To wonder why the doctor seemed so angry with me?

@Welshey do you look like you are aged 18? I tended to find till I was almost 40 people treated me as though I was a teenager. So quite probably think you've been out for a party on Saturday night.

Now I'm over 60 reverse issue, ticket inspector didn't think I was old enough for a senior railcard (which you can get at 60) . Despite looking like my photo (according to my friend) I was still asked 'is that you?' and 'are you sure you are really over 60' (surely they KNOW you have to provide proof of age when you apply?)

You are absolutely right, it is good to be kind. We have a professional here that is seeing a patient with a high heart rate, that patient is probably extremely worried about her health and this professional is being snappy and rude with no sign of "being kind" to a concerned patient. " being kind" works both ways.
Everything has to have an excuse these days "oh she must have been at the end of her shift" " maybe a family member died" or maybe the real reason is she is just downright plain old rude.

My ex was a GP and a nasty piece of work. Always condescending, arrogant and moaning about work. I can only imagine what he was like to his patients! Not all doctors or course, most I have met are lovely. Sorry you had a bad experience 💐

Some of us are a teensy bit on the autistic side; and wouldn't have "mixed" with people even given five years to do it. The medical course if full of stuff about how to be nice these days, anyway.

I got told off by the GP recently for a problem I've not made an appointment about for some time. I'm quite aware it can be mistaken for cancer but I kept trying to reiterate it couldn't possibly be anything serious, which she seemed to find very annoying! Referred immediately and phoned by the consultant the next day, bit embarrassing wasting their time really!

I had this some years ago when I was young(er) and had a really bad SVT session, so I went to my mother's GP for help.
I had been staying in a wood close to her on a protest site, and looked like it.
The doctor refused to believe that I hadn't been taking drugs. It added to my stress levels and I couldn't convince him.
I think he medicated me in the end, but his manner was awful. Doctors aren't supposed to be that judgemental.
(As it turned out, later on, woodsmoke is one of my many SVT triggers)

There are always posters who try and excuse brusque treatment and rudeness from medical professionals as something we should have to put up with because you know, NHS.

Hardly think the shortage of doctors is because they’re expected to be polite to patients.

Very upsetting, but as others have said, some doctors ( particularly hospital ones) have absolutely no bedside manners AT ALL. Happens to most of us at some time or another.

Worst one for me was Christmas Day in 2018. 89 year old Mother was very not right and had been so for a few weeks. But nothing obvious - just very, very tired and no energy. She felt too unwell to come to our Christmas Lunch, but when we turned up at her house, she had come out in a horrible oozing rash all over her legs. Called an Ambulance and they said she needed to go to Hospital. Fair enough. She was seen in A & E and then they kept her in. Saw a horrible Doctor early evening. First thing she said was 'Why is your Mother here?' in a really accusatory tone. Like WTF? The ambulance people AND A&E staff all think she needs to be admitted because of the rash? - she didn't even know that she HAD a rash.

Guess she was annoyed at having to be on duty on Christmas Night, but her attitude was appalling. Turned out my Mother had pneumonia and it had been grumbling away for some time in all probability. The rash was oedema

😂sorry but I could have used the same words about an interaction earlier this year

the dr that behaved like yours with me has been consistently unpleasant over a number of apps tho so I think it’s just her personality 😂

I think we forget drs are just ordinary humans that are as capable of being nasty pieces of work as the general population.

I ask who’s on call and phone back if she’s on rotation and/or have a face to face with a different dr.

one has to remain hopeful that those drs who are overly judgemental, lack basic bedside manner or are a bit horrible to everyone, won’t cause irreversible damage to someone with their dismissive attitudes.

I thought the same, not really an excuse but an explanation. Some doctors have no bedside manner, some do, that's life. I would have asked if it was really necessary to be referred to a cardiologist, eg were there other factors other than the fast heart rate, high blood pressure, blood test results or whatever.

It won't hurt you to go, op, People have rapid heart rates at odd times.

Good luck.

They're a doctor. Most of them have zero social skills I've found over the years. Probably because they've gone from school to uni to being a Dr. No life experience. No mixing with people other than patients. They could all do with a stint working in retail.

The Dr was cross with you because you didn't know why your HR is so high - which is her job to figure out.

Clearly she was having a VERY bad day 😂

I doubt it was you OP, more likely she's having a bad day and you bore the brunt of it.

If it was something obvious, like you're morbidly obese and have the high heart rate that tends to accompany that, she could feel like her time was being wasted and want the patient to state its most likely weight related and something they could reduce with diet and exercise.

But it could be she'd just had a family member or a patient die and hasn't had a chance to regulate her emotions.

It's good to be kind, but it's also good to give people a bit of grace in case they're struggling through something you know nothing about.

Mine is typically really low, like in a lot of people it would be a cause for concern low. The doctor sounds as though they cut straight to the chase in asking if your heart rate is usually that high, but it came across as being accusatory. They were maybe wondering if you have a lot of stress in your life, as that might influence your heart rate being higher.

My local hospitals have routine appointments 7 days per week.
Not all clinics but it's not unusual to get a weekend appointment.

I had a telephone appointment with a doctor not long ago. I described my symptoms and her response was "and what would you like me to do about it?" Really? When I finally got to see her she displayed zero professional interest and there was an undercurrent of disdain during the less than 10 minutes I was there. I might as well have been a cardboard box - an unpleasant one at that. I'm mid sixties and this was the first time I've contacted the doctor in 10 years. It really upset me and I still feel so angry.

I've had a Dr ask for my diagnosis my "reasons" why my blood tests have come back how they have I asked one to pay for my medical school education unless they thought it was something that couldn't wait a few years (they laughed and apologised said they believed I hadn't been taking my medication correctly) another one I said Google says I'm dying I was hoping you would have a more positive outlook...

Not everyone has a good bedside manner friend of mine became a surgeon because theirs was so bad fortunately they are an excellent surgeon

I imagine in was a screening to check for potentially fatal arrhythmia’s in young people- they are mobile and run up and down the country funded by charities.

She shouldn't have chosen a job that doesn't close for the weekend.

@BurnoutGP I hope others, like me, have concluded that you are possibly quite unwell. I think many of us know the cobblers son is often badly shod. In that vein I would urge you to see your GP and seek some clinical help.

I hope you get an appointment swiftly, that the receptionists aren't too obstructive and that the doctor you see is understanding and kind.

I'm in the same sort of job and most of the time I'll get the tone right despite thinking things like you said. Sometimes I get it wrong or just skip straight to the point.

I do think social niceties are important, but I don't think missing them out is equivalent to "speaking to people like shit" like some people on the thread are suggesting. As important as social niceties is a little tolerance in the situations when they're missing: maybe this person isn't always like this, maybe you were just one of the unlucky ones.

Usually I’d agree, but in this case the doctor was rude to the OP?

Yep.
And it’s not right.
Because it outs people off going to see them.
And important and serious things are getting missed.