to be disappointed in this newborn present?

Some people don't like soap and glory products they might have thought wtf at your gift.

Omg i know how you feel i would never do that i always buy for other people's kids what i make mine wear if I won't let mine wear that i don't buy for anyone else.It means you have a one sided relationship sorry but I have had those and I started mimicking there behaviour back to them.Keep the relationship as they are common friends but give back what you get from them.

How can towels be for a baby boy? Just curious.

Oh yes... But these were decidedly for a boy baby as were the other items we were given. Our baby wore a great deal of blue actually.

Traditionally, blue is the colour for girls (referring to the blue gown of the Virgin Mary and invoking her protection) and pinky-red is for boys (the colour St Joseph is usually shown wearing and invoking his protection). The pink = girls and blue = boys only appeared after WWII, and may be a United States idea. So blue is entirely appropriate for a DD.

I wouldn't buy from Shein because of the ethics but I wouldn't expect everyone to feel the same way, and if they were up to their eyes in either PFB or late pregnancy I'd be grateful to receive anything tbh.

I think your gift sounds unnecessarily flashy. I don't know what soap and glory is, but spending over £100 sounds a bit much.

Yabu and rude imo.

YANBU. I doubt anything from Shein is even safe for a baby. I’m surprised she didn’t realise that.

Should be grateful for any presents I think!

And throwing something away just because it smelt of plastic is really wasteful, could have washed/aired it out

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My MIL gave me cheap blue baby towels when DD was born... Although on reflection, maybe she had a point with the blue part 😂

Unless you know she also dislikes Shein, you don't know that she didn't put effort in!

Your tea, hot chocolate and beauty stuff might have cost more but it's all stuff you can add to a supermarket order so I'm not sure why you're assuming your online order was superior to hers.

Far out, getting a gift for your third is a kind thing. They have already shelled out twice. They have stopped their lives to congratulate you (for the third time). Why do people keep needing gifts for having more babies? Surely you have enough things.

You shouldn’t give to receive op

I am with the others on this. You don’t give to get! Especially as it’s not your first. You probably have tons of baby stuff already. People have different tastes/likes etc. I am generally happy with whatever I get especially as I never expect people to splash out on me! I have a newborn too (our first) I didn’t even have a baby shower as I didn’t want to put anyone out but I did get some lovely things and some not so lovely things. Nothing from Shein but I will pop the baby in some of the things even though I don’t like it and send a picture to the person who gave it to me! I also wanted to say I really struggled with maternity clothes for work and nursing clothes so I did buy a few bits from Shein. It did smell when it arrived so I washed it all before use and it’s absolutely fine. I didn’t want to spend a fortune on clothes I will only be wearing around the house!
my friend did all her baby shopping on Amazon and its absolutely fine! Don’t be a snob life is too short. You could have donated the bits you didn’t like! Don’t forget to send a thank you card!

I'd be disappointed too, maybe she looked online thought it looked nice and then couldn't afford anything else. Maternity pay is a real shock the first time around.

You ANBU to be disappointed you said thank you so she doesn't know you were upset by it which is all that matters.

She thought of you and spent time searching online for a gift, if you have ever been on the shein website you'll know there's thousands of items on there so she definitely put some effort on, unfortunately it didn't pay off and she learnt the hard way.

Are you on the wine GoldCat or are you always so vile?

This ^^

I voted yanbu. I'd have binned it too and it's not snobby like some have said. Shein clothes are just awful, I'd never put a newborn in them.

I also shop regularly in charity shops. I also donate regularly, but I won't donate something that I don't think is safe. I actually give my baby clothes to a mother in direct provision who has a son a few months younger than mine, but I wouldn't give her something I wouldn't put on my own child. I'm far from earning what your daughter earns but again my comment is not about money or snobbery it was about safety.

I’d also be concerned about the chemicals used in the clothing. People should be more aware.

It’s a bit shit to be honest but my biggest concern with ordering anything from there is does it adhere to our level of safety standards? I bought some xmas bits for kids from somewhere like that, and they had bits glued on. It wasn’t safe for babies and wouldn’t have been sold in our shops. I was clever enough to realise that but I bet some people wouldn’t even think about stuff like that.

Well, I wasn't saying that the people who can't afford charity shops can afford to shop with Shien, but that they would be glad of something donated even if it came from Shien. I buy a lot of my clothes in charity shops as does my DD, who earns something in 6 figures afaik, so not poor.

If people can't afford charity shops but can afford new from Shein then how would it help if I donated it to charity shops? Surely by your point it would be cheaper for them to buy on shein then what they pay in charity shop 🤔
I'm not snobby at all, my other friend got me a beautiful jumper in the charity shop for my little boy and I was delighted with it. I know this family will have spent a lot more and I really appreciate the thought and effort they went to- my point was that I don't feel Shein clothing was safe for my kid to wear. But nice to know people can judge who you are based on one small comment 😄

Just to add.. I’m not keen on Shein clothes, particularly for babies, but I did receive an outfit or two as gifts. It’s the thought that counts. I did dress my kid in them and took pictures for the gifter as I did with all gift outfits.. I just felt so happy and blessed to have people in my kid’s life who made the effort. I’m financially well off, which was not always the case so I’m super sensitive to other people’s challenges and all the more grateful for any gift. OP, just try focus on the positive and enjoy your third musketeer ❤️

I’d put it down to inexperience as new patents. Asda baby clothes range is lovely but i didn’t know that until I became a mum.

Maybe they bought stuff on Shein due to convenience - in my first few months of being a new mum, I really struggled to make time for anything let alone gift shopping. They may also be a little strapped for cash at the moment.

I would also be annoyed with the inadequate gifts, but then i’ll try to remember that maybe finances and time are tight for them at the moment, and try not dwell on the negative.