To announce pregnancy at birthday party

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Tell your mum beforehand.

I think it’s lovely! My dbro and his girlfriend did this by putting the scan in a card. It was the best birthday pressie for my mum. She loved it

What do you mean announce it. Like stop the music grab the mic and make a speech infront of like a 100 people. I hate to break it to you but apart from you and your immediate family nobody gives a 💩

Seriously some of these answers are so sad

What does "announce" mean? I mean, are you thinking of jingling a fork against your wine glass and asking for a hushed silence so you can ANNOUNCE your big news? Or do you just mean that you will share the news if anyone asks what's going on in your life recently?

The first is obviously a bit cringy in any circumstances; the latter is perfectly normal, whether you are at a birthday or not.

I'm quietly rolling my eyes at all the "It will take the focus away from YOUR MUM'S BIRTHDAY" stuff. The person with the birthday is not a 10yo, but an older woman who has had plenty of birthdays. By this point in life, most of us just think of a birthday party as an excuse to hold a get-together with friends, and it's as much about the friends' as it is about the person whose birthday it is.

You don't need to announce anything, see Meghan M and Princess Eugenie

Lovely news for you but not an upstaging situation

RUDE.
You may need to tell her in advance so she doesn't ask why you aren't drinking at her party.

Then she might invite you to announce it then, or she might not. Her call.

Tell her the day before as an "early birthday gift."

If she wants to broadcast it during her party, no problem.

If it was my daughter I would be delighted and so excited for her. If you have a good relationship and she will be pleased why not. Maybe give her the heads up before but I would be so excited to tell everyone xx

Absolutely NOT

Tell her beforehand or afterwards

I can't imagine making an announcement. But then i hate being the centre of attention - and it's your Mum's day to be that. Just let it come out when people notice you're not drinking. Or if you must have an announcement do it the next day.

@265IceCream it reeks of OP making the day about her.

Also, I suspect she's the type of person who does a lot for everyone, so the day should definitely revolve around her and her alone.

Don’t announce it, just tell her, and definitely not at the party. Her party isn’t your showboat moment.

”Announcements” are look-at-me attention-seeking nonsense. You don’t need applause, you’re a grown woman. Just tell people. Or put it in the family WhatsApp, or whatever.

@itwasnevermine I can see why an 18 year old would hate it. But for a grandma (at least a normal, loving grandma) it would be a wonderful birthday gift. It's not just a new baby for OP but a new grandchild for her mother and she will be delighted.

Tell her privately.

It’s her birthday party, it isn’t about you, however lovely your news. And who ‘announces’ pregnancies in this way? Surely you tell your closest people privately and anyone else when relevant, and leave it at that.

Absolutely not! the birthday party is your mums big day! why do you want to steal that away from her just so you can be the centre of attention?

Congratulations but honestly, i would keep your little secret a bit longer.

I would be delighted to receive such lovely news at my birthday party. I don't know whether OP's mum would feel the same so OP probably should tell her beforehand and ask whether it would be OK to announce her pregnancy at the party.

YABU. I'm sure she'll be thrilled but let this special day be all about HER.
She's not only defined by her role as a mother/grandmother/great grandmother.
And congratulations!

A bigger toast about her mum, where she announces to everyone that she is pregnant?

That will dwarf anything else she says about her mum so will actually make the speech about her and her partner and their news.

I'd say please don't but on the other hand, you can announce it as some sort of special birthday gift to your mum ('Hey you'll be a grandma again!' type of thing as opposed to it being about you and your dh's journey) only if you know she'd be ecstatic and won't mind.

(Mine certainly wouldn't mind and would think it's the best birthday ever for the news - I'm the same but I wouldn't announce it if I wasn't sure).

Also if it has to be about you and dh, then don't announce and just tell her and others at a more appropriate time.

When you say announce, what do you mean? Like, stand up and make a speech to the entire room about how you're pregnant? Or tell people individually as part of a conversation? The former is insane, the latter is fine IMO.

People here are so weird. Of course tell her when you get there, if she's like my mum it will be the best birthday present ever. Although I wouldn't make an "announcement" to the whole room, but tell people as I chat to them.

I actually think it is a really lovely idea and would make it very special for her - congratulations BTW

Christ no. A party isn't the place to announce to everyone you've been shagging unprotected. Tell your mum afterwards.