To think I did NOT give them a “present” of horrible wine!

Its a joke once, after that, unless you are continuing it yourself and both parties see the funny side, it then becomes annoying. You have tried to do a nice thing and been mocked for it. some people just don't know when to shut up, do they and being told "you know that is just how he is" still doesn't make it acceptable.

I love flowers but I react badly to some, i.e. Cala Lilies and someone delivered an amazing bunch to me. They looked amazing but I started reacting within an hour and I felt foul, I put them in another room but it was no better. I gave them to an old lady over the road after checking she wasn't similarly afflicted and she enjoyed them so we were happy they had not gone to waste. I would have laughed if she made some joke about me trying to kill her off once, but if it had continued, I would have been annoyed - so similar sort of thing really.

Sometimes, we have to educate our parents.
This is not easy, and requires a light touch.
You'll understand their feelings when your children start to do it to you.
It's even more challenging when your grandchildren do it to you.

For Christmas or his birthday gift him the cheapest, nastiest BOXED wine you can think of. When he sulks, go on and on and on and on and on about how HE can't take a joke.

Think it's for the benefit of common people. If you say dessert wine, they'd think it was made in the Sahara?

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I'm not saying you're right or wrong, I'm just telling you how I would feel in the situation you described

Laughing for days over the same joke repeatedly several times a day?!

Now that, is amusing

That kind of situation is not meant as a joke, when things are mentioned over and over again in this way, its an attempt to belittle someone, especially when they mention it in front of others hoping to make them laugh and simultaneously humiliate the person. Because you’re not aware of that it doesn’t mean the OP is at fault.

I find these reactions surprising.
Dad made a silly joke, then repeated it ad nauseam.
Why didn't you just ignore him or make a better joke back? Easily done!

So you can't accept that people have different senses of humour then? If they don't find you funny they must be humourless? You sound like OP's dad.

I don't want to be that person, but... it actually does sound like you can't take a joke. That sort of situation and that same joke would have me and my friends laughing for days.

You could try, 'So you really liked it, Dad? I've got a few bottles left...'

This is how it is in my family too. With anything like this, my mum gets it and my dad very much does not (or pretends not to). As kids we had it drilled into us that the important thing is to keep the peace and not upset him. I say good for you for telling him off! I do that with my dad too now when he's being awful, and so does my sister. There comes a point when keeping the peace is not actually worth it for your own sanity and/or self-worth.

Never cook with wine that you wouldn’t drink. (Missed point of thread entirely) 😉

Much worse behaviour

I can't get over how in lots of threads, perceived poor behaviour is reciprocated with much wiser behaviour!
Could you not just have said ' It's not funny dad'??!!

Sounds like my Dad too. You have my full sympathy. My Mum isn't around to keep him in line anymore so he's much worse.

I was given a horrible bottle of wine once. It got poured down the sink, but I wouldn't have gone on about it like your dad did though.
It's not nice when you receive something that's not nice or suitable.

Tokai is a dessert wine, not a table wine.
I does not taste anything like Chardonnay or Pinot Grigio, any more than Guinness tastes like Coca-Cola.
Your Dad showed himself to be a complete ignoramus, comparable to an American in Paris ordering his Steak Tartare to be cooked medium-rare.
His treatment of you is despicable. 😫

I spent much of my life involved in wine - in fact wrote the first advertising for the World Atlas of Wine over 50 years ago.

And as Cora knows Tokaji - Tokay as it was called then - is a sweet dessert wine from Hungary that was very popular in Victorian times.

So it's perfectly possible that her family, used to the far dryer wines drunk now just thought it wasn't any good. How sad that their manners match their ignorance about wine.

My exH was like that. I don’t know how I lasted all those years. So many “jokes” which were just mean and mean-spirited then a “you can’t take it what’s your problem”. Your mum is a saint or very thick-skinned. I worry about my kids around him now tbh although they fight back. Don’t know what to advise really other than to say I’m there with you. X

You can be upset and/or annoyed without being offended.

Some people have a high tolerance for such behaviour and many of us would be annoyed with someone like this because there is no need or reason to constantly bring it up for an entire weekend.

It’s great you have a high tolerance for such behaviour, but many people don’t and that is ok.