Is My boyfriend right I shouldn’t do the school run with a dad

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I'm going to assume you missed the laughing emoji.

He's being ridiculous and paranoid. How dare he even bring this nonsense up to you. How disrespectful. I'd consider splitting up as this is just a sign of his attitude and things to come.

This is how I feel too. Jealousy of walking with someone on the street is honestly alien to me.

Your boyfriend managed to overhear your conversation with this dad?

Wow. That's worrying. It's a good job you're planning to dump him now.

So he doesn't trust you to walk along the street with a man. That's really sad.
But, you've said you'd be jealous also, so I guess you're just as bad!
If I saw my husband walking along with a woman I didn't know I'd just be curious who she was, as I would be if he was a man who I didn't know. Even if my mum was walking with someone new I'd ask "who's that?"

Why do people assume that any single time a man is with a woman or vice versa that if they are in a relationship it is not appropriate. It is walking to school because the kids are friends and u both head the same way nothing wrong with it if your a genuine adult who doesn't go off searching for affairs and have that trust there's no issue what so ever. This relationship screams trust issues. Tell your bf we do not want to shag every man we come into contact with contrary to his belief

Why though?

It sounds like you're both very insecure.

Good for you OP. I'd just say - my son wants to walk with his friend. I'm not going to stop him doing that because you're a bit jealous. Why don't you walk with us and you can see there's nothing going on? If he continues to be dramatic about it I wouldn't keep him around it any more; it is reasonable to make adjustments to your behaviour where your partner is jealous for good reason e.g. if there is someone who they keep hanging out with who is persistently trying to pursue them, or going out with this person every night instead of spending time with their partner. It is not ok to expect your partner to stop walking their kids from school with another parent just because they happen to be the opposite sex.

Goodbye BF.

Dump the boyfriend!

'Close' next to him on the pavement isn't Close.

If you were going round for coffee after the kids had gone to school I might sympathise.

Like attracts like.

He's paranoid, you get paranoid.
He's insecure, you get insecure.

Step away. Don't tolerate paranoia.
Find someone who expects fidelity because they don't cheat.

There could be a further red flag in him imagining what you said to the man. I fail to see how, if he is in a car driving past, he could hear what you were saying while walking m, unless you are foghorn leghorn (showing my age lol).

He must have good hearing, eavesdropping from a car that just happens to be driving past.

I was just about to say this, I see those threads crop up all the time with the majority view being that he should be more respectful or whatever of the wife etc etc.

Very different views on this thread though

Pathetic. He must have ears like a bat to hear your conversation when he's in the car!! He's a paranoid loser. Ditch him.

You're an adult with a child. You aren't messing around anymore. I cannot tell you how important it is to not allow possessive controlling men into your life. Your son has to come first.

No, it's not normal behaviour at all.
My husband is always talking to the women that he runs a school club with, he texts his female friends all the time, I go to the park after school with the dads of my kids friends. Having friends does not threaten relationships. It does threaten weedy little men.

Please, for you and your sons sake, do not pander to this. Set a clear boundary and watch out because God help you if you move in together.

This is a massive red flag. Get rid of him - he sounds controlling and paranoid.

Do I need to qualify my answer first by saying my partner has several female friends and I have never had a problem with this, just so I don’t get policed by the women here who think we’re a hive mind?

OP, he’s being absolutely pathetic and controlling. Don’t put up with being treated like this.

Your boyfriend is insecure, sad and controlling. Did he drive past you by chance? Possibly not.

When my kids were on primary, I walked back from the morning drop-off most days with a guy. His wife worked FT and he was a SAHD. He was my walking buddy and I looked forward to it. Nothing sinister going on—no funny business. Just two parents gossiping about the latest ins and outs at the school. DH was never threatened, and I would’ve been unhappy with him if he had asked me to stop walking home with my friend.

Ditch the boyfriend.

You both sound rather immature.

What does he think you should be doing instead? Walking at a 100m distance from your son's friend? Or deliberately trying not to leave at the same time?

I honestly can't imagine a scenario where either DH or I would be jealous if the other one was walking wiht our children and a very attractive opposite-sex parent. It just doesn't feature in my world view.

I mean, sure, if DH suddenly starts going for coffee on a regular basis with a super attractive, single woman, then I might be a bit concerned (depending on context), but walking from school? No.

It's worrying that your BF feels this way and that you can even see his point. It just isn't a thing - you are casually walking int he same direction with a man and his child while you are with your child. That's about as normal and innocent an action as I can imagine.