To decline to answer what school my child goes to?

Safeguarding training helps you to work out what is a concern and what isn't.

A lot of people on here have clearly never had safeguarding training.

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I work in a school and regularly have safeguarding training. I don't post pictures of my daughter at all. So my comment was if you are apparently so concerned about your child's privacy you do post but then try to remove some identifying features then that's quite a contradiction. The whole point of SM is to advertise something about your life and o other people.

It’s an excellent way to make sure you come across as delusional and paranoid. I have conversations about children’s school and even post the occasional post online with a school logo showing!! They are still alive and well.

Urgh people are so rude! The circumstances surrounding adoption are no ones business.

I'm not mocking them. I'm wondering why they'd cover the badge but not think hmm.. should I be putting a picture of my child on the Internet l?

If it's a small town where people talk, I hate to tell you this, but your obdurate answer will get them talking more. What is she hiding? It was just small talk, has she got a crazy ex?

That. If you don't want people gossiping about you, the last thing you should do is avoid giving answers to small talk questions. Because if you go all mysterious, their interest will be piqued and what they don't know, they'll make up, and then gossip about the weird client they had today.

TBH you are going to come across as very rude in normal conversation if you are that private. You literally can't even make small talk with someone who is that unwilling to share anything at all, so just don't be surprised if people become unwilling to make any effort with you.

Big eye roll - sorry op sound ridiculous

very odd when someone is just asking as part of normal conversation. I have no idea what you think the hairdresser is going to do with this knowledge. I’d hate to live my life with such suspicion of people’s intentions. They probably think you’re bonkers

I think it's odd not to tell the hairdresser- I asked my hairdresser which secondary school her child moved to. It's just small talk.

@ahemfem For clarity, mine were at mainstream, but I can absolutely believe people asking why a special school, based on questions I have at times had re adoption.

Really? People actually ask why they go there? That's so intrusive. I'm not surprised you're annoyed

If a standard school I would agree.
But it is hard in general conversation when it is something you don't want to discuss further but you don't know who will push and who won't.
Where does Tim go to school?
Oh Exeter House? Not heard of that where is it, why not x,y or z here?
Oh Exeter House that's the sen school isn't it? Why does he need that.

My own DC are adopted, I get a wide range of responses if I mention it....

Yes, it's a bit weird.

At the end of the day, though, it's up to you and you can keep it private if you want. Just be aware that others will read stuff into that choice - I would assume that your dc is adopted and needs extra protection or that you had all fled domestic violence or similar. Of course, that might actually be the case, or else you might not care what conclusions people draw. Fair enough.

Do you make him put his uniform on just before entering the school gates and change him as soon as he leaves? If not, what if someone sees him in the uniform and works out which school he goes to?! Do you vary your route to and from the school to avoid detection?

It's harmless. Just a general answer. It's chit chat. You're not giving them your pin or a sample of DNA.

Yeah I don't know what hiding the logo is going to do!

You are being very weird.
Children wear uniform everyone who sees him going to school will know anyway. I know where all the local children are at school without asking.
I would assume given your answers to people trying to mAke polite conversation your child is either in the care system or you are fleeing domestic abuse???
Talking about schools is the way parents pass time sitting outside clubs/swimming lessons etc etc.
Honestly relax it is literally just chat nobody actually really cares unless they want a review of that particular school. Also children tend to tell people when asked about school!

If they are that concerned about their kids privacy they probably shouldn't post pictures of them full stop

Honestly they would.
Not everyone, but many people ask stuff without thinking through possible answers.

See also 'aren't you married yet?" or 'are you going to start a family' questions.

Given that children can’t consent to having their imagine stuck on the internet, potentially forever, I think it’s different than them walking down the street.

Nobody would want to know that, for goodness sake. You name the school, end of conversation.

If he is at a SEN school then naming it begs the next question of 'what's wrong with him'. So if it is for that reason I understand.

How would knowing the school mean someone knowing his business?