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How old are you and what time do you go to bed?

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defoneedanamechange · 13/10/2024 20:30

For context: I'm 36, mum of three (youngest is 2.5), work four days a week.

Im also someone who needs a lot of sleep.

So... introductions over. I'm in bed for 8/8.30 and asleep 8.30-9 every night. I then get up at 5.30/6 with my toddler.

Aibu to ask your age and when you go to sleep?

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Londonrach1 · 14/10/2024 07:22

RampantIvy · 14/10/2024 07:21

I wonder if most of the early to bed posters watch TV in bed?

We don't have a TV in the bedroom.

No TV in bedroom. In fact I rarely watch our one TV downstairs.

Londonrach1 · 14/10/2024 07:21

40s. Go up with dd and in next room to her. In bed 8.30 am.... asleep either 8.30 or 10 depending on how tried I am... usually 8.30. I'm just in bed from 8.30 reading

RampantIvy · 14/10/2024 07:21

I wonder if most of the early to bed posters watch TV in bed?

We don't have a TV in the bedroom.

Thepeopleversuswork · 14/10/2024 07:21

@RampantIvy

If I started needing to sleep for 10 hours every night I would be going to the GP for a blood test.

Yeah me too. I think it’s good to focus on getting good sleep but 10 hours a day is too much unless you have a chronic condition. Too much sleep makes people listless and apathetic and isn’t good.

coffeesaveslives · 14/10/2024 07:20

I go up to bed around 9-9.30 but don't go to sleep until almost midnight. I read or watch TV or scroll social media.

I'm 35. Up at 7-7.30 during the week.

GreyCarpet · 14/10/2024 07:19
  1. Go to bed 9.30-10.30pm but have often fallen asleep on the sofa before that.

Up at 6.30am for work.

I rarely go out on a week night but, if I do, I still aim to be in bed for 11.

Thepeopleversuswork · 14/10/2024 07:18

52 usually in bed by 10, asleep by 10.30 to 11. Up at either 5 or 6 depending on whether I am running.

I know a lot of sleep is good but I couldn’t go to bed at 8pm. It would mean having no time to decompress after work (honestly I am often still working at 9). I don’t understand how people cope with not having an evening.

RampantIvy · 14/10/2024 07:15

Alaimo · 14/10/2024 06:50

What life things? Because usually a lot of my evening (especially now it's getting darker) are spent just watching TV or reading, so genuinely curious how other people fill their evenings.

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I watch TV and read when I'm in. I have a couple of hobby groups that meet once a month in the evening, and am a member of a charity group that meets once a week in the evening. I occasionally go to the cinema or theatre or meet friends for a meal out as well.

If I went to sleep at 9 pm I would be wide awake at 4.

If I started needing to sleep for 10 hours every night I would be going to the GP for a blood test.

kikisparks · 14/10/2024 06:56

37 with a toddler, go to bed at 9.30/10 most nights except one weekend night when I know my DH is on wake up duty and I go to bed about 11.30.

Alaimo · 14/10/2024 06:50

BeatsAntique · 13/10/2024 23:24

43, kiddo in uni. Start getting ready for bed at about 11, watch TV in bed or read then go to sleep about midnight, up between 7 and 7:30.

It seems like people can’t be doing anything with their evenings going to bed so early—when do you do life things?!

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What life things? Because usually a lot of my evening (especially now it's getting darker) are spent just watching TV or reading, so genuinely curious how other people fill their evenings.

Dontcallmescarface · 14/10/2024 06:41

Late 50's.

9pm if I'm on an early shift (up at 4.30 am), between 11 and midnight all other times.

Ohfuckwhatdoidonow · 14/10/2024 06:29

33, I go to bed at around 12.
I get around an hour to sort of wind the house up for the night after the kids finally sleep.
DS (2) is on the pathway to autism diagnosis. Sleeps no more than 6 hours per night, he finally falls asleep between 10-11 most nights (a bad night is 2am)
Always up by 6.

This week's been completely different. The baby (7months) has not allowed for much sleep at all having had a viral infection.
Just as that's started to pass, they now have a sickness bug.

offyoujollywelltrot · 14/10/2024 06:09

47, and I sleep when my brain lets me, which is not easily.

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defoneedanamechange · 14/10/2024 06:07

violetcuriosity · 13/10/2024 20:36

34 kids 9 and 1, in bed by 8:30sh asleep by 9:30sh. All of us early 30s seem to be similar... age of kids or an era thing?

Definitely! I'm all for the early night!

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Cappuccinowithonesugarplease · 14/10/2024 05:57
  1. In bed between 9 and 10. Asleep by 10 30. Up at 6 30
Joycedelight · 14/10/2024 05:54

BeatsAntique · 13/10/2024 23:24

43, kiddo in uni. Start getting ready for bed at about 11, watch TV in bed or read then go to sleep about midnight, up between 7 and 7:30.

It seems like people can’t be doing anything with their evenings going to bed so early—when do you do life things?!

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This is what I asked upthread but nobody responded.

Silvers11 · 13/10/2024 23:46

CustardySergeant · 13/10/2024 21:42

Did you mean 2am?

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Yes!!!! Typo!

Shallysally · 13/10/2024 23:29

53, in bed around 9, sleep by 10/10.30. DP is up for work between 4 and 5. If I can’t get back to sleep then I’ll start my day. Otherwise alarm at 6.30

sunshineandshowers40 · 13/10/2024 23:25

46; bed around 11:30pm

BeatsAntique · 13/10/2024 23:24

43, kiddo in uni. Start getting ready for bed at about 11, watch TV in bed or read then go to sleep about midnight, up between 7 and 7:30.

It seems like people can’t be doing anything with their evenings going to bed so early—when do you do life things?!

AlbertAvocado · 13/10/2024 23:22

47, bed at 10 and then asleep anywhere between 10.30 to midnight on a normal night.

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EmeraldDreams73 · 13/10/2024 23:08

RVEllacott · 13/10/2024 21:18

Me too. I'm 54, I'm surprised by the number of people on this thread going to bed pretty early. Even when my DC were tiny I can't remember going to bed much before 11pm.

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Exactly, I've always been an owl. Years of small children and zero lie ins didn't change it, I can be wrecked all day and still perk up at night! Other than with very newborn babies, when I did crawl into bed at 7pm for a few hours when I could, but hated it as I then had zero down time.

Now dd2 is 16 and dd1 away at uni, I still stay up late to have some headspace!

pleasecomment · 13/10/2024 23:06

42, upstairs in bed for 10 then read / doom scroll for an hour normally.

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 13/10/2024 23:05

59, Midnight to 2am back up at 7am

always been like this since my teens.

aunt said I was like that even younger but I don’t remember.