To not be sure about getting married

I think about 5% of people are truly capable of change for most of us what you see is what you get. Don’t marry a man with the character traits and flaws your partner has, he is absolutely a bad catch.

You say that he is lazy, selfish and greedy but you also say you love him. For what? What redeeming qualities does he have?
I would hazard a guess that you live the idea of him one day turning into a man you want him to be. It's not going to happen

You said a few years since you first met. I'd guess he is in his late twenties or older, and no I don't think he will change.

If you have doubts now.
This means you realise that it's not what you want to do.
Don't marry this lazy man he won't change ever.
Can you think how your life will be in 5, 10 or even next year.

People can’t change, usually. And people never change after marriage - except for the worse! Why would he make the effort to change for the better when you’re stuck with him now? I’m a Christian too OP but I don’t think you should feel forced into a marriage simply because you don’t want to be an unmarried mother!

This 💯

I'm not religious, but if you believe in God, surely you know he forgives. Your child was born outside of marriage so what difference does it make if you marry now? Put you and your son first, not this lazy man.

Oh my goodness, don't marry this man. You will live a life of regret. Don't make such a huge mistake that will be very difficult to extricate yourself from. He's shown you what he is. No he isn't going to change. Walk away.

Being a Christian does not mean you should endure a hard, miserable life as a married woman in preference to living a happier, unmarried life.

Don't marry him. He will never change. You and your DS deserve better than this.

Don't do it. As others have said he wont change.

It will be harder and more expensive to get a divorce than cancel a wedding.

Don't marry him.
Listen to your heart and your head - both are shouting at you NO!

Don't marry him with the expectation that he will change. Ok, he might change, but you have no guarantee he will and in all likelihood he is showing you who he is now. Go into it with your eyes open.

Having got divorced, I'd say, don't get married lightly. It is stressful, expensive and traumatic. If you have doubts, don't get married. I had doubts and kept hoping my husband would change. He did- but not for the better unfortunately. He had always been showing me who he was but I kept hoping he would magically transform into what he said he was. (Eg look at someone's actions not their words!)

Your home is already broken.

And using that language is really offensive to women like me who have raised their kids alone because of stupid selfish men like the one you are thinking about marrying.

I can guarantee you he will not change.

The best example you can give your children is not showing them a defeated woman who acts like a support human to a man.

Sounds like you doing everything anyway, so you may as well go it alone.

With regards to your religious beliefs, you have tried your best so I don't think a merciful God would blame you in any way.

Don’t marry him. He will be a terrible husband and sounds like a useless father. Don’t waste any more of your time with him. I am a Christian too but it would be a mistake to marry him. You will do much better raising your son by yourself.

Don’t marry him! He won’t change because he has a wedding ring on his finger. You are better off postponing the wedding until he shows you for a solid amount of time that he can change.

You said you’ve spoken to him numerous times and within a week he has gone back to normal, I’d say he isn’t capable of changing