To take my toddler to my growth scan? No childcare.

Me too! I had to take two(!) toddlers to my 12 week scan because it was booked for 3pm on Xmas Eve and although normally I have lots of childcare options that particular time and date was impossible. And no, I wasn’t leaving my 3 and 1 year old with someone I met from an app.

Nine years ago it wasn’t a major drama, not recommended but the hospital staff were understanding.

Just for a little reassurance about online babysitting agencies, my daughter used to get babysitting assignments through a platform like this. She was required to have an early year’s qualification in addition to safeguarding and first aid qualifications. She was also DBS checked. They do not allow just anyone to care for children.
I admit to being concerned that she was going into strangers houses (she’s an adult but still my baby!) but the agency also security checked their clients.
In an emergency I think this could be a good option occasionally.

www.childcare.co.uk is fantastic for this. DD provides childcare for situations like this whenever she's free (she's a nanny). She either meets the families a few days in advance if there's time, or a couple of hours earlier than she's actually needed so the children are comfortable with her before their parents leave.

Or bring the babysitter and child tl the café at the hospital. They can have a snack, read a book and draw a picture. It should be fairly safe if OP isn't happy to leave them at home.

They won’t allow her in.

Post on a local Facebook page for babysitter recommendations, then arrange a meeting/interview with the people who are recommended, ask for their disclosure certificate etc. There will be local mums who can recommend a trusted and safe babysitter.

Can you find a babysitter. We moved to a new area a couple of years ago and didn't know anyone. I was in a similar position to you, pregnant and need to go to appointments and then needed help with the toddler when baby was born.
Our town has a couple of fantastic Facebook groups, one specifically for parents and babysitters/nannies. I've found two university students who are excellent. Have them round for a playdate with you and your toddler first so they're comfortable together before leaving them on their own.

Same - I had to bring a 2 yo to a scan and a mw appointment and it was totally fine.

That said, since you asked and they said absolutely not, your dh probably has to take time off

But she's tried both of those options! Next step, pay!

AIBU is not the place to ask certain questions lol.
I always took my baby to these appts and lots of other women always had other babies/children with them too. It was never a problem. I don't know about the policies of your specific hospital but I would speak to the consultant and explain your situation.

@HaveYouSeenRain nobody mentioned paedophiles, that's your own (rather unpleasant) imagination at work.

I wouldn't leave my baby with a complete stranger I'd found on an app. I don't think that's a particularly high bar personally, but you do you.

She explained pretty clearly in the OP they are away on holiday.

Do you not have a single friend at all
who can watch your kid? No friends at all?

Babysitters are very much a thing.

Can I ask what you plan for delivery of second baby? You will need someone to look after your todler if you want your husband to join you.

Maybe now is a good time to make your todler (abd you) familar with a babysitter who can help out then needed.

She's already said that that isn't an option as he's away with work for the whole week. So it's not 'simple as that'.

OMG get real, some of us have no family and real emergencies and some apps or agencies have vetted and approved childcare professionals. you can also ask neighbours, friends, other mum friend for recommendations.

You think every person that offers childcare is a pedophile? Such hysteria over booking a couple of hours babysitting. She can leave the baby in the hospital cafe with a babysitter and will probably be gone for 30mins.

Jesus, some of us don't have a fall back babysitter or kind retired neighbour ready to come round and bake cookies with our toddler. Some of us don't have family that are close enough or willing or capable of looking after dc for even a short period. Sometimes you're on your own and you find a way and a bit of wiggle room. Sometimes you have no option. Sometimes you have to show up against the rules with a tod in tow as you have no options.

@alba146 I hope everything is alright with your babe, I've been in the same position with a working away dh and no outside care due to dc1s disabilities. I've just taken dc with me and they have a choice to give me care or turn me away. Entitled or not I make my position clear when taking an appointment.

ask the nursery where your child goes if they can recommend someone, they might have staff that they use from agencies/cover work that could help you

Your husband will just have to take time off simple as that

You could join https://www.sitters.co.uk for a one off session and may come in handy if needed for later appointments. I’ve used them in the past and the sitters I’ve had have been good. No real continuity if you need lots of sessions but as a one off in a pinch it’s very useful and not hugely expensive (or wasn’t when I used them).

I have often thought it seems really unfair but after sitting in a waiting room potentially waiting to hear bad news whilst having someone else’s child running around was really hard. I think the rule is there for the pregnant woman and all the other pregnant women in the waiting room as well.

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If your DC is at nursery, have you asked if anyone from the nursery does private babysitting? When we've needed a babysitter, that's the route we've taken - it means you know the person is safe and competent, and your DC may already know them too.