Is My boyfriend right I shouldn’t do the school run with a dad

He will be timing you soon.

What would you have been jealous of?
You sound as bad as each other!

Already done, posted at 11am and by 4pm had dumped him, very efficient!

My partner and I share school drop offs and occasionally do it together. We will regularly bump into and start walking with other parents we know and sometimes of the opposite sex. It genuinely would not occur to us to be jealous. It's just friendliness and important for children to feel part of a community.
@Bedandtoast your partner sounds controlling and possessive. It's really not normal to stop you from being around other men.

This.

He's being ridiculous. We live very close to a friend of DD's and it's not uncommon that I'll end up walking DD to/from school with either the dad or the mum, or that DH will end up walking with one of them.

What does your boyfriend expect - you refuse to speak to this man? Ignore him when he talks to you?

No Jealously shouldn’t be a normal feeling in a relationship.

If you share 100% mutual trust and know that nobody else is a threat to your relationship then there's no need to feel that way, is there?

This is toxic monogamy culture writ large. What’s wrong with doing the school run with a person that happens to be of the opposite sex?

Your boyfriend is a red flag. And tbh so are you.

You both sound really immature.

My boyfriend however may not remain in my life much longer

Good.

Get rid of him and start working on why the same situation would make you jealous. YABU for assuming everyone else would feel jealous. I couldn't give a shit who my DH did the school run with - I'd just be thrilled i wasn't doing it.

YANBU. A sign of immaturity in a relationship.

Honestly I think this is a red flag as well. There’s nothing wrong with walking to school with another parent ffs!

I can see some people might feel weird if their partner was going for a lovely scenic hike with someone of the opposite sex. But this is the school run - you're not walking with the dad, you3r son is walking with his, and they're just at an age where you accompany them

Which is more important to you, your son spending time with his mate, or pandering to your boyfriends irrational jealousy and controlling request?

As an aside, have you thought about sharing the school run sometimes so you're not both doing it every day, if you live close by. If he is a single parent he might be grateful for the extra half an hour free half hour...

I was going to say this but OP says she would feel the same if the situation was reversed
Doesn't sound like a great relationship if neither of you is allowed interaction with the opposite sex at all

I don't see why you walking with a man and his child would be a problem. I wouldn't have a problem with my husband sharing a school walk with anyone.
What I am ridiculously careful about is letting my child go to places with just that adult and child and I would accompany them to the park etc. until I was absolutely convinced my child would be looked after as well as I'd look after someone else's child.

It sounds like the boyfriend isn't your child's dad? Perhaps he doesn't understand or care about parenting norms.

Either way he's being very controlling and weird. I would not feel jealous if my DP was going the school run and chatting to a mum because I expect men and women to parent, and this is part of parenting.

You definitely can't say "see you tomorrow", it must mean you want to screw him and cheat on me. Oh and I definitely followed you to spy on you (because i dont trust you - I'm projecting). Almost definitely am going to cheat on you in future if i havent already, because i'm projecting, I accuse you of doing what I do because I do it and I expect it from everyone, it's my norm.

Just throw the whole man out, get rid. Then spend some time and search for some videos on toxic behaviour, watch them, learn them, look out for and avoid them.

It doesn't matter how good looking this other parent is, you are allowed to walk down the road with your children, giving them a good role model of how to interact with other and build friendships.

You do not have to ignore him just in case your boyfriend drives past, you do not have to walk a respectful distance behind him and his child, nor do you need a chaperone.

This is bullshit, and is based on his belief that you are his property and he doesn't want another man stealing it. He doesn't see you as a grown adult with agency, he has no respect for you.

Dump him, he's a turd.

Well he’s got one hell of a cheek. Tell him that you’ll talk with whomever you wish!

My boyfriend drove past and seen (he knew we walked) but he heard me say something like well hopefully I will see you tomorrow when I left.
How on earth did he hear you if he was driving past?
I’d tell him he’s being utterly ridiculous and leave him.

Is your son the father of your children? Does he have his own children?

DH does most of our school runs. He has a handful of people he finds tolerable at the school gates. Most of them are mums. I’m not going to stop him chatting to them FFS!