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At what age shouldn't your kids see you naked?!

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GabriellaFaith · 11/10/2024 02:41

I have 2 girls ages 6 and 7. They both have very long hair, and whilst getting better, they struggle to rinse the conditioner off properly. Due to a back injury / operation years ago I struggle bending or twisting, so sometimes, if we are in a rush, I get in the shower to rinse their hair out. They aren't uncomfortable or anything, they are far too busy singing along to barbie to even notice 😂 but I wondered at what age should they not see me, or each other, naked? And even me not see them?

They still love playing in the bath together, and we have a double shower (2 heads) in our bathroom which they like to use in the evenings. Part of me thinks it's good they see me with my saggy belly, stretch marked legs and several large scars, because so much of what they see these days seems airbrushed! But I don't want to do something if it's deemed weird or inappropriate!

So, AIBU to be naked around them at 6 and 7 years old?

If no, when do I stop?! End of primary school??? I don't know! 🙈

Thanks everyone x

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RecycleMePlease · 11/10/2024 06:03

They'll let you know, don't worry!

It was not too long after that age that my youngest decided that even the lure of my bath wasn't enough for me to see him naked (previously he'd magically appear in it if I wasn't sneaky enough when running one)

But even now, a few years on, whilst he'd never be naked around me, he'll wander into my bathroom to brush his teeth while I'm in the bath, and whilst there's no wandering around showing everything off, we'll also all (including his older brother) get changed in a room together without any fuss - just normal, polite, keeping our eyes to ourselves and not dilly dallying.

I think that's a normal/healthy level of nudity acceptance TBH.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 11/10/2024 05:59

My DC are 20DS and 18Dd. Dd sees me completely naked as we frequently get ready for a night out/ family occasion together, same way I'd change in front of my DM or female friends. I did take my top off ( no bra) in front of DS and his GF in the summer as had to jump into the water (from a boat) at short notice.

InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom · 11/10/2024 05:39

My 9yo wanted privacy about a year ago so I run her bath or shower and she does her own thing.

My 7yo still wants company when she's in the bath but I imagine that will stop soon as well.

As for seeing me naked, all my kids come into the bathroom when I'm in the bath, just for a chat or to answer a question, they range from 23 down to 7, so they aren't fussed about seeing me at all.

WhatIsThisTomFoolery24 · 11/10/2024 04:28

Whenever you or they express embarrassment or discomfort.

IamGrout · 11/10/2024 04:12

It's just bodies, everyone has them. It is good that your children see what a normal body looks like. As they get older they will let you know if they want privacy so Just take their lead and not worry about it.

I don't wander around nude but I've always been pretty relaxed about getting changed in front of my son. He is 13 now and still isn't phased about wandering into the bathroom to ask a question while I am in the shower or chatting with me while I get dressed. He has become a bit shyer about himself as his body changes, so I don't go in the bathroom or his room while he is dressing unless he calls me in.

SD1978 · 11/10/2024 02:58

When they choose to. I have no issue with nudity. And won't hide it, whilst also not parading around (if that makes sense) when my daughter is uncomfortable with it, I'll respect that and make more effort to cover up outside of my own room.

DoAWheelie · 11/10/2024 02:47

When they start showing signs of wanting privacy. Every kid is different, follow their cues.

AutumnLeaves24 · 11/10/2024 02:47

Don't worry about it, they'll let you know when they want you to stop being naked in front of them or when they want privacy from you or each other. They'll likely dip in & out of this too.

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