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How old are you and what time do you go to bed?

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defoneedanamechange · 13/10/2024 20:30

For context: I'm 36, mum of three (youngest is 2.5), work four days a week.

Im also someone who needs a lot of sleep.

So... introductions over. I'm in bed for 8/8.30 and asleep 8.30-9 every night. I then get up at 5.30/6 with my toddler.

Aibu to ask your age and when you go to sleep?

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HellsBells67 · 13/10/2024 21:35

Am stunned there are so many going to bed at 7.30! I'm waiting for curtain up at the theatre at that time, or having a catch up on the phone with my mum. It seems so early. Then again, I am a night owl and just not tired until 1 or 2 am.

FlyingPandas · 13/10/2024 21:34

I'm another one amazed at all the people going to bed so early!

I'm early 50s
Try to be in bed by 10.30 but it's usually nearer 11 and sometimes later and quite common to be up at midnight at weekends.
Need to be up by 6.15 on weekdays, 7 at weekends (DC usually have early sports commitments both days)

I do think that if you are child-free, or are empty nesters, you are more likely to go to bed early because you get more free time perhaps? I definitely go to bed later now my DC are older. By the time we've done dinner and I've encouraged chivvied/nagged them to get homework done/get off their phones/pack school bags/have a shower/go to bed it's usually quite late (DC are 14 and 11). So often I feel my own evening downtime doesn't actually start until 10pm.

Evaka · 13/10/2024 21:34
  1. In autumn/winter, around 10. In summer, 11.30/12.
Wexone · 13/10/2024 21:33

41 pre covid when was in the office every day had to be up at 5am. so bed at 9 was often asleep on sofa at 8. now after covid with the blessing of working from home bed about 10pm sleep by 11pm and alarm goes half 7

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ChewbaccasMrs · 13/10/2024 21:31

49 and my sleep pattern has been horrendous for years,I usually go up between 10 and 11 but would never fall asleep till about 2 in the morning.

Last night a miracle happened for me and I was asleep before midnight and slept well,hoping it's the way forward from now on.

Allthegoodusernamesareused · 13/10/2024 21:31

I'm a 47 year old shift worker; I'd love a regular bed time! In reality, anywhere between 8.30pm and 8am is bedtime.

Tallulahbelle1038 · 13/10/2024 21:31

34, DD 4. Anywhere between 8.30 and 9.30 may watch or read something. Up at 6-6.30 dependent on work days. Weekends hopefully up about 7-7.30 and may go to bed on a Fri/sat about 10pm! Always try and prioritise sleep as never know when DD will decide it’s morning!!!

Silvers11 · 13/10/2024 21:30

71 and go to bed anytime between midnight and 2pm. Usually fall asleep within 20 minutes or so - but don't get up until around 9.30 or 10.30 depending when we went to bed!!

Slothfully · 13/10/2024 21:28

Oblomov24 · 13/10/2024 20:53

This thread is odd. The normal time for most adults should be approx 10pm. 8 hours is the optimum so 11pm - 7am is reasonable.

I myself often go early, pre 9pm, sometimes 8pm if very tired, but I am diabetic and have always needed a lot of sleep. But this is not the norm, and the difference is I know that.

Who are you to dictate what time people should turn in for the night and what is the norm?

DelphiniumBlue · 13/10/2024 21:28

I’m mid sixties, still working, so I get up at 6:45 on schooldays. I try to be in bed by 11:30 but quite often don’t make that target, although I like to have 8 hours sleep. So I m frequently tired. I also wake up a lot in the night, so it’s sometimes only about 4-5 hours, which isn’t great.

DoubleYolker · 13/10/2024 21:26

I’m fascinated by these answers. I had no idea people went to bed so early. I think I’ve always been a night owl.

I’m 49, kids 14 & 11. Bed usually around 11-11:30, usually asleep by midnight, up at 7:30. Sleep later and wake later at weekends.

Beezknees · 13/10/2024 21:25

I am 34, always asleep before 11pm. Get up between 6.30-7.

tinymoon · 13/10/2024 21:24

In my 40s, two young kids. 9pm on a weekday, about 10.30 at the weekend unless I’m really tired. 11pm occasionally, but that feels really late.
I am surprised by the 8pm/8.30pm ones! I thought I was early.

Alittlebitwary · 13/10/2024 21:24

37, with 2 kids age 5 and under. I work 4 days a week and usually go to bed around 10 ish and asleep by 11, up about 6.30am. some nights I scroll til much later. I'm ALWAYS tired. But...

I'd love to go to bed at 8.30/9 but my kids go down about 7.30, so then once I've had tea, when do I do the washing / make my lunch for work / have a shower / do the bags / do life admin / have any down time?? Honestly my mornings are always a rush and I get a half hour lunch break so genuinely... How are people getting to bed so early??

Annettecurtaintwitcher · 13/10/2024 21:24

45, go to bed at 11 and read for half an hour, up at 6.30/7. I had no idea people went to bed so early! How is this even possible? My six year old doesn’t go to bed until at least nine.

Eyesopenwideawake · 13/10/2024 21:23

61 - normally in bed by 10.30, asleep by 11.

Up at 6.30 (but I do siesta for 1.5hrs most afternoons).

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 13/10/2024 21:22

Shower and bed 9pm- scrolling/reading until 10pm asleep 11pm.
Up 6/7am weekdays. 8am on weekends.

CustardySergeant · 13/10/2024 21:20

I'm 70 and go to bed about 2 am.

Vettrianofan · 13/10/2024 21:20

In my 40s, around 8/9pm.

housemaus · 13/10/2024 21:20

I'm 34 - usually midnight, ish.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 13/10/2024 21:19

51
My sleep since peri hit can be variable but Ive been really prioritising down time and getting as much sleep as possible the last few years.
i head up 9ish most nights.
Potter and tidy my room a bit.
shower
and then bed with lights out by 10 at the latest Sunday to Thursday.
weekends I tend to stay up later but generally 10.30 is about as long as I can last unless it's a proper occasion 😂😂
I wake usually before my alarm goes off at 6.40
Weekends I doze as long as I can but generally am awake by 9 at the latest

thenightsky · 13/10/2024 21:18

I'm 65 and DH is 70. We go to bed about 11pm and read phone/youtube/audible books till after midnight. He gets up about 7am and I wake about 8am and listen to audible books for an hour before getting up at 9am.

Warmroomed · 13/10/2024 21:18

I'm 39, asleep by 10.30pm without fail.

Up at 6am.

AnnaKing81 · 13/10/2024 21:18

43, aim to be asleep by 10.30pm.
Work alarm 5.30.
Days off x2, lye in until 7.30

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