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To think this is enough toys for a 2 year old?

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teddybeartown · 11/10/2024 15:30

Had my social worker around and she asked to see my 2 year old's bedroom.
She looked around asked if his toys were in the cupboards but she was surprised when I said that no, they were all displayed where she could see.

I really thought it was more than enough for him. What do you think? Is it enough? Are they age appropriate? Does he need more? If so, what?

Thank you

  • Wooden train set
  • 3x small lego duplo sets
  • Lego/activity table
  • Toniebox with 6 tonies
  • Books
  • Mega bloks building bag
  • Rocking caterpillar
  • Toy kitchen and a few pretend food (vegetable bag from Ikea, wooden pizza, a few bits and bops and frying pan/wok) - (albeit since then the toy kitchen broke so I had to bin it)
  • A few plastic farm animals
  • A few small and medium (2/3 I think) plastic cars + one remote controlled car
  • one play dough dinosaur set
  • Play pretend tool box
  • basic plastic shape sorter
  • two basic whack a mole type toy (not the fancy electronic one), a wooden one and a plastic one
  • wooden fishing toy
  • egg shape sorter
  • stacking cups
  • 3 x puzzles
  • scooter
  • balance bike
  • small tent with tunnel and ball pit
  • wooden building blocks
  • cuddly toys
  • one buzz light year action figure
  • one basket ball
  • a colour sorting board game
  • Art and craft supplies (different types of paper, paint, paintbrushes, felt pen, crayons, black board with chalk, white board with magnets and washable markers, paper plates, googly eyes and pompom kit)
OP posts:
Crispynoodle · 11/10/2024 22:35

A fabulous set of toys great for his age you are a lovely mummy well done you xx

TheBirdintheCave · 11/10/2024 22:33

Sounds like plenty of toys. We have a tiny house and my son's toys (bar the books and soft toys) all live in a storage box and cupboards in the living room. We have to keep the house tidy or else there's no space. I wish we had a play room! ☹️

POTC · 11/10/2024 22:15

Fisher price little people cars would be better than hotwheels for a 2yr old

You said the toys are all in his room, so is his artwork. That's more likely to have been what she found odd. Unless you are shutting him away in his room all day he doesn't have access to his toys. Neither of those are good.

Waffle19 · 11/10/2024 22:02

I think that sounds fine, my only observation is you’re lacking any musical instruments! Get a couple of plastic water bottles and fill with rice and pasta, but a cheap tambourine etc.

My favourite thing to do is also collect loose parts like an egg box, kitchen roll holder, pine cones etc and put them all together into a mystery box for DC to play with every now and again when bored of toys.

Sorry appreciate you didn’t ask for ideas but just in case it’s helpful.

Hayley1256 · 11/10/2024 21:42

Toot toot cars were always a hit at that age, along with the toot toot garage (I think it's vtech). Bluey toys look quite good these days. Does he have any soft toys like teddies?

sunstreaming · 11/10/2024 21:40

Children's development is better supported by them using their imagination when they play with everyday objects: yogurt pots/saucepans/keys/shopping bags/dressing up clothes like hats, scarves/sieves/plastic jugs/plastic or picnic cups & saucers/ things you and they have made together. It's not all about spending money. Your child seems to have more then ample 'toys'

onwardsup4 · 11/10/2024 21:38

Mine has the hot wheels type mainly because they've been handed down from his big brother. He has a little people garage that he likes too. Don't feel pressured to have to buy extra stuff though? Are you happy with the amount of toys and is the child that's all that matters. Christmas is coming anyway!

liveforsummer · 11/10/2024 21:36

@teddybeartown in that case under the circumstances you describe then I'd think no more of it. It's plenty for now and as is coming up in no time so no doubt stuff to add!

stanleypops66 · 11/10/2024 21:35

Of course it's a lot of toys. It doesn't sound like the toys is an issue though,

teddybeartown · 11/10/2024 21:33

onwardsup4 · 11/10/2024 21:32

Sounds like a fair amount of toys but not loads. My two year old has too much though and is not contained in his room. 2/3 cars is a small amount of cars i would say?
Depends on the child mine gets bored quickly and likes to have a range of toy options loves cars and vehicles and has lots of them.

Could I please ask for some suggestions of cars? Are hot wheels any good or are they too small?

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onwardsup4 · 11/10/2024 21:32

Sounds like a fair amount of toys but not loads. My two year old has too much though and is not contained in his room. 2/3 cars is a small amount of cars i would say?
Depends on the child mine gets bored quickly and likes to have a range of toy options loves cars and vehicles and has lots of them.

MumChp · 11/10/2024 21:29

teddybeartown · 11/10/2024 21:25

Sorry if it was unclear, the SW wasn't called for that, she was called to check on the home and discuss safeguarding following a serious allegation against the kids' dad. She did however check the house including my son's bedroom and made that comment. No plan was put into place and the case was closed as she was satisfied I was safeguarding the children, but the comment just stuck with me.

