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How would you react to this 10 year old?

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ICantStopEatingg1 · 12/10/2024 16:27

I’m still thinking about this I know I shouldn’t be as she’s just a child but it’s really making me wonder whether I should have said something or if I was right to stay quiet:

I volunteered for an after school event at my child’s school where the kids watched a movie and had snacks. I was just there supervising with 4 other parents and about 5 teachers. It was very obvious I was a mum not a teacher so can’t excuse the child for not knowing. My daughter (younger year) kept coming to me for a cuddle and I told her to sit down, next minute this 10 year old girl charges towards me knocking my daughter over demanding to know when the film would start. I told her very shortly. Film had then started then the same girl came over to me and very demandingly told me her clip had fallen out and I need to keep it safe for her, I put it on the table next to me and said she can get it at the end. She kept making really angry faces at me. I walked a little further away but she kept coming up to me only and demanding things. There were many other adults there but she kept coming to me and shouting at me to do things for her. I kept being nice to her and asking her to sit down and watch the film.

what would you have done? I’m a little out off volunteering again if I’m being honest. I don’t want to use the word “brat” but that’s the type of behaviour she was displaying.

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Tagyoureit · 12/10/2024 16:33

I guess I care less about being told off by the school but telling a kid off doesn't mean being rude or shouting at them.

ICantStopEatingg1 · 12/10/2024 16:33

My self esteem is very low so I was second guessing myself!

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ICantStopEatingg1 · 12/10/2024 16:32

Tagyoureit · 12/10/2024 16:31

I volunteer a lot at the school, and I'll tell any kid off for that type behaviour.

Thanks for that. I would t get in trouble then with the school?

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ICantStopEatingg1 · 12/10/2024 16:31

As this was the first time I volunteered I was a little nervous to be quite honest so didn’t want to draw attention to myself by “making a fuss”. If that makes sense so I just dealt with her. I was worried I wouldn’t be asked to volunteer again!

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Tagyoureit · 12/10/2024 16:31

I volunteer a lot at the school, and I'll tell any kid off for that type behaviour.

Needmorelego · 12/10/2024 16:29

You should have perhaps said something like "Sorry I'm just Jane's mum. You need to ask Miss Teacher if you need something".

StarSlinger · 12/10/2024 16:29

Couldn't you have asked a teacher to handle the situation?

BagavadGita · 12/10/2024 16:29

I would have spoken to a teacher to get a better idea of her usual behaviour.

UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 12/10/2024 16:29

I honestly would have told her off.

“I’ll be happy to help you when you speak to me politely.”