Is this signs of grooming creepy uncle

Don't feel bad because these people are very good at minimising and are very manipulative. But now you know and please you must DEFEND AND ADVOCATE for your children.

I hope you're ok. It is good you are aware of this and noticing things. Follow your gut . If you haven't already id maybe think a bit about your niece and what can be done to make sure she is safe. Take care of yourself.

Unfortunately I am speaking from the experience of being an acquaintance of somebody who was then sent to prison for child sex abuse...

Not being able to sustain adult relationships
Constantly asking for hugs
Wanting them to sit next to him
Wanting them to sit on his lap
Sulking when they don't comply
Staring at children
Play 'fighting'
Joking about sharing a bed
Wanting face time with little kids
Accidentally on purpose allowing a girl of 11 to see sexual images on his phone
Providing lots of little gifts & sweets
Private messaging teenage relative

Any of those behaviours could be a concern on their own, but together they add up to a monstrous red flag.

As for the biting - that is every kind of wrong in every way.

Keep your dc safe and away from him. Actually, because of having known of someone like this, I would go further and speak to the police about it all, and tell them what you know. He may already be on their radar. The person I knew was - historically - but none of us knew about it until it all came out in court.

A very strange thread on so many different levels.

Please protect your children from him.

Creepy as all hell. Trust your gut.

I mean I probably would have called the police at the bite. So dangerous and creepy. He thinks you’re allowing this. Your poor kids. Please don’t let him near them. The reason? Um, you’re a porn addict t and you bit my kid. That is enough.

The fact you know he is addicted is bad enough. No way is that appropriate.

He physically assaulted your child. WTF.

The biting of course is horrific. How could I have replied to the rest of the original post without taking note of that - it is maybe too bizarre to take in at first. Apart from the pain and shock of it, DC could have got sepsis or been seriously scarred. Is there any way you could have a serious talk with Grandma and ask her not to bring this man in future because he injured one of the children and you are scared he might do it again? You can't exclude him without involving her unfortunately.

OP tell him you will not be seeing him again, he should not call, and he is not welcome to visit your home. If that means granny doesn't come too - so be it.

I hate to say this to you but my sister and I were touched sexually by an older man when my parents were in the room - yeah lots of sit close, stand next to me so I can explain it to you etc. just remove him from your life.

Have you even bothered to read the thread properly? She said it was her ex like twice (or even three times) before you commented. In the very first sentence of the OP it clearly says that it’s her children’s uncle on her dad’s side

He wouldn’t have come anywhere near my
children ever again after he bit one of them (on the face, wtf). You should always listen to your gut anyway about people when it comes to your children.

Exactly! If she doesn't take the kids there he may and he won't be careful!

Your description about him gives me a major ick. Listen to your gut. Theres being friendly, and there’s crossing the boundary. Sounds like he’s the latter.

Protect your children, even if you have to be rude to the uncle.

I like what @SensibleSigma suggests. Sensible advice indeed!

Yes I agree with this.

It's all very well the op keeping her DC away from him or never leaving him alone with them, and I agree with that...but her and her DC's father are not together. My concern would be if he would take them to see him during his time?

So does your ex take them to his mum ever without you? I think the main thing to do is to ensure that he is never with the children without you personally having your beady eyes on him.

I don't know if you phoning him will create the effect you want - more likely that he will realise you suspect him and be more cunning, like all gentle "oh I don't know what I've done, just trying to be a good relative". Do not call him.

If his mum, their grandma, is moved to be on his side, and your ex has contact without you, you are fucked. Properly sunk as he will get access to them.

Also, I'm super worried about the neice. Hiw many siblings are there, your ex DH, Creepy, and another man or woman? Could you talk to her mum?? About her brother or BIL?

He BIT your son??? This can’t be a genuine post, surely.

I’m not sure what beating up the OP is supposed to do, other than make other women less likely to want to reach out for help. A lot of women grew up in shit conditions and their radar is broken as a result, as well as the families normalising this type of behaviour and defending the men involved. She’s come here for help, and thankfully other PPs have been more helpful.

What have I just read?

YES you keep the dc away from this man!

@Ladybug85789 tahts what they want you to think. He leaves it running with the phone out on the table…. How does an 11year old watch it without supervision of an adults phone?
Yoi have and are being groomed as well to allow this to happen. People aren’t having a go they are just trying to help you break out of that and see how so so much of this is wrong and you’ve been groomed as well. This is what they do. Your children are seeing that mum allows this behaviour she is seeing so it must be allowed to feel uncomfortable around uncle as mum is watching and doesn’t stop it. Then worse happens when you are not there and their brains are hard wired that this must be ok