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Do you walk alone at night?

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FeetupTvon · 13/10/2024 08:38

I love walking for fitness and relaxation.
Now the nights are drawing in I’m wondering if I should use the treadmill at the gym instead.
Obviously I want to continue going for walks but don’t want to feel unsafe as that defeats the object of walking being for mindfulness.
Just want to know how common/uncommon walking alone in the dark is.

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DutchCowgirl · 13/10/2024 09:03

I live in a suburban area and i go walking, running, cycling in the dark. I am quite tall and big, not an easy target and not easily intimidated.

Thepeopleversuswork · 13/10/2024 09:02

Yes I have always walked alone at night. Partly because I am a bloody minded sod and I hate the idea of things being off limits because some arsehole might take it upon himself to threaten or harass me. Just not having this be made my problem.

Also because the vast vast majority of sexual assault, rape and violence against women is committed by partners and family members not random strangers and I have always found it irritating that people pretend otherwise.

TickingAlongNicely · 13/10/2024 09:01

Afternoon/evening? Yes. It gets dark at 4pm in middle if winter! But on roads etc. I probably wouldn't go in the woods...

Growlybear83 · 13/10/2024 08:58

I live in an area of south London with a fairly high crime rate and I wouldn't walk to the corner shop alone after dark alone. I'm not generally over cautious, and I will happily walk round overseas cities such as Luxor or Singapore on my own at night, and may feel differently in other parts of the UK, but not where I live.

LeavesOnTrees · 13/10/2024 08:58

FanofLeaves · 13/10/2024 08:53

In that case I’d be more worried about being splattered from here to Norbury Crescent, the way maniacs drive late at night 😱

That made me laugh. I only do it on quiet residential streets.
I also have my 'Londoner march' walk, pretty fast and very confident.
If I have to leave a station at night and I'm not not sure which direction I never stand around looking lost. I just walk whilst figuring it out.

SallyWD · 13/10/2024 08:56

I always have done. I'm about to turn 50 and walk wherever I want, at whatever time I want. Parks, fields, city, whatever. I have always felt safe. I've never had any scary situations.
I think the situations I'd draw the line are particularly dodgy neighbourhoods with high levels of crime (eg, knife crime, mugging etc). I don't actually know any neighbourhoods like this near me so it's not an issue. Very happy to walk around my city (Leeds) and my neighbourhood at night.

NailsHairNipsHeels · 13/10/2024 08:55

Yes and never feel unsafe nor give. It a second thought
I work shifts and regularly go a walk on my break at 3-4 in the morning or when I finish work at midnight.
I walk wearing ear pods playing music and the areas I work are industrial estates and where I live is semi rural but it's not even a concern

Sparrow7 · 13/10/2024 08:54

Yes but I live in a safe, well lit, city. However I'm not keen on my teenage kids walking home after dark, girl or boy.

Snowpaw · 13/10/2024 08:53

Yes I like walking in the dark - live in a pretty rural village but its fine.

Me and my 5yr old go on walks in the dark after tea. She has the same amount of energy that needs expending whether its dark or light and I would go mad cooped up in the house as soon as the nights draw in. We take a torch.

FanofLeaves · 13/10/2024 08:53

LeavesOnTrees · 13/10/2024 08:51

Yes and I have done since a teenager in London.
I feel safer un urban areas than rural ones.

But I'm always alert to other people about, especially if a man may be following.
If really late at night I'll walk down the middle of the road.

In that case I’d be more worried about being splattered from here to Norbury Crescent, the way maniacs drive late at night 😱

RichardMarxisinnocent · 13/10/2024 08:52

Augustus40 · 13/10/2024 08:48

No. I take a taxi rather than walk home in the dark.

Even at 5pm?

FriendlyFriend · 13/10/2024 08:52

Yes with earphones in too

LeavesOnTrees · 13/10/2024 08:51

Yes and I have done since a teenager in London.
I feel safer un urban areas than rural ones.

But I'm always alert to other people about, especially if a man may be following.
If really late at night I'll walk down the middle of the road.

silentassassin · 13/10/2024 08:51

We have woods behind us and fields for miles. I would never walk there alone at night - not really out of worry for being attacked by a man but because it's creepy AF and I'm still scared after watching the Blair witch project.

Out and about in town where its populated - yes, I would.

Beezknees · 13/10/2024 08:51

Only if it's a busy area. I wouldn't walk alone rurally.

Augustus40 · 13/10/2024 08:50

I think in London everything is much more lit up on the whole but since I left London it is impossibly dark and I do not feel safe at all. A different world.

GonnaBeYoniThisChristmas · 13/10/2024 08:50

Yes absolutely. I couldn’t live my life if I didn’t venture outside my door after dark alone - eg to get to swimming club, pick up kids etc.

We live in a busy city and walk/cycle/public transport everywhere and usually feel very safe.

I would feel less safe walking alone in rural areas but it’s all about what you feel familiar with. And I guess then I’d need to drive…

ThinWomansBrain · 13/10/2024 08:48

if by "at night" you mean after dark - of course how else do I get places/get home? I live in central London.
I'm probably not out that often after midnight - but that's because I'm normally home by then, rather than avoiding being out. I suppose I avoid walking through parks after dark, but that's about it, although there's somewhere i go regularly where the only route is a well lit park route - that's OK (9pm ish)

Augustus40 · 13/10/2024 08:48

No. I take a taxi rather than walk home in the dark.

WonderingWanda · 13/10/2024 08:48

It really depends where and at what time. For example, 7pm walking around a city no problem, walking through the dark and scary park full of druggies and teenagers less alright. Walking round my village late at night no problem. Country lanes in the pitch black nope.

WeRateSquirrels · 13/10/2024 08:47

Yes, absolutely.

RollerSkateLikePeggy · 13/10/2024 08:45

I'm sure that depends on your area. I live in a pretty safe suburban area with street lights and I happily walk around here at night, even the roads which are leafy with houses set back and hedges which always feel quieter. However, like most women, I still stay aware of my surroundings and I don't tend to walk through any of the narrow alleys.

Clotheshanger · 13/10/2024 08:45

Always, when I lived in the country and couldn’t sleep, I would walk on field paths with a head torch at 3 am. Now I live in the city, unless it’s bucketing down, I walk home from the cinema/gigs etc.

Ginmonkeyagain · 13/10/2024 08:44

Yes of course. I don't have a car so this time of year it's not really optional.

Ibloodylovetea · 13/10/2024 08:44

5475878237NC · 13/10/2024 08:39

I live rurally in an area with one of the lowest crime rates in the country. I would still be mindful of walking alone late at night because I'm a woman. I would be cautious and very aware of my surroundings.

Me too!

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