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Lesleyann2413 · 13/10/2024 09:22

I accidentally posted in the wrong place so here goes again. I moved from a private rental due to landlord selling into a council property that seemed to be a nice area but neighbours on each side don’t like me.

we are quiet it’s just myself and 11 year old daughter but she got her period and has had a couple of melt downs. She had one at 8.30 and the neighbour came and threatened to punch my lips off and reverse into my car if I didn’t shut my kid up. They have a 3 year old and are constantly shouting and screaming. He called the police who did well fare check when we were sleeping and had no issues. However I have him on my door bell cam and they asked me to send it. They’ve said this is a public order offence and he will be charged so now I am getting a bit scared as he is huge. The neighbour on the other side appears to be an alcoholic and has accused me of being a police woman or social worker. They’ve told me everyone hates me and they’ve started a Facebook group about me.

we don’t do anything wrong my child is with her father 3 nights a week and I am in bed for 9.30 for my busy job. Apparently I can’t be moved due housing crisis and I’m on the swap site but not getting anywhere ever though I have decorated my home to a good standard. Anyone else been dealing with this level of crazy?

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LumpyandBumps · 18/10/2024 08:06

If your neighbour is a social housing tenant and the police take action against him his own tenancy could be at risk. It’s difficult to know if that will make him moderate his behaviour, or escalate it as he ( completely irrationally) blames you for his situation.
I echo others saying to keep evidence. You may be able to persuade the council to give your move a higher priority.

AmICrazyToEvenBother · 18/10/2024 07:38

Could you potentially rent privately again?

I think this is the reality of some streets where the council own most of the properties still. I remember a child taking a shit in our front garden once and a six year old who used to hang around the street smoking cigarettes.

I'm not saying all council tenants are like this, but there do seem to be problem streets.

MDTdottyT · 18/10/2024 07:36

You can be moved soecially if the Police charge him and with tte ring door evidence , plus try to find details of this face book site.Go and speak to tte council again.If they dont help speak to citizens advice or shelter, shelter woukd be my first choice.
It may mean going back to emergency accommodation so maybe they meant you cant be move directly into another property, but you should reapply to the housing list and maybe see if you can get a direct offer

NewGreenDuck · 18/10/2024 07:29

If the neighbours are also social housing tenants then you need to advise them about the issues as well. Keep all the evidence of their behaviour, keep a diary, and tell the manager what is happening. Often it takes a while for them to build a case of antisocial behaviour but there is action that can be taken. And tell the police as well, I know you have done that, but keep telling them about any further issues.
I used to be a housing officer for a local authority, and it's building the case that is important. A constant problem has to be proved for action to take place.

Beautiful3 · 18/10/2024 07:28

Omg that's awful. I wouldn't answer the door to them anymore. I'd call the police and report his threatening behaviour. Could you save up and move out? I wouldn't want to stay there long term.

MrsSymon · 18/10/2024 07:23

Oh god I've lived that nightmare except I had an 8 month old at the time that was teething and she was going to burn us alive in our sleep she however had parties 4-5 nights a week where the drum and bass would make the walls vibrate and my daughter couldn't sleep and I was exhausted all the time
sadly I tried speaking to her I tried the council and the police she got served a warning letter but nothing really changed until after 2 years when I was so stressed and exhausted I couldn't hear myself think and I lost it I picked up a hammer that I had on the side and hit the wall with it repeatedly then I went outside and hit the adjoining gate with it and I told her next time it would be her f*ing skull and that I was sick of being bullied by her and I wasn't standing for it anymore I went a bit crazy tbh but that's the highlights but she was nice as anything after and the music 4-5 nights a week stopped ! I was still very relieved when we managed to move after 4 years though sorry your going through this keep on and on at the council and collect any evidence of recordings etc good luck !

Cherishednotspoilt · 18/10/2024 07:08

Hi, Have you talked to the council or housing association. Where i live we have neighbourhood coaches who can help with these issues.

Lesleyann2413 · 13/10/2024 09:31

Thank you, they all have cameras everywhere and appear completely crazy to me. They are banging on my daughter’s wall when she is silencing listening to music with headphones on. Starting a street Facebook is beyond ridiculous. There’s nothing to say, she leaves at 8am gets back at 6pm and her child occasionally makes a bit of noise. Unreal.

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FriendlyFriend · 13/10/2024 09:29

Just keep to yourself but document every interaction/video stuff carefully. It might help in the future.

Whyherewego · 13/10/2024 09:26

These people sound crazy. Nothing you can do that you're not doing already ie call police, ring camera etc
Just ignore them, if they've set up a FB group who cares. Just style it out until you get a swap

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