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Do you walk alone at night?

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FeetupTvon · 13/10/2024 08:38

I love walking for fitness and relaxation.
Now the nights are drawing in I’m wondering if I should use the treadmill at the gym instead.
Obviously I want to continue going for walks but don’t want to feel unsafe as that defeats the object of walking being for mindfulness.
Just want to know how common/uncommon walking alone in the dark is.

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Natsku · 13/10/2024 13:09

Yes. I live in a small town in Finland though, I feel very safe walking alone at night here, whether in town or in the forest. Just don't particularly like it when I'm walking down the street and suddenly the street lights go off (apart from main roads, they get turned off at a certain point at night to save electricity)

But I've walked alone at night in places I haven't felt so comfortable in, out of necessity, but the only time I was well and truly scared was walking alone through St. Petersburg at night because my twat ex stormed off and left me to get back to the hotel by myself. I wouldn't have felt any safer getting a taxi/lifting a Lada alone though so walking quickly seemed the best option.

MouseofCommons · 13/10/2024 12:39

After dark, yes. I'm almost in a town centre so there's usually people around. I stick to main footpaths near shops and pubs.

However, those stupid energy saving LED streetlights have messed up some routes as they're too dark and gloomy. I found an area of town that still has the orange lights the other day and it felt so much safer.

Growlybear83 · 13/10/2024 12:34

Rewis · 13/10/2024 11:47

It gets dark very early so if you want to do anything outside of office hours you have to do it in the dark.

However, I don't frequent in places without streetlights. So I don't go to walks relying on flashlights but I would go for an evening walk if the route was mostly lit. I do walk alone from a bar at 3am but I avoid taking a shortcut through the unlit park. To be fair it is not my favourite place late at night even when it is light during the summer.

Edited

Much of my work is in the evenings, but if I couldn't drive to wherever I'm going, I would never have taken the job in the first place.

Doggymummar · 13/10/2024 12:30

RoynJamie · 13/10/2024 11:39

Absolutely not. I've been flashed at, chased when I was young and stupid and didn't care about walking alone at night, and I have been raped. I don't trust men so no. Not even at 5pm.

Same here, raped and sexually assaulted more than once, not a chance in hell. To be honest I barely go out in daylight, but that wasn't the question

Ethermumska · 13/10/2024 11:50

Not in this country, I have had bad experiences walking around at daytime let alone at night😅
However I have been doing this regularly back home and also have done so quite a few times in Poland, late night 15 mins strolls to the shop, and never had any issues.

Rewis · 13/10/2024 11:47

It gets dark very early so if you want to do anything outside of office hours you have to do it in the dark.

However, I don't frequent in places without streetlights. So I don't go to walks relying on flashlights but I would go for an evening walk if the route was mostly lit. I do walk alone from a bar at 3am but I avoid taking a shortcut through the unlit park. To be fair it is not my favourite place late at night even when it is light during the summer.

PandoraSox · 13/10/2024 11:44

Yes. I am early 60s and not worried about going out alone after dark.

Mrsttcno1 · 13/10/2024 11:41

I do, but I have a big dog and although perfectly friendly he is also protective with a VERY loud bark, so I figure he’s my bouncer😂

RoynJamie · 13/10/2024 11:39

Absolutely not. I've been flashed at, chased when I was young and stupid and didn't care about walking alone at night, and I have been raped. I don't trust men so no. Not even at 5pm.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 13/10/2024 11:35

Of course I do! I live in the Uk where it gets dark around 4pm & I work. I live rurally and don’t feel unsafe at all

JasmineTea11 · 13/10/2024 11:29

Yes, always have and never give it a second thought.
Don't go wandering into forests or anything though!

Crazycatlady79 · 13/10/2024 11:24

Yep. Always have. Always will.
Lived in both urban and rural locations, including London, within the UK - and abroad - and never let fear hold me back.
I was taught to handle myself from a young age, so maybe that helps, but it's never occurred to me to let 'the dark' have a hold over me.

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 13/10/2024 11:24

Yes. Otherwise how do you live life? I don't get home until 8 when I'm in the office for a start. I have a dog who needs a walk in the evening.

NunyaBeeswax · 13/10/2024 11:22

Some places I'm happy to walk at night.
Other places I won't go after dark.

If I'm in the woods or along the canal or out in the country side, I feel perfectly at ease and safe... As long as my torch doesn't die.

The areas I feel most unsafe are places where there's lots of people. I wouldn't walk through town centre on a Saturday night these days for example.
There's areas around me that have a bad reputation as well, I avoid those as best I can.

But yeah / people pose a danger - fewer people, fewer dangers.

Boredlass · 13/10/2024 11:19

Yes, all the time. I love night walks

EmeraldRoulette · 13/10/2024 11:18

@FeetupTvon curious about time and area.

I think the MN answer is yes I do but some people think 8pm is night time, I think more 1am when I hear this question.

Jazzabel · 13/10/2024 11:14

Yeah I do. I know it’s more of a risk but I refuse to be locked in my house just because the sun isn’t out.

I really value my freedom. But unfortunately because there are some horrible people in this world, you can’t have 100% freedom without risk. I would choose my freedom and independence every time. I just make sure I’m more aware or my surroundings if I feel like the area could be dodgy.

TeabySea · 13/10/2024 11:09

Yes, I have always done so. I grew up in London and would walk home from my local train station at night. I moved a few times and some areas felt safer than others.
Now I live more rurally. Again, I'll walk home at night but I will steer clear of areas that are too remote or unpopulated. I know quite a lot of people in the area I live in, so could knock in doors if I felt worried.

I recently had a weekend away on a city break, and went for a walk in the early evening. It was a busy, well-lit area, and I enjoyed a bit if sightseeing. I mentioned it to a friend who was horrified that I'd go out on my own in a city at night.

Bubblemonkey · 13/10/2024 11:01

I live in an area without the best reputation & used to walk around in the dark in the winter before I had my kid. Didn’t really have much option when it came to getting to work & back. The only reason I don’t do it now is because I can’t juggle a toddler & at least 2 bags on the bus without a pushchair.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 13/10/2024 10:56

Yea I do. I often work after the kids are in bed, then need to clear my head before sleep so go a walk at 10.30 or something. Residential roads, suburb of a large city. I am aware of my surroundings (for example I don't have headphones in so I can hear people) but I don't feel unsafe

Doggymummar · 13/10/2024 10:53

Not a chance, not in the morning and not in the afternoon either. I am entering peak hermitting zone now.

unsync · 13/10/2024 10:50

Not if I don't have to. Why risk it?

TheFlis · 13/10/2024 10:30

Yes of course. Just last night I was helping out at a charity event and walked home alone afterwards, it was about 11.30pm.

BobbyBiscuits · 13/10/2024 10:27

I don't go far ever, and hate going out at night but sometimes needs must. But I don't think I'd just 'go for a walk' alone in the dark. There would need to be a solid reason for being out.
But I'm terrified of public transport so if rather walk five miles at midnight than use the tube! It would probably kill me so don't think I'll try it.

Ginmonkeyagain · 13/10/2024 10:24

In over 20 years of regularly walking home alone at night in cities, the one time I have ever been attacked walking home at night I was with someone - a friend and i were walking back from the bus stop at 2am and someone ran past and snatched my bag.

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