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How old are you and what time do you go to bed?

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defoneedanamechange · 13/10/2024 20:30

For context: I'm 36, mum of three (youngest is 2.5), work four days a week.

Im also someone who needs a lot of sleep.

So... introductions over. I'm in bed for 8/8.30 and asleep 8.30-9 every night. I then get up at 5.30/6 with my toddler.

Aibu to ask your age and when you go to sleep?

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EveryKneeShallBow · 14/10/2024 12:45
  1. Bed between 9.30 and 10.30 asleep within 30 minutes. Wake naturally around 3 am usually awake for an hour or so, cup of tea, MN, then sleep again to about 6.45. More tea and daily puzzles and WhatsApp messages with friends. Get up about 8.00.
PattiSmithsPattis · 14/10/2024 12:36

Early 50s. Chronic insomnia. I never know if the sleep meds are going to work, and if they do, how long for.
So I am definitely in bed by 10, but usually nearer 9.
But I can sleep for 2 or 3 hours and then be wide awake. I absolutely hate my brain 😞

ItTook9Years · 14/10/2024 12:31

Work more than full time, including 2 weeks a month away from home. Doing a degree, school governor x2, I often work at night if I’ve take. Time during the day for medical appts etc. 42 phone calls to pharmacies so far this month in search of my ADHD meds.

I need days to be 27 hours, really. I try to carve out a couple of hours family TV time a week but otherwise don’t watch TV myself.

choixduroi · 14/10/2024 12:23

48 and in the week about 12.15 get ready and asleep by 12.35, up at 7. Weekend bed at 1 at up at 9.

RVEllacott · 14/10/2024 12:19

Alaimo · 14/10/2024 06:50

What life things? Because usually a lot of my evening (especially now it's getting darker) are spent just watching TV or reading, so genuinely curious how other people fill their evenings.

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I'm involved with running a couple of voluntary organisations that meet in the evenings, I watch TV with family, do household chores, read, dog walk in the summer. Just usual non-work life things. DD routinely finishes work at 8.30pm so we often eat late too.

ItTook9Years · 14/10/2024 12:05

obsessedwithfreshbread · 14/10/2024 12:02

As others have said I'm so surprised at how early some of these bedtimes are..
I'm 44 - I've barely finished life admin by 9 - if i went straight to bed I'd feel I had no time to relax and spend time with DH and DSC
Usually go to bed around midnight and up anywhere from 6-9 depending on Schedule for that day!

My daughter has activities twice a week that don’t finish till 9:30pm, and every other week my train back from work doesn’t get me home till gone 10:30pm!

obsessedwithfreshbread · 14/10/2024 12:02

As others have said I'm so surprised at how early some of these bedtimes are..
I'm 44 - I've barely finished life admin by 9 - if i went straight to bed I'd feel I had no time to relax and spend time with DH and DSC
Usually go to bed around midnight and up anywhere from 6-9 depending on Schedule for that day!

ItTook9Years · 14/10/2024 11:51

47

Between midnight and 2am most nights. Am up between 7 and 8am on weekdays and much later at weekends.

Samphire44 · 14/10/2024 11:51

Mid 40s. In bed by 9.30pm asleep by 9.35pm. Wide awake at 4am (no matter what time I go to bed).

MrsLBrown · 14/10/2024 11:49

Alina3 · 14/10/2024 11:38

36yr. 8pm.

But that means you have no evening.

Are you working shifts where you need to get up very early?

If I went to bed at 8, I'd sleep for 7 hours and be awake at 3am. (And not go back to sleep.)

Tdcp · 14/10/2024 11:48

I'm 38 with a 10 year old and pregnant. I go to bed about 10:30 - 11:30 and I'm up at 7 am for work.

StopStartStop · 14/10/2024 11:46

66... whenever I like. Really. If I feel tired in the morning or afternoon, I go to bed. 'Bedtime' could be any time from 5pm to 11pm. I have sleep issues and the current 'treatment' is 'get all the sleep you can, the times will correct themselves eventually'. It's a slow process but seems to be working.

Alina3 · 14/10/2024 11:38

36yr. 8pm.

MouseofCommons · 14/10/2024 11:33

it grown up stuff is happening in the day. Work, gym, housework, life admin etc. I'm not going to keep on with it at 9pm.

Shhhthedogssleeping · 14/10/2024 11:32

64 retired. Lifelong health condition that makes me really tired. Bed between 9 - 11 pm. Get to sleep usually around 1 am. Up in night anywhere between 1 and 4 hours. Wake absolutely exhausted even after a good sleep anywhere between 7 and 11 am. Very frustrating and it really pisses me off. No matter how much sleep I get, I’m always shattered.

Blueskies3 · 14/10/2024 11:31

I am someone that needs a lot of sleep. I have always wished that I could function on less. I am ND though, so that may play a part. I am much more regulated with lots of sleep.
I think this post shows how diverse our sleep needs are. Some only need a little and some need a lot.

MrsLBrown · 14/10/2024 11:23

If you're youngish and going to bed at a time when a lot of people are still getting home from a long commute (8pm) or having dinner, you might want to see your dr.

Needing 11 hours sleep is not good for anyone (unless recovering from an illness.)

You might need testing for diabetes or anaemia if you need to sleep from 8.30pm.

The only people I know of who admit to going to bed by 8-9pm are radio presenters who have to be in the studio for 5am and on air by 6am.

Blueskies3 · 14/10/2024 11:21

39 and try to go to sleep at 9:30pm and wake up every day at 6, sometimes on the weekends I will sleep until 7am.

BeautyPageantDropout · 14/10/2024 11:19

47

I go to bed at midnight, or more likely 1am. Get up at 7am.

Member984815 · 14/10/2024 11:18

Early 40s anywhere between 9 and 10.30

Rachie1973 · 14/10/2024 11:18

51, with a 4 and 5 year old.

bed by midnight, asleep by 1. Up for a wee at 3ish, then up with 4 year old at 6.

I’ve never needed a lot of sleep.

ItGhoul · 14/10/2024 11:12

thehourwaslate · 14/10/2024 07:26

I’m astounded that so many people go to bed before 9pm! Even 10pm seems very early to me. Do you not watch tv? I’ve always thought of 9pm as the start of the main programmes. I know nowadays most programmes can be watched at any time, but it still feels like 9pm onwards is prime viewing time!

38, bed around midnight, up at 7:30am on weekdays, 8:30/9am on weekends. 3 children, eldest is 5, youngest is 5 months.

Agreed. There are adults going to bed before I've even had dinner. If people are going to bed at 9pm, at what point are they actually doing any normal, grown-up stuff?!

ItGhoul · 14/10/2024 11:08

I'm 48. Usually go to bed between midnight and 1am and it then takes me about an hour to fall asleep. I get up between 8am and 9am. No kids.

ObliviousCoalmine · 14/10/2024 11:05

Mid-late thirties and anywhere between 8.30 and 1am. Alarm at 6.40am.

Nothanks17 · 14/10/2024 10:54

RampantIvy · 14/10/2024 08:02

Do you get interrupted sleep at night and get up very early?

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I get up early, interrupted not so often...

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