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To be annoyed by hearing my DH saycomplishment today is making you laugh - to his work colleague

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Yuai · 11/10/2024 20:55

My DH has a female work colleague with whom he has become increasingly friendly. They often chat when he’s WFH. I overheard a few interesting comments from him to her over time, but today, I overheard him saying to her: “I achieved something today, and that’s “her name” to make you laugh and put a smile on your face”. WTAF. They are both in highly professional-level roles. I personally wouldn’t dare make these kinds of comments to my colleagues. I asked them about his comment, and he said she’s a very close and supportive colleague. Frankly, he’s been very moody before becoming friends with her, so in a way, having her makes his highly stressful job manageable and improves his mood. But is this too much? He said some other questionable things to her too..

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ahemfem · 11/10/2024 21:07

Yuai · 11/10/2024 20:59

He said to his work colleague: “ I achieved something today, and that something is to put a smile on your face and make you laugh.”

I think that is patronising sexist codswallop that has no place in a workplace

Ineffable23 · 11/10/2024 21:05

I sometimes say stuff like that to colleagues if I've had a particularly incompetent day "well if nothing else at least I've made you laugh" but it's usually a self-deprecating comment.

It sounds as though you don't think that was how this was said though, and I can see it could be meant in a problematic way.

5128gap · 11/10/2024 21:03

He said he's accomplished something today, and that's to make her laugh and put a smile on her face. In isolation that wouldn't worry me because I can imagine a man saying that to a male colleague. However close supportive friendships with the opposite sex that turn you from moody to happy are a possible concern. Tbh there's not much you can do about it though unless you catch him crossing a line.

ReleaseTheSausages · 11/10/2024 21:02

Would he say that to a male colleague I wonder?

Not sure what other posters aren’t understanding.

At best he’s a bit of a creepy misogynist.

DrinkReprehensibly · 11/10/2024 21:02

I understand now. I've sometimes said things like that when things have been going wrong and I've told a colleague. "Well at least I achieved something today, even if it was just making you laugh." as in...although everything went wrong, at least we got a chuckle out of it. Depends on the tone/context which i suppose is hard to figure out when just over-hearing.

POTC · 11/10/2024 21:02

If it were a male colleague would it still have bothered you? When I've been having a shit time at work I've often had a colleague say similar to that, sometimes exactly that! I don't see it as an issue.

MoveOnTheCards · 11/10/2024 21:01

Why has that annoyed you? Doesn’t sound particularly odd to me, more like a task or something he’s been meaning / needing a do for a while and he’s finally done it?

wulves · 11/10/2024 21:01

Oh hell no. He’s sniffing around.

Yuai · 11/10/2024 20:59

ahemfem · 11/10/2024 20:57

I don't even understand what he's said sorry

He said to his work colleague: “ I achieved something today, and that something is to put a smile on your face and make you laugh.”

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DoTheRoary · 11/10/2024 20:59

Gosh how bizarre. I'm in such a similar situation. My husband has a work friend and they are constantly texting and chatting. It's very confusing what to think.

DrinkReprehensibly · 11/10/2024 20:58

I'm sorry but I don't understand what you mean Op.

ahemfem · 11/10/2024 20:57

I don't even understand what he's said sorry