To announce pregnancy at birthday party

It is very cringe so I stand by my comment.

There’s some horrible people on here who must just take pleasure in making people feel like shit.
They also completely ignore the fact of your emotional fertility journey and undoubtedly raging 1st trimester hormones.

Congratulations on your pregnancy - what an exciting & amazing journey you’re about to go on.

I can imagine the type of mother you have and her excitement for you. I think it would be amazing on the day of her party before it begins, to maybe give her some kind of present that includes a scan picture.
She can then decide if she shares that news at her party - and I imagine she totally will want to 😊

hope it goes well! Take extra care of yourself during pregnancy.
And a word of advice is to avoid posting on MN during this time. Your mental wellbeing is just as important 😊 💐 xxx

It's up to your mum

Why would you. Rude and selfish and entitled.

Why the passive aggressive "pick up the phone," people always say this when someone can't be bothered to text or get in touch at all, but OP will be physically seeing her DM soon so how does this even apply?
Why are people so obsessed with using weird, rote bits of hackneyed speech like this? And "cringe" - how old are you?

My mum would love it, but I can see not everyone would.

good idea @Fraaahnces.

Why don't you show up early and give her a wee present with some baby booties or a baby grow or something and let HER announce it if she wants?

What would your mum think, OP? I told various relatives I was pregnant with DC2 at my mums birthday - she'd known a few weeks, but it was the only time I was going to see my siblings/grandparents/aunts etc for a while and it meant I could tell them in person - which my mum was perfectly happy for me to do (and actually suggested). I didn't 'announce' it though, just mentioned it in conversation. And it 100% didn't take anything away from my mums celebration... because we're all adults.

I'd be delighted if I was your mum, but you know your mum so should judge it.

If my children have children in the future, I hope they would tell me, as their mum, before telling more distant relatives who are less close to at a party. I wouldn't see it as taking attention from me if they did it, it's just that I'd want time to speak to them about it without everyone else around.

No, don't do that.

Oh yes indeed they will.

My upset friend whom I mentioned was very aware of this, and felt her guests had questions about the quality of her relationship with her DD.

It's very poor form.

Speaking as an older woman coming up to a significant birthday who would be delighted to hear of a grandchild on the way regardless of the occasion...

But I have friends who would not look kindly on (1) the hijacking of a party, or (2) being told along with every Tom, Dick, and Harry at the party.

I have one friend in particular who was quite upset that she was told along with everyone else as she felt it was a reflection on the relationship she had with her daughter, which she had thought was great up to the day of the public announcement.

Gosh if one of my kids announced a pregnancy at my birthday party, I'd be over the moon and declare it the best birthday present ever!!
It's only ever on MN that I get the vibe that grand kids are an inconvenience and generally an underwhelming experience. Everyone I know in real life finds their grand kids the best thing ever!

But just in case your mum is one of those "I should've found out first" types, I think telling her before the party is a great idea, then she'll probably excitedly announce it herself at the party!

GENERALLY I'd say it's taking the limelight. but maybe before or after give her a card with something like a scan picture, or a photo of the pregnancy test or something. she would be delighted. but I still don't think the limelight should be publically taken off her at the birthday celebration.

Tell her privately that your "big" gift to her is a new grandchild, and let HER announce it if she wants to do so. If she does not, then wait. NEVER upstage the person for whom a celebration is being given.

Ah, make it a special private moment with you and your Mum first. If she's OK with it go on ti announce it at the party. Just speak to her before doing so.

Put a scan photo in her card & tell her to open it infront of everyone she will announce it for you x

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm sure your mum will be thrilled and excited for another grandchild ☺️ I would tell her a couple of days before the party or afterwards - let her big day be all about her and show her how much you appreciate her!

Really poor taste

Even if your mum is happy, if I was a guest I would think very badly of you and sorry for her. It completely changes the tone of the party. If you think your mum deserves celebrating then celebrate her and leave your own news out of it.

I would tell her before the party and then let her tell people at the party if that is what she wants. Then it is her choice, not something that is being forced upon her

Just no. Its the one time that it's about your mum. It's not a time to make it about you

Wowsers, she has a great grandchild, and you're having your first?

That's an interesting family make up!

Your niece's children being older than yours.

The youngest your mother is presumably can be is 65? But asita a "milestone " 70?

How old are you?

Let her birthday be about her.
You could discuss it with her beforehand and see how she feels about announcing it at her party.

It would be very poor form to announce on her milestone birthday. I would be seriously pissed if I was your DM. Keep quiet and announce later on.

Not your birthday don’t make it about you