To think I did NOT give them a “present” of horrible wine!

I know I'm late to this one but it's just popped up on Bored Panda and I just had to comment. I can't believe all of the people saying "I'd be a bit upset if someone gave me a gift of something they didn't like"

Like, how many times in your post did you have to specify that IT WASN'T A BLOODY GIFT!! And again repeating it in your comments and people still can't seem to grasp that fact.

You found something that you'd heard great reviews about, something that's usually quite expensive but there was a great discount so you bought two of them, for yourself. However, you didn't like it. And so instead of dumping both bottles out you instead thought "oh, my parents like wine, I'll see if this is to their liking before wasting it all" and that's what you did. And it turned out they also didn't like it, but your Mum still could make use of it with her cooking. That's literally the story. Completely straight forward. Why do people keep clinging onto the "gift" part? It wasn't a gift, you repeatedly said it wasn't a gift. You just figured you'd see if they liked it before throwing it out.

Jesus Christ.

And people saying "if this is all you have to complain about you should count yourself lucky" oh bugger off, every is entitled to a moan, especially when they've heard about it none stop over a whole weekend. Just either read the rant and move on, or don't. Noone likes a smartarse.

Yanbu. I do this all the time with family "I got this, but I'm not keen so you can give it a go if you like". Waste not, want not and all that.

But it isn't bad form. I don't like Spanish red wines, so don't drink them myself. But I know millions of people DO like them, so it wouldn't be at all unreasonable for me to give a bottle to a friend or family member. Or say "I got this in a wine case and it's not my taste, would you like to try it".

The OP's father has acted very oddly and needs to learn a sense of proportion!

My parents like it, too. It's far from fine wine, though.

My family actually like Echo Falls and wouldn't be remotely upset if I bought them it whrn going for a meal. We would probably enjoy it more than an expensive prosecco or champagne.

This is true in a sense, but I'd have been the same, naive/honest thinking I was in safe family company and said the same, my partner hates some of the drinks i like and visa versa, yes lol maybe we need to learn to be more crafty! Lol

Oh yes, he sounds annoying, I'd probs blow my top too x

Royal Tokaj is a well respected and relatively expensive wine (though with an unusual taste profile). The jokes were not just rude, they were ignorant :)

I wouldn't take someone else wine I did not like - I might have to drink it! - but your DF did go on a bit. If he is like that all the time it must be very wearing. Your poor DM!

I’m sorry op. The rest of my post got lost, I am very sympathetic to you and your Dad was bang out of order.
I hope you can just avoid them in future, life’s too short for spending time with people bringing you down.

There’s a brilliant film called ,Dean Spanley’ with Peter o Toole which all about the magic powers of tojaki. I love it, the film, not tried the drink, it is an esteemed imperial wine of Eastern Europe but of course a dessert wine not a table wine. You should watch it it will cheer you up no end.
Set in Edwardian London, the film tells the story of the relationship between Horatio Fisk (O'Toole), and his son Henslowe (played by Jeremy Northam). Henslowe meets an eccentric clergyman Dean Spanley (Sam Neill) who, it turns out, enters an altered state whenever he has a glass of Tokaji.
perhaps that is what has happened with your father. And you can keep telling the joke.

This sort of thing is so common. You would think adults, especially at her age, would grow up a bit, but they seldom do! I’d just ask her why she feels the need to keep bringing it up and to please change the record. Or bring something embarrassing up about her. I bet she will get the hump because these types of people don’t like their faults to be remembered and referred to, they have fragile egos hence they just take the piss out of everybody else.

Still, if something from 40 years ago is the only thing she has to say about you, I guess that’s a positive as that means she can’t think of anything else you’ve done that she can use as a stick to beat you with so has to keep bringing the same thing up perpetually.

Teanbiscuits33 You may be right.... I think I feel unable to say anything about it because she was in fact my head of department in my first job and that sense I must always show her respect has never left me!

She's in her 90s now so I have definitely missed the moment!

She does it BECAUSE she knows it makes you uncomfortable, it’s only a joke if both find it funny. She is doing it intentionally to bring you down a peg or two. Maybe she feels threatened by you in some way. She doesn’t sound like a friend if she is still bringing something up from 40 years ago. Sounds like she needs to get a life.

You have my sympathy OP. This kind of dynamic is exactly why I avoid certain family members as much as possible.

I also have a very old friend who likes to retell a story about a foolish (but harmless) mistake I made 40 years ago when I was in my 20s - she never seems to notice how uncomfortable it makes me feel and I wish she wouldn't do it, but she does every single time

😂😂😂Brilliant! 👏

I really don't think the size of the glass is relevant - OP just didn't like the taste. (And yes, several people have already pointed out on this thread that it's a Hungarian dessert/pudding wine which would normally be served in a 100ml glass.)

No I think he (obviously) wanted to shame and humiliate his daughter. Which is what she felt. Only on mumsnet are adult males not held to account for shitty behavior—as long as they are parents—

Not nice behaviour IMO. Everyone has different tastes in wine, it’s rude to keep on and make you feel bad. My SIL bought wine to ours (they don’t drink wine, it was obviously something they’d been given years previously) it was off and tasted disgusting, you could tell by the colour let alone the smell!!! I just quietly poured it down the sink and got a different one. I would never have embarrassed them. Why would anyone do that? A joke is only funny if the person on the receiving end laughs too. Take gin next time!

Does that matter??? She can enjoy it anyway she likes but that was not the question being raised by the OP.

THIS! Behavior of this sort is a typical male gaslighting power grab, not a misguided and innocent mistake. The fact that he does it over and over again makes it very clear. I'm stunned by the number of people that excuse this behavior and then in the next breath complain about men being dicks. Men have gotten away with this bs for ages, and some women always try to make excuses for it. MEN SHOULD BE HELD TO THE SAME STANDARD FOR BEHAVIOR THAT WOMEN ARE. I agree that LAMPS1 maybe just hasn't experienced this type of negative behavior before, but it definitely exists and it definitely sounds like what OP's father is doing.

I’d laugh out of politeness but internally I’d be rolling my eyes hoping the “joke” would pass.

Have someone pointed out that you are not supposed to enjoy large glasses of Tokaj?