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Am I too old for a Pandora charm bracelet?

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MoreCardassianThanKardashian · 11/10/2024 11:15

I'm touching 40. I wanted a Pandora charm bracelet about 15-20 years ago when either they became really popular or I first noticed them. I didn't bother as they were expensive ish (especially to me, a pauper at the time) and really common.

Anyway, I recently bought my 13 year old daughter one (around the age range I feel they're manufactured for) and I've been completely taken in by their marketing and how good they look on DD, her friends, the store girls all of whom are a good 2,close to 3 decades younger than me and the idea of cute little treats and easy gifts for everyone.

Is it a kids thing and I'm past it or are they still cute? Is there a grown up version? 😂😂😂

I think it's ok to keep and wear one if you've had it from a young age but to buy one now is a bit "live, laugh, love"???

OP posts:
RoseDog · 11/10/2024 13:37

I got one for my 30th birthday and it got filled by the time I was 40 and got another for my 40th, I'm 42 and I wear the second one everyday, it only has 3 charms this far.

My dd 21 also has 2 she rarely wears her due to her job but between us we have no charms the same also the actual bracelets are different, she also has loads of the rings and earrings but I couldn't see my self wearing them, although I do think they are nice they are not my taste.

TemuSpecialBuy · 11/10/2024 13:36

Plump82 · 11/10/2024 11:16

If you want one, get one. I know lots of people say that but life's too short to not get things that will make you happy. Especially as you can now afford them!

Agree with this.

98% of my stuff is nice and in the “best possible taste” but I have a few things I know are cheesy / tacky but I love them and give zero fucks what some rando on the street thinks about that…

ClementineSatsuma · 11/10/2024 13:31

I got one for my 60 year old mum. I think some of their charms are lovely and meaningful.
I think they look good on all ages.

LisaD1 · 11/10/2024 13:30

I’m 52 and have one, I love mine as my DH and DD’s buy charms for it for birthdays and Christmas, it means they have something easy to buy and I have a gorgeous bracelet full of things they’ve chosen.

Hoplolly · 11/10/2024 13:20

You've just inspired me to dig mine out and try cleaning it again, thanks OP. I don't care if it's cool or not. I have some lovely charms that have been picked out by my kids. That's more important than anything else!

LuckySantangelo35 · 11/10/2024 12:55

MoreCardassianThanKardashian · 11/10/2024 11:27

Wow a lot of responses very quickly!

To the people who say they have one - when did you get it? If I already had it, I think I'd proudly wear it but if I buy it now, I feel like I'm trying to be young and cool. I think @lovemelongtime has it.

Pandora isn’t really very cool OP @MoreCardassianThanKardashian

YankSplaining · 11/10/2024 12:29

RuthW · 11/10/2024 12:03

They aren't marketed at kids. Get one if you want.

They are a bit dated now though.

They’re having a resurgence with Gen Z.

Go ahead and get one, OP. I’m surprised age is even an issue here; maybe it’s different in the UK, but in the US, I think you’re almost more likely to see them on older women than younger women.

dutysuite · 11/10/2024 12:26

Who cares what other people think! I have a Pandora bracelet, my mother bought it for me one year for Christmas and then every year she’d buy me charms… I had to tell her to stop because I never wear it, I’m just not really a bracelet person but my sister wears hers and she’s in her 40s.

ladymactíre · 11/10/2024 12:26

I have one and I'm older than you. My DDs got it for me and I love it. Now they're getting me charms :) I don't think it has anything to do with age. I love silver and I'll wear it

Slushynana · 11/10/2024 12:20

I have 3 full Pandora and Chamilia charm bracelets, the kids used to buy me a charm for birthday and Christmas until I asked them to stop! I wear them most days and I am 69.

Itsallsostressful · 11/10/2024 12:20

MoreCardassianThanKardashian · 11/10/2024 11:27

Wow a lot of responses very quickly!

To the people who say they have one - when did you get it? If I already had it, I think I'd proudly wear it but if I buy it now, I feel like I'm trying to be young and cool. I think @lovemelongtime has it.

I got mine age 46 as a gift for my wedding from my best maid....she put the wee bridge and groom charm on it. Since then I've been gifted another couple of charms.

Go for it !

Gogogo12345 · 11/10/2024 12:18

MoreCardassianThanKardashian · 11/10/2024 11:15

I'm touching 40. I wanted a Pandora charm bracelet about 15-20 years ago when either they became really popular or I first noticed them. I didn't bother as they were expensive ish (especially to me, a pauper at the time) and really common.

