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To be worried about who im due to marry

81 replies

rorymary · 12/10/2024 20:01

We are getting married in 6months, I'm honestly doubting myself.

We have a young child together, plus a child each from previous relationships. It was all great to start with, even up until after ds was born then the cracks started.

Trouble with his family. His negativity, his influence on my dd, such as swearing and general teasing, in a "jokey" way.

Recently he has been so grumpy and angry, i feel like im walking on eggshells. Not because im scared of him, it's more just to be aware incase i need to stop him swearing out of anger infront of the kids or generally bringing the mood down.

Am i nuts to be marrying him?

Of course there are good things about him, but i honestly struggle to care about them when he gets like this

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GivingitToGod · 12/10/2024 20:11

Definitely needs discussing before marrying. You have a child together and relationships change after having a baby. Why is your husband so stressed? Is he bearing all the financial responsibilities since new baby? I'm not making excuses but I think you need to consider exploring why things have changed and allow opportunities for change . You have a child together, a major consideration

MotiRoller · 12/10/2024 20:05

Also agree trust your gut

JadeCrow · 12/10/2024 20:03

Trust your gut, its reacting to red flags.

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 12/10/2024 20:03

Have you brought it up with him?

Ablondiebutagoody · 12/10/2024 20:02

I wouldn't either

Cookiecrumblepie · 12/10/2024 20:02

Sounds horrible. Generally things don’t get better after marriage, they get worse. I wouldn’t if I were you