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How old are you and what time do you go to bed?

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defoneedanamechange · 13/10/2024 20:30

For context: I'm 36, mum of three (youngest is 2.5), work four days a week.

Im also someone who needs a lot of sleep.

So... introductions over. I'm in bed for 8/8.30 and asleep 8.30-9 every night. I then get up at 5.30/6 with my toddler.

Aibu to ask your age and when you go to sleep?

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RampantIvy · 13/10/2024 21:49

OneTooFree · 13/10/2024 21:47

It depends on what time the person has to be up the next morning for work and their age.
For example, my husband is 60 and he has to be up at 04.00 for work, so he goes to bed at around 20.15 on a week night. He has a read for 30 mins or so then goes to sleep.
His life is far from empty.

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A lot of the very early to bed posters aren't getting up that early though. It isn't usual to need the amount of sleep some of them are getting.

OneTooFree · 13/10/2024 21:47

Serendipitousnight · 13/10/2024 21:35

Do you all go to bed so early because your life is empty and the evenings a nothing?

never heard of such early sleepers. 8pm? That’s dinner time

It depends on what time the person has to be up the next morning for work and their age.
For example, my husband is 60 and he has to be up at 04.00 for work, so he goes to bed at around 20.15 on a week night. He has a read for 30 mins or so then goes to sleep.
His life is far from empty.

Lolaandbehold · 13/10/2024 21:47

Of a weeknight I aim to be in bed at 10, light off 10.30 (rare), asleep by 11, up at 7.

workingmumguilt · 13/10/2024 21:45

39 with two primary school aged kids. I go to bed 9-9.30 and asleep by 10. Up at 6.

DH is a night owl. He’s often up until midnight or 1am. But then he struggles to get up to help with school mornings. He does do stuff to help around the house/life admin when I’ve gone to bed. And when we had babies he did the last bottle feed so I got a good chunk of sleep.

sometimes we get frustrated with each others body clocks but other times it can help.

CalliopePlantain · 13/10/2024 21:44
  1. In bed at 9. Asleep anytime between 10-1am
okydokethen · 13/10/2024 21:44

10.30-11 fall asleep pretty easily
Alarm for 6.15am, often lay in bed longer tired.

nOasistickets · 13/10/2024 21:43

39, bed at about 12.30/1am - sometimes later. Up at 7am. 2 kids.

Wishihadanalgorithm · 13/10/2024 21:43

I am 51. Go to bed anytime between 10..00pm and 11.30pm. Usually read a little then up between 6.00am and 6.15am.

Waffle19 · 13/10/2024 21:42

My ideal bedtime would be more like 11 but my 1yo just doesn’t sleep well at all so if I don’t go to bed early I just can’t function

CustardySergeant · 13/10/2024 21:42

Silvers11 · 13/10/2024 21:30

71 and go to bed anytime between midnight and 2pm. Usually fall asleep within 20 minutes or so - but don't get up until around 9.30 or 10.30 depending when we went to bed!!

Did you mean 2am?

romany4 · 13/10/2024 21:41
  1. Around 11pm usually but I wake up several times in the night thanks to menopause
wastingtimeonhere · 13/10/2024 21:41

I guess it also depends on your day. Work, sport ( 3 nights a week), dog walking and activities, household stuff, I'm knackered by 10.

Sallyingon · 13/10/2024 21:41

50,.go up at 10pm usually,get up about 7.30

OneTooFree · 13/10/2024 21:41

62 and anywhere between midnight and 04.00.

ManchesterLu · 13/10/2024 21:40

34, go to bed at 1am (and then read in bed for a while), get up late morning. I wfh and don't have children so I can create the schedule that works best for me.

Growlybear83 · 13/10/2024 21:40

Oblomov24 · 13/10/2024 20:53

This thread is odd. The normal time for most adults should be approx 10pm. 8 hours is the optimum so 11pm - 7am is reasonable.

I myself often go early, pre 9pm, sometimes 8pm if very tired, but I am diabetic and have always needed a lot of sleep. But this is not the norm, and the difference is I know that.

I agree that this thread is odd but because I'm surprised at the number of people who go to bed when I'm just sitting down to eat my dinner! 😆😆. I don't agree that the normal time for most adults to go to bed should be 10 - that's ridiculously early for many people, and I really don't think most people need eight hours or more sleep every night. I've gone to bed at about 1am for the last 50 years and the only difference is that now I'm only working part time, I no longer have to be up at 7, and sleep for an hour or so longer.

Waffle19 · 13/10/2024 21:39

36 and like to be in bed no later than 9.30 though rarely asleep before 10.30, something I regret every single morning when my youngest wakes up at 5.30

YouFoundMe · 13/10/2024 21:39

28 with a 6 month old.

She sleeps at 8.30 so I go to bed at the same time but I'll sleep around 10 (and make a bottle ready for when she wakes at 11.30!)

LurkingFromTheShadows · 13/10/2024 21:39

35, two young children, one not yet sleeping through. Bed at 2230/2300. Up at 630 during the week. I need more usually than 7.5 hours of broken sleep but I also need that evening downtime once the kids are sleeping...

RampantIvy · 13/10/2024 21:37

I'm in bed for 8/8.30 and asleep 8.30-9 every night.

@defoneedanamechange That's very unusual. Do you think you could be anaemic?

I'm 65, still working and go to bed between 10.30 and 11.30. Up at 7 on days I WFH and 6 on office days.

wastingtimeonhere · 13/10/2024 21:37

wastingtimeonhere · 13/10/2024 21:36

In bed 9ish, watch tv or read mn until tired, usually 10-11. Up 2-3 times a night thanks to menopause and up 5.45-6.30 depending on work shift.

58 yrs!

wastingtimeonhere · 13/10/2024 21:36

In bed 9ish, watch tv or read mn until tired, usually 10-11. Up 2-3 times a night thanks to menopause and up 5.45-6.30 depending on work shift.

mamaduckbone · 13/10/2024 21:36

49 with one teen at home - usually in bed around 10-10.30 during the week although I struggle with that as I'm a natural night owl. My alarm goes off at 6.15am.
At the weekend or on holiday it will be more like 11 - midnight and awake naturally at 7.30-8.
I'm surprised at how many people go to bed really early.

User1836484645R · 13/10/2024 21:36

Fifty. Usually around now, but have just got from an evening out so don’t feel like going up just now.

I’m usually up at 5 during the week so I need to go to bed early.

Serendipitousnight · 13/10/2024 21:35

Do you all go to bed so early because your life is empty and the evenings a nothing?

never heard of such early sleepers. 8pm? That’s dinner time