His arrest did mean the loss of an income in the house so maybe she thought about it from a financial point of view? I'm not sure.

Edited

She shouldn't have made that comment. You are doing fine.

teddybeartown · 11/10/2024 21:25

liveforsummer · 11/10/2024 21:19

As someone who sends home some colouring pencils and colouring sheets for dc who have nothing at home, im in a way surprised but this however there are times in which those under ss are held to much higher standards. Also of course those under ss which minimise the reasons they are so. I'd be very surprised this was flagged as a problem if the involvement was nothing to do with anyone or anything currently in the home

Sorry if it was unclear, the SW wasn't called for that, she was called to check on the home and discuss safeguarding following a serious allegation against the kids' dad. She did however check the house including my son's bedroom and made that comment. No plan was put into place and the case was closed as she was satisfied I was safeguarding the children, but the comment just stuck with me.

His arrest did mean the loss of an income in the house so maybe she thought about it from a financial point of view? I'm not sure.

OP posts:
liveforsummer · 11/10/2024 21:19

As someone who sends home some colouring pencils and colouring sheets for dc who have nothing at home, im in a way surprised but this however there are times in which those under ss are held to much higher standards. Also of course those under ss which minimise the reasons they are so. I'd be very surprised this was flagged as a problem if the involvement was nothing to do with anyone or anything currently in the home

Bibbitybobbity70 · 11/10/2024 20:48

Childcare settings & schools are being actively encouraged to get rid of the amount of single purpose toys they have because it's been shown to limit children's development in terms of imaginative play. If you feel you need to add anything then look at 'real life' items, sensory & messy play but sounds like you have a good range already.

Bibbitybobbity70 · 11/10/2024 20:45

It's more than enough, lots of children have souch stuff but don't actually engage with a lot of it because it's overwhelming.

At this age children learn most by engaging in loose parts play/treasure baskets of real life items which stimulate their imagination. SW should know this & will be looking more at how you engage with your child- are you talking to them, singing, reading stories, drawing etc which is alot more important that amount of plastic toys in your house.
If you want to get more visit some charity shops.

MumChp · 11/10/2024 20:39

More than enough!

Library is great for books. They outgrow them so fast.

Hmmmmamilucky · 11/10/2024 20:36

More than enough, how ridiculous that people commented….what a consumerist society we live in - I wish my 2 year old has less as she hardly plays with the ones she has

Starlightstarbright3 · 11/10/2024 20:35

You have plenty - the only thing that seems to be missing to my mind is jigsaws they are really good for cognitive development .

however.. that said that would be on my list for Christmas presents not something you need to rush out and buy

orchard toys are really good …

I will also add junk modelling , give them an empty kitchen roll , an empty box , pinecones you can collect on a walk also have great fun and value .

The library is great for books that cost nothing but gives purpose for a trip out

daysfilledwithdappledlight · 11/10/2024 20:33

How happy and loved your son is is not reflected by the quantity of toys he has!!

If anything more toys reflects someone that is trying to buy happiness rather than spend the day making memories and involving them in day to day life.

Please don't let the social worker get to you, or listen to those telling you that you need to buy more things for your son. One ball is perfect. More does not equal better. You're providing a safe, loving home for your son, with a lovely amount of toys. I hope the social worker situation resolves itself quickly for you as imagine it would make any one of us second guess our set up, but keep doing what is right for you family x

teatoast8 · 11/10/2024 20:33

That's more than enough!

user98786 · 11/10/2024 20:32

Ridiculous comment. Children are more creative with just a few open ended toys. And you have some closed ended toys/puzzles too. Books you can get from the library. You don't need to be drowning in junk.

Nightsleeper129 · 11/10/2024 20:30

It's madness. No wonder we end up with such a consumerist society. He's got loads! Why do people think children need so much?

Bearbookagainandagain · 11/10/2024 20:23

Skyrainlight · 11/10/2024 18:41

It's probably because so many houses look like dumping grounds with toys everywhere. I don't believe living in a chaotic toy pit is good for children.

I love the expression "chaotic toy pit", I'll reuse it as that's exactly what our living room looks like 😂

And I agree, we have way more than OP but don't use a lot of it.

nearlyfreefromnappies · 11/10/2024 20:00

Excellent variety there- you have all the areas of development covered. If you have space, to store the farm animals away and rotate with zoo animals, dinosaurs, dolls house or other small world is a nice way to introduce variety without clutter/overwhelming your child. Same with jigsaws and games, art and craft etc. and sometimes a few (3/4) animals isn't enough, and they like a field, farmer and tractor to really make the farm scene engaging.