Anyway, I recently bought my 13 year old daughter one (around the age range I feel they're manufactured for) and I've been completely taken in by their marketing and how good they look on DD, her friends, the store girls all of whom are a good 2,close to 3 decades younger than me and the idea of cute little treats and easy gifts for everyone.

Is it a kids thing and I'm past it or are they still cute? Is there a grown up version? 😂😂😂

I think it's ok to keep and wear one if you've had it from a young age but to buy one now is a bit "live, laugh, love"???

I have one and I'm 53. Get charms from places u visit round the world

Stormyweatheroutthere · 11/10/2024 12:17

I got one for my 40th..

MasterBeth · 11/10/2024 12:17

MoreCardassianThanKardashian · 11/10/2024 11:27

Wow a lot of responses very quickly!

To the people who say they have one - when did you get it? If I already had it, I think I'd proudly wear it but if I buy it now, I feel like I'm trying to be young and cool. I think @lovemelongtime has it.

If I saw someone wearing a Pandora charm bracelet, "young and cool" would not be the look I thought they were going for.

ahemfem · 11/10/2024 12:17

Omg get one!!! Yolo!!!

Trinity65 · 11/10/2024 12:16

LostInMyOwnArse · 11/10/2024 12:14

The only place I've seen judgment and mocking of them is women on Mumsnet, I know a lot of women in the age group of OP who has one. It's only in here I've seen the idea that they're for children.

On a Xmas thread a few years ago I've seen women refer to them as a working class signifier and mock women and who wear them and say they're actually cheap jewelry for children and not "proper" jewellery for women, personally I would try and wear what you like OP, the type of person who judges and mocks over this type of thing isn't the type of person you want to impress anyway as they'll only pick something else to sneer at.

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Well Said

I am WC but do not have a Pandora bracelet.
I do not mock, or judge, those who do though.
I have a nice old fashioned (1980s) Gold charm bracelet personally

LostInMyOwnArse · 11/10/2024 12:14

Ameliasvocalfry · 11/10/2024 11:23

What? I've never heard that there's an age limit on charm bracelets! I'm considerably older than the OP and wear one.

The only place I've seen judgment and mocking of them is women on Mumsnet, I know a lot of women in the age group of OP who has one. It's only in here I've seen the idea that they're for children.

On a Xmas thread a few years ago I've seen women refer to them as a working class signifier and mock women and who wear them and say they're actually cheap jewelry for children and not "proper" jewellery for women, personally I would try and wear what you like OP, the type of person who judges and mocks over this type of thing isn't the type of person you want to impress anyway as they'll only pick something else to sneer at.

ForBetterForWorseOrNot · 11/10/2024 12:11

Had mine for my 30th from mother in law. Only wear it on special occasions but it's great. Husband knows if he can't think what to get for birthday, anniversary or Christmas he can get a charm.

Trinity65 · 11/10/2024 12:10

Buy one,

I don't think there is an age limit for wearing one
If you want one, and can now afford too, then Just Do It ;)

Povertytrapped · 11/10/2024 12:08

Ooh @ImNoSuperman the Monica Vinader bracelets 😍now you have started something...

RuthW · 11/10/2024 12:03

They aren't marketed at kids. Get one if you want.

They are a bit dated now though.

TicTac80 · 11/10/2024 12:03

Get yourself one if you want one! Why not? It doesn't matter how old you are. I'm in my 40's, my sister is in her 50's. We've bought each other meaningful charms for our bracelets over past 15-20 yrs. I think of my sister when I wear mine. I don't wear mine all the time (I can't wear much jewellery at work), but I will put it on when I'm not working :)

DappledThings · 11/10/2024 12:02

I don't like them and fortunately DH knew that and was able to politely dissuade MIL when she mentioned buying me one but there's no age range related to them I'm away of. MIL must have been in her 60s when she got hers.

Ofalltheginjoints · 11/10/2024 12:00

I'm in my late 30's and have one, got it about 6 years ago as a present from my ex and mine is full is Disney charms, buy new ones when I go to Florida as well as getting some over here. My SIL is in her 40's and got hers for Christmas a couple of years ago she has a mix of charms on hers and wears it most days.

Age is just a number, if you like it get one

ImNoSuperman · 11/10/2024 11:57

If you think you're too old for Pandora, what about a charm bracelet from something like Monica Vinader?