.

This is the exact reason people don’t report - people disbelieving their experiences makes them think they overreacted or misunderstood when deep down they know what happened was wrong.

Anyone in any profession is capable of being inappropriate and predatory. Many who work in positions of authority think they can get away with it precisely because of attitudes like yours. If someone says something happened they should feel empowered to report and feel supported, not minimised and made to feel like they’re lying. This man may never escalate to anything more than inappropriate comments but that in and of itself is still not acceptable. Whether anyone else has complained or not is irrelevant- if everyone who has an experience like this is made to feel stupid or that they’re overreacting then no one reports and the man continues with his awful behaviour. Just because you’ve been fortunate enough not to be in this position why is it so hard for you to believe? Why would someone make this up?

You are unfortunately part of the problem with this comment, minimising, disbelieving and down playing, making victims feel they are wrong, misinformed or lying.

Please report this. I had a very similar situation when I was in my early 20s. I was very vulnerable at the time, and I feel like he sensed that and tried his luck. I pushed it to the back of my mind because I couldn't face dealing with it at the time, but I've always regretted it. I did try to lodge a complaint, years later, but too much time had passed.

Bit suspicious of this thread sorry, doctors don't dress like this for Also are you sure exactly what he meant?
Would any doctor risk their job by saying this, have other people complained, this is all abit strange and confusing.

Yes, it's only the low-paid lower classes who would ever possibly do something like this as far as some people are concerned. I find it a bizarre attitude to have, but not uncommon here.