to be disappointed in this newborn present?

Shein stuff belongs in the bin.

They may be willing to put it on their baby though - clearly people do or it wouldn't be for sale, so they may have just chosen something they could afford that they thought was pretty. The smell would go after washing. I'm not suggesting you should put your baby in it but I am suggesting you are an ungrateful snob.

Just be grateful it didn’t have a scorpion in the bag 🤪
can’t believe no one else said this yet!

It is rather sad to pollute more by throwing the stuff away, but I think it is unfair to dress the children from less fortunate families with clothes that may contain harmful chemicals like lead that was found in some children’s jackets.

I hate Soap and Glory products and think it's over perfumed and chemically. I also found quite a few people bought me clothes I absolutely wouldn't choose for myself. What you're really saying is you have better taste than your friend.
I also hate Shein, but some people order tons from there. They likely panic ordered it online in the middle of the night and forgot to check it because they were busy with their newborn. Really, does it matter?

It's hard to comment without sounding like a massive snob but this happened to us too and it went straight in the bin. I genuinely didn't think it was baby safe. The smell/texture of the material was ghastly and I suspect highly flammable. Not breathable at all. Obviously we thanked them and were grateful they got a gift! The sentiment was there.

How many baby gifts have they given you over the years? If you got one for your first and second, you’re entirely unreasonable.

Oh give over OP. You wouldn’t have banged on about how you spent ‘well over a hundred pounds’ if you weren’t bothered by the monetary value. You just wouldn’t have mentioned it at all.

Our reading comprehension is fine thanks. It’s your self-honesty that’s lacking.

I also don't think supermarket drinks and smellies are a brilliant gift OP. For £100 you could have got some nice Molton Brown not just masses of cheap stuff.

I'd have wanted YSL Touche Eclat and a big bottle of gin.

YABU. It's not a zero effort present though. She went online, searched through some outfits, bought an outfit she thought looked nice, waited for it to be delivered and then gave it to you. There's plenty of thought put into that. I've bought baby clothes from Shein in the past and they have been really nice.

You’re not being unreasonable at all, the quality of Shein stuff is awful, I wouldn’t buy it for myself much less buy it as a gift someone else. There isn’t any excuse really, supermarket stuff is really reasonable and usually of good quality.

Awful to throw it away. You could have washed it and given it to your local baby bank.

Just not some bad-smelling polyester stuff from SHEIN. I would never put this on a baby.

Sometimes people get gifts wrong. I guarantee you've given a gift in the past that has made the recipient think wtf.

They picked something for your baby and gave you a gift. That was lovely of them.

You didn't like physical gift (I wouldn't either), but they still did a lovely thing.

You're judging new parents who've just had a bomb taken to their lives and they still found the time to get you a gift. They probably thought it looked lovely online and then credited you with more generosity than you're showing.

YABVU! You don’t give gifts to get gifts. It was your choice to spend that sort of money. She’s a new mum, and yet she still thought to send you a gift.

Your present to them wouldn't be my cup of tea. Soap and Glory is what my 14yo dcs loved years ago. I have tea I choose. Hot chocolate?? Why?? Bit generic and suggests you just bought stuff rather than being personal and specific. Just as you didn't like what they got you. Such is life - move on! Presents are a minefield. Think you need to get over yourself.

Honestly I wouldn't expect anything for a third baby - maybe a congratulations card but not a gift. I think it's only for first babies isn't it?

You are a delight. Taking a disgusting quality Shein outfit to a charity shop so someone can put this on their baby?? Are you insane?

I wouldn’t have welcomed your gift either - nice tea, hot chocolate, soap & glory? All unnecessary when I have tea and soap already.
Too much consumerism and present exchanging going on

I think it’s good that OP got rid of the Shein stuff, considering an article I’ve read not too long ago about an investigation where they found traces of lead in children’s jacket.

"I didn't expect them to reciprocate this, I know not everyone has the money available to spend so much time on a gift".

Why are you complaining then? Surely you should be grateful they got you something. Do you know their exact earnings/outgoings? By that I don't mean what they've told you, I mean have you seen payslips? If not you have no idea their truthful situation. Maybe they tried to do something nice with what they had available and you've thrown their gift in the bin.

I'm shocked she handed you the gift in the plastic zip loc bag shein stuff comes in. Can't imagine anyone doing that.