to be disappointed in this newborn present?

Bet it was something g they got given that they wanted rid of.

Aren't you a delight? You just chucked it in the bin, adding to landfill, when it could have gone to a charity shop, where someone might have found it quite delightful. You sound grabby, snobby and unpleasant. You don't give to receive for a start. Also did you ask the new mum if she actually liked Soap & Glory products? She might have been horrified.

Please. She could get stuff from Amazon without leaving the house and it has lot of better options there

But some people seem to lack reading comprehension. I think I made it perfectly clear in my post that I didn't expect an expensive present at all.

The trouble is your words and your actions don't match. If it wasn't actually about the value of the gift you wouldn't have mentioned how much you spent on their gift. The fact you're still obviously holding some sort of grudge about this months later is quite honestly ridiculous.

well…… I have never had a baby, but lots of my friends have , the first few you go a bit over the top with gifts, then (depending on how many friends, I guess) you have to scale back, I once went to a dinner party of one group, where parents were discussing shit new parents gifts, that is where I decided bollocks to them all. Surely having the baby is their greatest gift, it is usually the pfb lot tbh.

Mum has baby two months ago . Buying gifts is not top of her list . Shein didn’t even mean leaving the house . It may have looked lovely on the picture

We actually have reading comprehension that goes beyond a five-year-old's and can make inferences. It's abundantly clear you wanted a more expensive present and you're preoccupied with monetary value.

I can’t believe anyone thinks you’re being unreasonable. Shein is disgusting - awful for the environment and sweat shop site.

I’d rather get nothing than add to the landfill with that crap!

But they didn't make 0 effort did they? Assuming it wasn't regifted, they went to the effort to choose and buy something, spending money for your baby. You don't like it, and that's ok, but you sound like an awful snob.

I don't buy from Shein, I don't wear it ether but if someone gave me a gift I would say thank you, be grateful they thought about me and pop it in a charity shop when I had time. After I had my first dc I found everything very overwhelming and definitely wouldn't have had the headspace to put together an elaborate gift. They got you a gift, that's a nice thing to do.

They got you a gift. You didn't like it, but they chose something and made the effort. It's really meanspirited to judge the quality of their gift like this.

Better not to bring anything than to bring tat from Shein 🤷‍♀️

Shein is crap. But, what would your post have been if there was no gift at all? 🤔

Do you genuinely expect £100 to be spent on each of your babies, OP?

I ask because I’ve a colleague who’s having a 4th baby shower and is complaining that people seem “off” when she offers them her registry. I feel like the two of you would get along.

I bought stuff from SHEIN before. I looked at the photos, thought it looked really nice and …. When I received it, it was cheap polyester crap with a real weird smell to it.

So maybe she went online and for the first time bought something from there (and got bitten)

Go get a hobby, OP.

More fool you for spending so much on a gift for anyone. Call me tight but my family have an agreement not to send £20 on each other.

YABU.

As well you know, it’s the thought that counts.

£100 on a new baby gift is a lot IMO.

Baby #3 barely rates a packet of bibs in my experience.

Seen as you asked: Yes YABU. Your attitude is awful to be honest and more fool you for spending £100+ to expect a similar present in return (which is what it sounds like seen as you told us how much you spent on them when it actually has nothing to do with it unless you expect the same back). How mercenary.

Lots of people don't bother at all with baby socks- how would you feel if YOUR gift was judged as zero effort? It isn't very nice is it. A good gift is a subjective and perhaps the shein thing was bought with good intentions. If it's not to your taste then just move on, a mumsnet thread is OTT.

Some people don't even get a healthy baby at the end of the pregnancy so count your blessings.

Maybe they just didn’t have the money to buy anything else but felt they couldn’t turn up empty handed due to your gift. Also if they feel comfortable dressing their baby in shein, they may not have considered you wouldn’t. I didn’t have much money to buy gifts when my kids were babies, we had just enough to make it through maternity leave.

If your other two children are boys then I would be more likely to get a 'girly' present for your daughter as obviously you might have no pink stuff to hand down to this baby. But I think a third baby doesn't generally get a lot of presents.

Oh fgs, move on and quit being ridiculous.