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How old are you and what time do you go to bed?

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defoneedanamechange · 13/10/2024 20:30

For context: I'm 36, mum of three (youngest is 2.5), work four days a week.

Im also someone who needs a lot of sleep.

So... introductions over. I'm in bed for 8/8.30 and asleep 8.30-9 every night. I then get up at 5.30/6 with my toddler.

Aibu to ask your age and when you go to sleep?

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gingercat02 · 13/10/2024 20:59

55 anywhere between 10pm and midnight. I no longer have children who get me up. I work part-time but every day.
My sleep has been awful for about 16 years - non sleeping baby and terrible work stress killed my epic sleeping habit, and it never recovered

Moonshiners · 13/10/2024 20:59

Moier · 13/10/2024 20:43

  1. I like to get in bed after tea ( about 7) watch telly . Read until midnight ...then hopefully fall asleep. I have a lot of pain insomnia..so don't have a set pattern at all.

As someone with chronic pain and insomnia for over 30 years I feel I should tell you that staying still normally worsens pain and being in bed for too long not sleeping worsens insomnia. Apologies if you already know this and there is a reason why you do this but I learnt the long and hard way.

SleepyTerrier · 13/10/2024 20:59

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ForGreyKoala · 13/10/2024 20:59

65 - usually between 10 - 11 pm, sleep between 11 - 12 pm (I read in bed every night)

lalaloopyhead · 13/10/2024 20:59

51 and 10pm, even at the weekend unless I have been out somewhere and get back later as I need wind down time rather than going straight to bed.

DelilahBucket · 13/10/2024 20:58

39, in bed by 10:30 on work nights, asleep by 11:15 ish, alarm at 7:15.

Ihateboris · 13/10/2024 20:58
  1. Go to bed around 8pm during the week as I get up at 5am to walk the dogs and then workout.
BeyondMyWits · 13/10/2024 20:58

I'm 60, retired ... in bed at 10.00 asleep by 10.02... woken at 6.30 by ddog wanting out, or dd22 getting ready to go to teacher training placement - on bus at 7.00.

fatimashortbread · 13/10/2024 20:58

58 Bed just before midnight up at 6 am

terracottafarm · 13/10/2024 20:57

29 - 12ish I don't sleep easily

Parry5timesbeforedeath · 13/10/2024 20:57

51 in bed by 8.30. asleep by 9 and my alarm goes off at 5 am. my family get up around 6 am and 5 to 6 is my quiet time to prepare lunches, do the uniform ironing and watch the news.

herewen · 13/10/2024 20:56

45, 1am-2am. Always been the same simce my teens.

LolleePop · 13/10/2024 20:56

I'm 48.
2 young kids.
I'm in bed now.
Actually this is late for me. I'm usually sound asleep by 8:30 but I've got a few things on my mind so I'm on mumsnet to help me zone out.
I'm literally about to shut down phone and sleep now as this feels really late for me to still be awake.
I'm up at 6.
I need minimum 9 hours sleep or I feel ill.

afrikat · 13/10/2024 20:56

43 and usually between 10 and 11. Alarm set between 7 and 8 depending on if I am WFH or not. Weekend is probably midnight, wake up between 9 and 10

Moveoverdarlin · 13/10/2024 20:55

Age 44, about midnight.

EmeraldDreams73 · 13/10/2024 20:55

51, an early night for me is before 11 but much more usual is midnight or later. Alarm at 6.45 most days.

Bignanna · 13/10/2024 20:55

CanadianJohn · 13/10/2024 20:36

77, 1.30 am. I've always been a night owl

Same age as you, bedtime same too!

Funkyslippers · 13/10/2024 20:55

ReadingInTheRain583 · 13/10/2024 20:50

36 - I am ready for, and go to bed between 9-10pm. Most nights it takes over an hour to fall asleep, sometimes 2-3. I also wake several times in the night and have a child who bed hops and likes to start the day somewhere around 5am.

I also have a husband who literally closes his eyes, instantly falls asleep, sleeps soundly all night and then wakes up telling me how tired he is 🙄

Edited

Oh god I have one of those. It must be in the genes as my OHs family were all fantastic sleepers. I don't think my OH would ever say he's tired through lack of sleep as it might be the last thing he ever says to me 🤣

AlwaysPerplexed · 13/10/2024 20:55

69 - bed at 10, lights off 11, alarm at 8.

Of course have regular wakes at 4am - tend to get up, read and back to bed after an hour. Usually when I have had more than 2 glasses of wine. When will I learn?

Grepes · 13/10/2024 20:54

Early 40s, work full time.

Dinner at 9pm, bed at 11pm (read for a bit), alarm goes off at 5.30am (husband gets up, I doze and he brings me coffee in bed). 3yr old patters in around 7/30am (I’m sorting out what I need to sort out for the day at work). 3yr old and I snuggle in bed for a bit and chat, get ready, walk to nursery for 8am, I start work when I get back 10mins later. Work until 6pm when husband and kids get home. Play, snacks, bedtime, cook (all shared), eat at 9pm and repeat!

Weekends, we don’t really have a timetable! Just have fun and relax. I love it!

CherryBlossom321 · 13/10/2024 20:54

I’m 40 and go between 12 and 1 regardless of waking time. I hate it, but my autistic tween doesn’t sleep brilliantly. It’s improved since she was prescribed melatonin, but I still have to wait for her to fall asleep for her own safety. I hate it, I’d prefer much earlier and I’m constantly exhausted but have no choice.

WonderingWanda · 13/10/2024 20:54

45...between 10 and midnight depending on how much work I have to do. Get up at 6.30 but often wake between 3 and 4 and have fitful sleep till the alarm goes off. Wish I could sleep better.

Torememberwhenlifewasbetter · 13/10/2024 20:54

46-around midnight-12.30, im
exhausted but have a 6 year old and need this time on my own

TheBirdintheCave · 13/10/2024 20:53

I'm 38 with two kids (one nearly four and a five month old). Husband and I go upstairs at 10:30pm but won't be sleeping until midnight as we like to read to wind down first.

Oblomov24 · 13/10/2024 20:53

This thread is odd. The normal time for most adults should be approx 10pm. 8 hours is the optimum so 11pm - 7am is reasonable.

I myself often go early, pre 9pm, sometimes 8pm if very tired, but I am diabetic and have always needed a lot of sleep. But this is not the norm, and the difference is I know that.