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To not pay the cleaner

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MamaD2207 · 11/10/2024 12:50

We have had a cleaner for about a month and she is absolutely great. Today I had £100 on my bedside table this morning. There is no one else who could have taken it, but there is no evidence it was her. Am I being unreasonable not paying her ?

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Tiredofthewhirring · 11/10/2024 13:03

Wow.

It's clearly been knocked, taken by someone else in your house or you've misremembered.

Pay her.

MSLRT · 11/10/2024 13:03

I believe you. Cleaner took my daughter's engagement ring. Nothing she nor the police could do. She had form they found out afterwards. Lesson is not to trust anyone.

DoreenonTill8 · 11/10/2024 13:02

'We' have a cleaner? Who's the we? Could they have taken it?

ShowerOfShites · 11/10/2024 13:01

As long as you're ok with walking into a shop and the shopkeeper refusing to hand over your change, because something's gone missing from a shelf?

Livelaughlurgy · 11/10/2024 13:01

If I left €100 out and it was gone I might ask my cleaner did she pop it in a drawer but only after I searched everywhere because I'd be MORTIFIED incase she thought I was accusing her. But then if I didn't trust her completely she a) wouldn't be in my house and b) I wouldn't be leaving money out

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MamaD2207 · 11/10/2024 13:00

Completely certain. I know it was there this morning, I know it is no longer there or anywhere around there. My first thought it’s been knocked / moved

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MoonPieHazySky · 11/10/2024 13:00

If you are absolutely 100% certain, then personally I would not pay her and would log it with the police.

GinBlossom94 · 11/10/2024 13:00

Did you ask to her face or did you text her? Doing it via text was pointless if so

BobbyBiscuits · 11/10/2024 13:00

You can't just not pay her, no.
What you could do is set a trap, set up a camera to try and see if it was her? Or just don't use her again.
Have you asked her about it?
If you literally live alone so it could only be her then that's terrible, but I think you'll need proof.

Swissvisa · 11/10/2024 13:00

Could she have thought it was her payment? I always left cash out for the cleaner. If not then you obviously can’t withhold payment, you can ask her not to return though if you believe she stole.

edit: just seen your update that she said she hasn’t moved it. Have a good look for it but if not then I’d ask her not to come back.

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 11/10/2024 12:59

Can you be sure she took the money? It’s a very serious accusation. It could have fallen under the bed or into the drawer or been tucked absent mindedly into a pocket.

doodleschnoodle · 11/10/2024 12:59

Differentstarts · 11/10/2024 12:52

Yabu people do this shit all the time lose something or forget what they've done with it and their first thought is it's been stolen.

Yep! I would look for it very carefully and ask others in your house first. Quite often recollections of where things were can vary from reality. I've been absolutely sure I've put something in one place, but it's been found somewhere else and then I've subsequently remembered I did something else with it.

Also it would be a very stupid thing for a cleaner to do, as it would be obvious it was them. So it seems unlikely to me 🤷‍♀️

MoonPieHazySky · 11/10/2024 12:59

How certain are you OP?

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MamaD2207 · 11/10/2024 12:58

So I have asked if she moved it. She has said no . I am 100% certain. Sadly it look like I will have to pay and ask her not come back. So frustrating

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Sundaymondaytuesdayetc · 11/10/2024 12:57

I'm sorry but why leave £100 on your bedside table when you knew she was coming into clean? I know if she works for you you should be able to count on her honesty but that's just not fair to leave temptation in people's way. It may be loose change to you but it's a lot of money to some people.
You can't just not pay her. If you really think she took the money then pay her what she is due and finish her contract and find someone else.

LostOnTheWayToManderley · 11/10/2024 12:57

Ask her where she tidied it away to.

Then decide if you trust her or not, but yes you pay her. You have no evidence that she took it. She may have done; she may not, so up to you if you prefer to part ways if it doesn’t turn up.

Gawdimold · 11/10/2024 12:57

Ask her if she’s moved it

SophiaJ8 · 11/10/2024 12:56

Pay her then tell her you don’t want her to come again.

BananaGrapeMelon · 11/10/2024 12:55

You must pay her, but then ask her not to come back if you don't trust her.

Lissyy · 11/10/2024 12:55

If you are 10000% sure it was her then tell her you know she stole it and you don't want her back. If there's a slight doubt, tell her you don't need her anymore and pay her what you owe.

purplecorkheart · 11/10/2024 12:54

No you cannot. It is highly unlikely that they took it. More likely that it got knocked when she was changing sheets or hoovering. I bet if you pull out the bedside locker or bed it would be there. Or if there was a bin nearby I would check that and the bin bag.

Hoppinggreen · 11/10/2024 12:54

No, you have to pay her but then don't have her back
Maybe she took the money and maybe she didn't (its unlikley) but if theres no trust then you can't have her in your house unfortunately

Differentstarts · 11/10/2024 12:52

Yabu people do this shit all the time lose something or forget what they've done with it and their first thought is it's been stolen.

Gonk123 · 11/10/2024 12:52

My goodness…you can’t just not pay someone without any proof!
pay her wage and don’t let her back again if you like but you can’t make that assumption! Jeez!

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