Not washing hands after using toilet AIBU?

I worked with a girl who was the same. Poop and not wash, sick and not wash. One of her kids got worms at one point and I’m not suprised, if she couldn’t wash her hands how could she teach her kids to? A colleague went to her house and apparently the kitchen was vile. Days worth of dishes sitting in stale water in the sink and you could see where the worktops were wiped to with the join between worktop and tile all crusted with dirt.
the poop hand girl would laugh at me for washing my hands after a wee, using sanitiser so my hands were wet, rubbing the door handle inside and out, then washing my hands again in work.
some people are just dirty no matter their gender.

So true!

I’m sure most males don’t bother and if they do as a token gesture, it’s just a two -second rinse of their fingertips, not a proper wash with soap. Men are mostly repulsive about toilet hygiene and boys learn to be repulsive too. It’s a constant battle reminding my little grandsons to wash their hands properly and not just show their fingertips a drop of water.

It's disgusting and makes my stomach turn especially supermarket toilet.. exit cubicle by pass hand washing and potentially touch the same produce as me🤮I'm male not that should make a difference to personal hygiene.

It's revolting. Men seem to think that if they've only had a wee it's okay as they're only touching their own dicks. Ew.

This was one of the running arguments at the end of my marriage, following covid. I'd always suspected but wasn't that bothered as long as he washed his hands before cooking, but during and after covid it started to really bother me, and he made a big deal out of how 'controlling' I'd become.

Ugh no you are definitely not unreasonable or germ phobic, it's absolute basic hygiene. Why do people do this, it's lazy and basically just spreading their pee, poo and nether-sweat everywhere.

Oh this is grim. There are so many men and women that don't wash their hands and I don't understand why? Hand washing is the cornerstone of keeping disease away as proved with the pandemic (which also showed how few people bought handwash).

I was taught to and I taught my DS. I couldn't have a man touch me that didn't.

About 1.8 million children under the age of 5 die from diarrhoeal diseases and pneumonia. Handwashing with soap could protect 1 in 3 children who get sick from diarrhoea and 1 inn 5 children who get pneumonia.

Bear in mind this includes a lot of countries with no good access to clean water.

Everyone has "poo germs" on their skin/body anyway even if they wash their hands carefully. Sorry.

He should wash his hands but i think millions of men don't.

Got to be honest, I just run my hands under the tap. It’s not a proper wash. I don’t pee on my hands though. If my whole family dies of cholera it will be down to me

Put a bottle of hand sanitiser next to the hand-wash. A quick squirt of hand sanitiser is better than nothing.

I think it's the time it takes to fuff with hand-wash, finding the hand towel etc.

How could you have married him and had children with him without realising this?

He’s not going to change now, even if he pretends to in order to get you off his back.

People are either hand washers or not hand washers, mainly due to upbringing.

Absolutely disgusting 🤮 theirs no excuse not to wash hands I would not let him near me your not unreasonable

My dh is thankfully clean and does wash hands

I think presumably he doesn't though. Why would you presume that?

Don't let him near you for a start!

Or the kids!

About 1.8 million children under the age of 5 die from diarrhoeal diseases and pneumonia. Handwashing with soap could protect 1 in 3 children who get sick from diarrhoea and 1 inn 5 children who get pneumonia.

So children in other countries are 'dropping like flies'. In the UK, I'm assuming the (hopefully) majority of people who do wash their hands are protecting the people that don't bother.

If not washing your hands after visiting the loo was that deadly then we’d all be dropping like flies!! I do wash my hands but I also think we’re all a bit obsessed with hygiene, far more important things to worry about.

My vagina would clamp shut at the thought of him touching me op.

Dirty git.

Be graphic « DH, you really think I should be ok with you touching your penis and then touching door knobs, light switches etc that I will touch as well?? » if he doesn’t get it, put your hand down your pants and then ask if he is happy for your to hold his phone.
I’l not joking.
I used the ‘hands down my pants’ once when DH started scratching his package and I asked if we shall start doing that in front of eachother from now on. It worked. Also mentioning that this is not helping your libido, for some reason this argument is always a hit for him.

Number 1 or 2? As if it matters!

There was a thread on here a while ago asking if it was OK to not wash hands after going to the toilet if you’re at home. So many people thought it was fine. I guess if you live alone, never leave the house or have visitors, it doesn’t really matter. Still shocked me though and I don’t have particularly high cleaning standards. Hand washing after using the toilet is a definite though.

Definitely not just men either. Have seen loads of women not bother.

Disgusting and it would put me off sex with him. He could be spreading germs into your vagina.
My husband calls these people 'soap dodgers'. He has a large team of male staff and any poor hygiene they will get spoken to by him.

I once had to run a bath for a colleague. We shared a room and she hadn't washed for two days.

All DH's family are like this (though thankfully not DH)! After they visit, we go round wiping the door handles they've touched with disinfectant.

I've also seen my nephew 'helping' SIL prepare a salad, picking his nose at the same time, bogers falling into the bowl. SIL saw, ignored it and served it!

But being in the minority, WE'RE the ones with the problem - germs are good for you, etc...

I'm fairly relaxed about an awful lot of things but that is absolutely revolting. It was drummed into me and DH as children the importance of hand washing and hygiene generally and it's just ingrained in us now.

I'm always astounded how many women don't wash their hands after the loo when we've been on cruises, especially when it's so easy for things like norovirius to spread. I find a lot of places have the foam handwash which makes my hands itch, so I decant my own handwash in a small travel bottle and have always got antibacterial gel.

Going back to the OP's DH, I'd be really having a go at him. He might not mind getting sick through bad hygiene but be damned if he's spreading it around the house.

🤮not good

I doubt very much he washes his hands before food prep if he doesn't after using the loo.