to be disappointed in this newborn present?

Cares about ethics, loves Primark. Make it make sense.

Perhaps it's because I also don't shop at Amazon or Shein! People might think me a snob but I would feel insulted by a gift from Shein due to the ethics. I have happily received baby gifts from supermarkets/Primark etc, they've all been lovely!

I feel like I've derailed the thread a bit so I'm going to exit!

Bye!

Try to see it as a nice gesture and let it go. Personally, I find hot chocolate sickly and I’d donate Soap and Glory toiletries to the school raffle-but I would still think the person was being thoughtful and generous with such a gift as I know other people like thing like that.

Don't give to receive.

Yes,the friend had just had her first baby. That's a really good point.

I hope that in the future, when babies are more settled OP and her friend can reconnect!

So you do understand that a gift can have thought put into it even if the receiver doesn't appreciate it. You give the benefit of the doubt to the OP but not her friend. Why?

Lots of people truly don't know Shein is unethical. Or if they do they still use it - I'm sure most of the people on this thread sneering at Shein use Amazon. I don't buy from either because of ethical issues but I had never heard of the safety problems with Shein, so can understand someone adjusting to life with a new baby might not have, either.

But so many people on MN are always determined to assign the worst of possible motives to people they call friends.

The op had just had her 1st I think she was a bit preoccupied

Not just that. They sell dangerous goods that aren’t to British or European safety standards. They should be banned. Cheap rubbish isn’t worth the risk, especially for babies.

Quite.

Sad reflection of society that a healthy child being born and mother surviving both pregnancy and childbirth is deemed not worth celebrating.

Shein is shit.

It's a big deal to people who love and care about you x

I agree with what you're saying and I have a friend who is similar to you. She spoke to me about how much she valued my time and effort but that she found gifts stressful. We take our kids away together each year instead, in the UK, not abroad. We love to see our kids enjoying each others company, as do we.

I think the OP doesn't feel her efforts have been valued and that's the problem.

You say you didn't expect similar back but tbh you're pissed off because they didn't spend more so you kind of did expect a better gift.

Shein or whatever the spelling are still in business and there's a reason, because thousands if not millions buy from them.

They might as first time parents have their heads up their arses which is common and might not have a great deal of money having bought everything for their first baby.

This right here.

It isn’t snobbery, TEMU and Shein are selling dangerous goods with fake certificates of safety. They should be banned in the U.K. I’d especially not trust anything from there for babies.

Perhaps they were broke?

Being pregnant and giving birth is a big deal to you. Not so much to everyone else

Can you not remember how life changing that first baby is and how your life completely changes. I amazed she had any time or headspace to get your baby anything.

I think there is nothing that a cup of tea couldn't make better!

It doesn't matter whether it's what you would have wished for, clearly it has thought behind it. I always give the mum some hand lotion together with something for a baby because there is a lot of hand washing going on!

Also, to those who say it matters less for a 2nd or 3rd child, what are you thinking?!?!? All babies deserve to be welcomed into the world!!! If you're not sure what the baby might need, gift flowers or something! Being pregnant and giving birth is a massive deal even when it isn't your first baby!

Shein clothes and George clothes are probably made in the same factory, if that makes you feel any better.

That's better for everyone.
Some people thrive around gifts, but not everyone enjoys being compulsory grateful just because someone feels they put lots of effort in gifting them some tea and shower gel.

Yes it sounds like a shit gift.

You know what I'm thinking? Someone gave this smelly plastic shit to your friend for her baby and she thought it was disgusting and didn't want to keep it so regifted it to the next person having a baby, which happened to be you.

People show appreciation/how much they value another in different ways. You consider yourself a thoughtful gift giver. I show my appreciation and value by experiences. It isn't necessarily that people don't care for you because they don't put as much effort into gifts they just show it in a different way. Not only do I find buying people gifts a chore I'm not very fond of receiving them. Often when I can see people have put time and effort in I actually feel bad because I don't need anything they have got me and I don't like having things for the sake of it. I would rather they saved their money and we went out for a day trip together and just made some sort of memory.

They might really like the items they chose, just because you didn’t doesn’t mean they didn’t put effort into it. Like you say they might not have the money to spend.

Maybe your present wasn’t to their taste.

It'x probably because no one give a fuck about someone's third child beyond giving congratulations and love to the couple.

Do you think Boots toiletries and tea bags are a thoughtful, high effort, high-time-investment gift?