Was she being unreasonable

How would you like a complete stranger old enough to be your dad touching you, cuddling you, without warning, introduction or consent?

Would it be more acceptable to you if he was 20?

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How would you like a complete stranger old enough to be your dad touching you, cuddling you, without warning, introduction or consent?

It's just creepy and weird. Maybe he can put his arm round you but he doesn't know her and you don't touch women you don't know. It can be classed as assault.

He should apologise to her. He may well have not meant any harm but that's not the point.

What example are you setting her by saying non consensual touching from strangers especially men should be accepted and to 'grin and bear it'?

Younger generation refusing to put up with the same crap women have for millennia.
Wonderful to hear. I hope my 15 year old daughter will be like this.

My daughter would do the same and I would be incredibly proud of her.

Your daughter is brilliant. Make sure she knows it. Don’t let her ever doubt herself then way you are.

No. Good on her! You’ve raised a strong, confident woman who isn’t afraid to stand up for herself and her body. You should be proud of her.

No, not unreasonable. Once upon a time, women were conditioned to think this behaviour was ok, but times have changed, evolved. Good on her for advocating for herself. It's akin to once upon a time making children kiss/hug random relatives/parents friends. We don't do that anymore.

Good for her! No one needs to tolerate this handsy nonsense anymore.

This shows a difference between the younger generation and us. Now I know many of you 40+ might say you'd do the same, but I just think in general we accepted this because we got used to it so much when we were younger. As much as how many criticise the younger generation as screen zombies who can't socialise or are disrespectful or how much better it was 'in our day', the youngsters are much more savvy as to what are boundaries and what isn't acceptable.

I couldn't get worked up about a man doing this, in a situation where you obviously knew him. I dont think it's the crime that MNers make it out to be. But each to their own.

No. That shit isn't acceptable these days and rightly so.

good on her
all females should act that way
men's entitled behaviour will stop then

your age group were conditioned to think its acceptable behaviour and to "put up with it" this is why men got away with it

in her age group bracket girls have not been brought up or conditioned that way

he could have greeted you both friendly with out physical unwanted touch

Did you defend her to your friends?

Nope, good for her. Just another man who thinks it's ok to put his hands on a female coz he's 'friendly' or 'just being nice' or 'knows her mum'
Respect your daughter for standing up for herself.

Why didn't you mention you were 'very very proud' in your OP?

Seems like the replies have swayed you?

The sooner men learn that if they don’t want to be shouted at by women they should check if their advances are welcome and not presume. I was in a pub having a deep conversation with my sister and a random older broke touched me on the shoulder and startled me. I am proud to say I made a loud fuss and he retreated with hands in the air.

If you think how he acted wasn't so bad, but your daughter obviously did, that's the generation gap in full flow. The man comes from a generation where women were expected to put up with a certain level of touching, so maybe he sees nothing wrong with it. You don't see it, as from a generation where you were conditioned to accept it. Subsequent generations have been taught that its out of order without prior permission, particularly from a stranger.
He made a bad judgement call in the moment. I'd guess being out involved some alcohol consumption which affected his poor judgement.
As you see nothing wrong with it, also maybe as you know him. What do you think of a middle-aged man who goes up to 2 20 year old women who don't know him and put his arms around them - creep, comes to mind.

She sounds awesome! 🤩

I can understand that you'd be surprised as we were brought up to always be nice and polite pretty much regardless of the situation however younger ones have been taught different standards and this is a good thing. It is probably a worthwhile lesson for your friend/ acquaintance as he hopefully will realise this isn't acceptable and not do it again to other girls.. It really isn't okay for men to do that.

I’m your age and I’d be appalled if someone I don’t know put their arm around me. I very much object to being grabbed/touched by unknown people. Of course she’s not unreasonable. Gone are the days when ‘aunties and uncles’ ie friends of your parents could demand cuddles.

my eldest daughter would have absolutely reacted the same, my younger daughter would have absolutely recoiled in disgust and moved away. Both in their early twenties. I wish I had the confidence they have back when I was their age.

Why do you think she was out of order? Do you think she should have kept quiet like a good girl? How far does this go, does she keep quiet when she's being assaulted further, is there a limit?