To announce pregnancy at birthday party

This. Could you put scan pic in her birthday card maybe. If she is as maternal and grandmotherly as you say then am sure that would be a lovely gift.
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I would love that if It were me

Surely many grandmothers are thrilled to find out that they are going to be a grandparent, regardless of how many grandchildren they already have.

@Humphreyshead I think it's pathetic that women are having their identities reduced down to mother and grandmother. By default her own existence is being erased because she's moved into another role - she must be happy to be grandma again.

OP can wait, or tell her before the party. But to make a grand announcement at the party just shows she's juvenile and needs all attention to be on her.

Your mum is likely to be hurt that you have not told her so it might to ruin her birthday. Imo the 12 week is not for nearest and dearest, its only for those you would not want to know /explain things to if you had a miscarriage - surely that doesn't include your mum or other close family! If it was your mum I'd be really upset.

@hughiedoesntfight its just as she said ‘announce’ so thought that’s the sort of thing she had in mind. I was suggesting that, rather than ‘everyone, we’ve got some news we’d like to share!’ I don’t think the news would dwarf it at all. Something like ‘An amazing mother, grandmother to 3 wonderful grandchildren- soon to be 4!’ I think that would be fine, it’s not a competition. If my own daughter did this in the future I’d be over the moon, best birthday surprise. I wouldn’t for one second be thinking she’d taken my spotlight.

I agree tell her before. It's not fair to steal the focus at her party.

I don’t get what you’re saying? Are you agreeing with me? Or not?

I think it is childish that a grown up would be upset because their birthday hasn’t been all about them for the whole day with people fawning over them and no one else. It’s pathetic.

Very poor form.

YABU and really, it’s quite self-centred to even contemplate doing this

Poor form (and I'm a Grandma too). It's her day. Tell her and other close relations/friends beforehand.

Congratulations.

I was at a funeral where the daughter of the deceased announced her pregnancy. It was not well received by the rest of the family.

YABU. I know my mum wouldn’t mind but equally, I wouldn’t put her in that position. It’s lovely news and huge congrats but no need for a formal huge announcement. Just tell the appropriate people at the right time.

My DH's friend announced her pregnancy to the friendship group at our wedding. His brother and sister in law made a big show of special t shirts last Christmas to announce their pregnancy (to 4 people). I don't really understand the need to make a big display, couldn't you just tell people without it needing to be so dramatic?

I fully appreciate that when it has taken much longer than expected you are beyond thrilled (we had IVF in the end), it just feels very "modern / social media-y" to make big public announcements like this .

Don't be daft.

The announcement is about the parents. Not the grandparents. It's announcing that the Op is pregnant. The mum is becoming a grandmother (again) be default.

A pregnancy announcement is about the couple. Not extended family.

Delighted there’s a baby? Sure.
I think ‘announcing’ a pregnancy (as opposed to telling your nearest and dearest straight away and others as it becomes relevant) is OTT anyway, but at someine’s pe isl event it becomes a dick move (even if they are pleased by the news/don’t mind).

Maybe you could organise a little get together after the birthday to announce you are pregnant.
Congratulations btw.

@Humphreyshead it's equally childish and selfish to think that a woman who has had her identity reduced down to being a grandmother might want one day about her, rather than her children and their children?

I definitely wouldn't talk about her negatively if it were me but other people are weird anyway.

This

Don’t announce it, everyone will be embarrassed for you.

This is what I’m thinking. I’m actually pretty surprised at how people are reacting to this.

It’s very childish of someone to feel upstaged or thunder stolen by becoming a grandmother

100% agree.

Exactly.

Women, mothers and grandmothers especially, are expected to give themselves to everyone all the time. She's probably looking forward to a day about her.

I wouldn't purely because even if your Mum is thrilled and doesn't mind, other people at the party are likely to be a bit wtf? And will talk about you in a negative manner.

I suspect a lot of the replies here are from younger folk, rather than the grannies.

Bugger that, @AuldSpookySewers ! I’d be the grandmother and no, I don’t want my 60th or 70th to be about my latest grandchild.

I love my children to bits. But they’ve come first in 90% of things in my life since they were born.

I would like to have my birthday party with my friends and family without it being about my youngest’s pregnancy.

I can be just as thrilled the day before or after.

To announce you are pregnant on an occasion or during an event that is meant to be all about somebody else, is a bit of a 'Meghan Markle' move tbh -