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Kissed my butt?

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Mamamover · 10/10/2024 19:31

AIBU to think this is bizarre?
I thought it was perhaps a bit funny at first but being a chronic over thinker i’m now wondering if this is a bit odd?

I went upstairs while my 4, almost 5 y/o brushed his teeth before bed and I had a wee at the same time. I got up and turned around to flush and hadn’t fully pulled my leggings up yet. Next thing I know he’s planted a kiss on my butt cheek.

AIBU to think Is this weird? Or is this just normal unpredictable random child behaviour?

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GreyCarpet · 11/10/2024 08:12

Mabs49 · 10/10/2024 20:54

For me it’s way too young. So I disagree. Let them have their innocence.

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What innocence is lost by telling them bums are private parts and we don't touch other people's bottoms?

HRTQueen · 11/10/2024 07:50

TiredTeaBag · 10/10/2024 22:32

It's totally normal.

My son burst in when I was bent over stark naked, pulling the plug out of the bath.

He kissed my arse, hugged me from behind, and then said, "I love your bum mummy. It's enormous. "

20 years later, he is a boringly normal member of society, and this is just one of a list of fabulous anecdotes that will be wheeled out at his wedding.

😀

ds used to use my bum as a pillow as it was so squishy

It’s cute you are overthinking there is absolutely nothing wrong in what he did he loves you and was telling you this that’s all

when they are teenagers and everything you do just seems to annoy them you have these lovely memories to remind you that once you were their world

SwingTheMonkey · 11/10/2024 07:32

PleaseAskSomeoneWhoGivesAFuck · 10/10/2024 22:03

It's the infantile language.
Of course you explain that some parts of your body are not everyone's property, nor to be paraded in public, but your 'private parts'

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🙄 You can use the correct terminology for body parts, as I have done with all 4 of my children when they were young, with the point being that these are ‘private parts’ of your body.

Jesus, the nit picking is rather pathetic.

TiredTeaBag · 10/10/2024 22:32

It's totally normal.

My son burst in when I was bent over stark naked, pulling the plug out of the bath.

He kissed my arse, hugged me from behind, and then said, "I love your bum mummy. It's enormous. "

20 years later, he is a boringly normal member of society, and this is just one of a list of fabulous anecdotes that will be wheeled out at his wedding.

PleaseAskSomeoneWhoGivesAFuck · 10/10/2024 22:03

SwingTheMonkey · 10/10/2024 21:49

Yep. A buttock is a ‘private part’ of your body. Unless you have yours out in public? Not sure wtf your problem is…

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It's the infantile language.
Of course you explain that some parts of your body are not everyone's property, nor to be paraded in public, but your 'private parts'

TheShellBeach · 10/10/2024 21:52

Mabs49 · 10/10/2024 20:04

four is a bit young to talk about private parts isn’t it?!

No it isn't.

Crazycatlady79 · 10/10/2024 21:50

Mabs49 · 10/10/2024 20:04

four is a bit young to talk about private parts isn’t it?!

Of course it isn't too young!

SwingTheMonkey · 10/10/2024 21:49

PleaseAskSomeoneWhoGivesAFuck · 10/10/2024 21:19

Private parts??
Ffs

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Yep. A buttock is a ‘private part’ of your body. Unless you have yours out in public? Not sure wtf your problem is…

Dramatic · 10/10/2024 21:48

pinkstripeycat · 10/10/2024 20:46

How many parents pretend bite their little ones bum cheek or their chubby leg? I did. If my 4 year old bit my bum cheek I would probably laugh and say “oooh cheeky” or something similar.

As PP said he sees it the same as an arm or a leg.

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I've never pretended to bite my child's bum and yes I think it's weird.

SnowFrogJelly · 10/10/2024 21:46

Of course it's not weird 🙄

35965a · 10/10/2024 21:23

Please be careful sharing any innocent stories in this thread.

PleaseAskSomeoneWhoGivesAFuck · 10/10/2024 21:20

Mabs49 · 10/10/2024 20:04

four is a bit young to talk about private parts isn’t it?!

Four is too old to talk about 'private parts'
Use proper terminology

PleaseAskSomeoneWhoGivesAFuck · 10/10/2024 21:19

SwingTheMonkey · 10/10/2024 19:53

He has no idea this isn’t appropriate so no, not weird at all. He loves you and wanted to kiss you, that’s all he was thinking. It’s a bit weird that you think it’s weird.
Start to talk about private parts being private in the coming days, he’ll learn what’s appropriate and what’s not.

Private parts??
Ffs

Mabs49 · 10/10/2024 20:54

Eleven681 · 10/10/2024 20:41

Not at all. It's appropriate for children to know the correct names for their parts and that it's private. No great detail is needed, just a chat.

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For me it’s way too young. So I disagree. Let them have their innocence.

pinkstripeycat · 10/10/2024 20:46

How many parents pretend bite their little ones bum cheek or their chubby leg? I did. If my 4 year old bit my bum cheek I would probably laugh and say “oooh cheeky” or something similar.

As PP said he sees it the same as an arm or a leg.

Catza · 10/10/2024 20:45

If you think it's normal to wee in front of a child of that age then surely you believe he has no concept of what is and isn't private.

Eleven681 · 10/10/2024 20:41

Mabs49 · 10/10/2024 20:04

four is a bit young to talk about private parts isn’t it?!

Not at all. It's appropriate for children to know the correct names for their parts and that it's private. No great detail is needed, just a chat.

StarSlinger · 10/10/2024 20:34

Another weird thread.

JesusOnAYamaha · 10/10/2024 20:29

PleaseAskSomeoneWhoGivesAFuck · 10/10/2024 20:27

Your butt? Water butt?

Rifle butt goshdarn it

Yougetmoreofwhatyoufocuson · 10/10/2024 20:28

Kids do random weird stuff. Regularly.

PleaseAskSomeoneWhoGivesAFuck · 10/10/2024 20:27

Your butt? Water butt?

MSLRT · 10/10/2024 20:23

What a strange thing to post about. Talk about an over reaction to a child’s natural action.

namechangetheworld · 10/10/2024 20:07

Good lord. He's four. You're his mother.

Mabs49 · 10/10/2024 20:04

four is a bit young to talk about private parts isn’t it?!

Mabs49 · 10/10/2024 20:04

That’s sweet. He feels secure and loved and is expressing his love for you 🥰