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How old are you and what time do you go to bed?

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defoneedanamechange · 13/10/2024 20:30

For context: I'm 36, mum of three (youngest is 2.5), work four days a week.

Im also someone who needs a lot of sleep.

So... introductions over. I'm in bed for 8/8.30 and asleep 8.30-9 every night. I then get up at 5.30/6 with my toddler.

Aibu to ask your age and when you go to sleep?

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JenniferAllisonPhillipaSue · 13/10/2024 21:08

Not sure what age has to do with this, as I've been going to bed around 10pm for the last forty years! Some nights I'm tired and fall asleep quickly, other nights I'm not so tired so I'll watch television until 11:30ish.

Xanadu58 · 13/10/2024 21:08

56 and I'm in bed around 9pm

HildaHosmede · 13/10/2024 21:07

Bed between 1 and 2am usually. Up at 7am.

I just can't bring myself to go earlier. It's my time and I need it. Crap on TV, mn, doom scrolling, reading.

Occasionally it catches up on me and I have a couple of earlier nights in a row...then back to normal.

Zanatdy · 13/10/2024 21:06

I’m 47, 48 in 2 months, and I am always in bed before 9, asleep 10.10.30 latest. I always wake up before 5.30am when my alarm goes off. Usually up for the day by 4.30-5. When my kids were little I longed for the days I could lay in on weekends / days off, yet here I am, unable to sleep in later than 5am! Madness

Nomorewine123 · 13/10/2024 21:06

48 I generally on week days am in bed by 9pm, read for a bit asleep by 10 but alarm set for 5 for the gym. Weekends I might go later and have a lie in until 7/8 ish. My watch tells me I average 7 and half hours a night over the last year so sounds about right.

Weverunoutofteabags · 13/10/2024 21:06

I can give an overly complicated answer to this.

When I'm on a day shift, I go to bed at 2130
When I'm on a night shift I go to bed at 0930
When I'm off work, I go to bed at 00:30/01:00

For context I have two children, aged 3 & 6 years, I'm 29 and I'm permanently exhausted.

Itsmahoneybaloney · 13/10/2024 21:06

helpme1234 · 13/10/2024 20:34

33 bed about 19:30
Sleep 20:00

Whatt?!?? Why?! That's earlier than my 7 year old.

I'm 39 I go to bed at 11pm and asleep by midnight.

Opentooffers · 13/10/2024 21:05

What's the problem? You are getting plenty of sleep every night by the sounds of it. Do you stay up later on the weekend? I can see how going to bed so early could affect your relationship as you'd never get time just the two of you.
Lol, if your partner is thinking you should survive on less, is he talking from experience of doing as much as you, or does he not pull his weight.

Flopsy145 · 13/10/2024 21:05

31 in bed by 1030, then doom scroll on Instagram until 1130, then up whenever either the baby or toddler gets me up at 630/7. I think when back to work I'll aim to be asleep by 1030

AGrunner · 13/10/2024 21:04

42, 3 kids age 6-11, work 3 days. Usually go to bed at 10ish asleep by 10.30. Wake at 6.45/7am. I need my 8 hours so try and be disciplined. My husband seems to cope on 7 hrs which I’m envious of as often feels like not much evening once kids in bed and stuff round house done.

curlycurlymoo · 13/10/2024 21:04
  1. Asleep by 1030. Awake at 6.
Touloosia · 13/10/2024 21:04
  1. Up at about 10.30, asleep by 11, wake at 7.

If I didn't have to get up my pattern would naturally be bed at about midnight, asleep by 1am. Wake up about 9am.

whowhatwhen · 13/10/2024 21:03

I'm 41, I work full time and have a 5 year old. I go to bed at 9.30 and get up at 5.

Relearningbehaviour · 13/10/2024 21:03
  1. 4 kids between 5 and 11. I got to sleep anytime between 11pm and 1am and probably away for the 2 younger 2 in the night a few times a week. Then up at 6:30in the week as we commute for school run.

I stay up late otherwise I wouldn't see my dh due to his working hours

sagalooshoe · 13/10/2024 21:03

50 yrs
Bed at 11pm - lights off by midnight.
Up at 7.15

usernother · 13/10/2024 21:03

In my 60's. Go to bed at 9 every night. Watch tv for an hour, then lights out. I fall asleep usually some time between 11 and 2. Wake up a few times during the night for the loo. Wake up anytime between 5 and 8. I've always been able to function on little sleep but sometimes I'd like more.

ChishiyaBat · 13/10/2024 21:02

44 and I go to bed midnight-1am ish, asleep straight away, alarm for 9.30 on work days, no alarm if i'm not working. I love my sleep and can sleep 10-12 hours no problem. Feel crappy if I don't have 7-8hours.

robinsrace · 13/10/2024 21:01

26 and usually in bed for 9:30, but will go earlier if I'm able! Up at 6 for breakfast and to walk the dog

Fevertreelover · 13/10/2024 21:01

49, varies from 11-midnight. Up at 8.30.

BitOutOfPractice · 13/10/2024 21:01

57 bed at 10:30. Asleep by 11:30. Up at 6am.

how do you have an evening you 9pm in bed people? I don’t get home till 7pm and i Need some decompression / adult time.

abracadabra1980 · 13/10/2024 21:01

LindorDoubleChoc · 13/10/2024 20:38

Yabu.

Early 60s, no young children (obvs!) I go to bed between 10pm and midnight, most usually around 10.30 to 11.00. I sleep for four hours, awake for two or three hours, and then sleep again for another two or three hours.

This is my sleep pattern, but I don't agree that YABU. Also, I don't have to be up for young kids or work at 9am any more.

mindutopia · 13/10/2024 21:00

That sounds amazing! If my dc were asleep at that time, I definitely would be too.

I’m 43 and go to bed 9:30/10, though usually not asleep before 11pm. My dc are 6 & 11 and unfortunately not asleep before 9:30pm. I don’t get up until 7am though, most days.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 13/10/2024 21:00

43 and about 10 depending on how I feel. I try to go to sleep around 10.30 but it’s normally 11. Get up around 6.45 tues, weds, thurs and 7.30 mon and Fri and about 8 at weekends

bruffin · 13/10/2024 20:59

62 and got to bed between 12 and 1 most nights ,alarm at 5,50 on work days, never been a great sleeper, just to drive my DM mad as a child.

abracadabra1980 · 13/10/2024 20:59

Scottishgirl85 · 13/10/2024 20:38

This is insane, do the majority of people go to bed really early? Gosh I need to make changes!

I'm 39, 3 kids. Bed 11.30, up 5.30/6. I thought 6 hours was normal for busy mums!

Edited

It's a really interesting thread, isn't it? I have often (in the last ten years) wondered why my parents could actually stay up until 11pm without dying of boredom and uncomfortableness!
It's got to be the internet, and the fact we can cosy up in bed, and entertain ourselves way more than they could in bed, (no pun intended) as in my day, dad retired to bed after 'the 10 o'clock news'.