MIL strikes again

I think you are being massively unreasonable!! This is your partner's parents! Not some paid childcare provision! They sound amazing to have had their grandchild as much as they have!! Bless them, they r allowed to say no to a poorly child every now and again! Even if he wasn't poorly, they r allowed to say 'sorry, not this week'!

If you want regular, reliable childcare provision you will need to pay for a nursery place or childminder. In my view, grandparents are there to assist if and when it's ok and they r happy to. But you must never take their kindness for granted or rely on it. They have a life too.

My parents are dead and my in laws live over 600 miles away. You r lucky to have these kind people in your life. Don't forget how lucky you are and don't push your luck and take them for granted.

DP and I have a 10 month old, we live a 40 min drive from his dads house, we have an agreement in place that once a month for childcare reasons his dad and step mum will have GC. we have to drop GC off, he stays overnight and then GP's will drop him back home after work the following day. I admit, this month we've had to ask them to have him on a couple more occasions than usual because of mine the DP's work.

GC is due to go today, he's been off colour all week, and is now full of cold but MIL (its easier to call her that) is questioning if he's well enough for the visit! she says that she had planned for her own DD's child to be there 'for quality time apparently!!' (theres a 6 month difference), but if our son is poorly, she will have to cancel this as its not fair to pass any germs on!!!

I simply can't take time off work, nor can my DP and its just a cold!

AIBU by sending GC or YANBU.. its just a cold and she's being precious about the other GC

Your kid your problem, they already do you favours for childcare.

I'm absolutely astounded at your attitude tbh.

she has said that if we are really stuck, she will re-organise the play date with the other GC.

i just feel constantly judged by her! every decision i make about my baby and she has an opinion. I started him on solids at 4 months, and she questioned this, We've put him in his own room, she's questioned this!

DP and I have a 10 month old, we live a 40 min drive from his dads house, we have an agreement in place that once a month for childcare reasons his dad and step mum will have GC. we have to drop GC off, he stays overnight and then GP's will drop him back home after work the following day. I admit, this month we've had to ask them to have him on a couple more occasions than usual because of mine the DP's work.

GC is due to go today, he's been off colour all week, and is now full of cold but MIL (its easier to call her that) is questioning if he's well enough for the visit! she says that she had planned for her own DD's child to be there 'for quality time apparently!!' (theres a 6 month difference), but if our son is poorly, she will have to cancel this as its not fair to pass any germs on!!!

I simply can't take time off work, nor can my DP and its just a cold!

AIBU by sending GC or YANBU.. its just a cold and she's being precious about the other GC

Your title MIL strikes again is unfair, her point is valid isn't it that she doesn't want your sick child to spread it to the other child? And this accusation after you admit that they have helped you even more than agreed this month.

And your statement that she is being precious about her other grandchild is disrespectful and ungrateful unless you are going to claim that she treats her grandchild differently from your child or something.

she has said that if we are really stuck, she will re-organise the play date with the other GC.

i just feel constantly judged by her! every decision i make about my baby and she has an opinion. I started him on solids at 4 months, and she questioned this, We've put him in his own room, she's questioned this!

just an update... he went to GP's house, he slept well and there was no need for calpol or anything else.. regular updates and he seems happy enough and he will be back home later this evening. i won't be judged on how i decide to feed my baby nor will i be judged on where my baby sleeps but i do take onboard that if he's ill in the future, i need to be a bit more assertive with my work!

just an update... he went to GP's house, he slept well and there was no need for calpol or anything else.. regular updates and he seems happy enough and he will be back home later this evening. i won't be judged on how i decide to feed my baby nor will i be judged on where my baby sleeps but i do take onboard that if he's ill in the future, i need to be a bit more assertive with my work!

just an update... he went to GP's house, he slept well and there was no need for calpol or anything else.. regular updates and he seems happy enough and he will be back home later this evening. i won't be judged on how i decide to feed my baby nor will i be judged on where my baby sleeps but i do take onboard that if he's ill in the future, i need to be a bit more assertive with my work!

just an update... he went to GP's house, he slept well and there was no need for calpol or anything else.. regular updates and he seems happy enough and he will be back home later this evening. i won't be judged on how i decide to feed my baby nor will i be judged on where my baby sleeps but i do take onboard that if he's ill in the future, i need to be a bit more assertive with my work!

Not a suggestion a hypothesis. Nobody can explain why this is the case whereas when it comes to all other advice the reasons are obvious.

When I had my second child and I moved out of London they said she didn't need it. I did explain my dad had TB when he was a child and all they said have you come from these countries if not then no she won't need it. There's only two years between my first two children. They must have changed the guidelines again in that time?

I think that's a dangerous suggestion - I've also not heard of babies succumbing to SIDS making noises as if distressed. A monitor is not enough. My oldest is almost 18 and the advice when he was born was to be in the same room for all sleeps.

she has said that if we are really stuck, she will re-organise the play date with the other GC.

i just feel constantly judged by her! every decision i make about my baby and she has an opinion. I started him on solids at 4 months, and she questioned this, We've put him in his own room, she's questioned this!

When I had my second child and I moved out of London they said she didn't need it. I did explain my dad had TB when he was a child and all they said have you come from these countries if not then no she won't need it. There's only two years between my first two children. They must have changed the guidelines again in that time?

The BCG vaccination was a good idea. Introducing solids at 4 months was standard advice from health visitors from the 70s onwards. Has stopped in last decade or so, I think.

All my babies were beside me but I wouldn't judge if parents decide to put their baby in a nursery room.

I found an article about when the Government wanted babies to be weaned at 6 months. Although health visitors was still advising parents to start introducing purees at 4 months. I swear to you my health visitor was giving me advice on weaning and introducing solids. I would have waited. I lived in South London at the time. She even pressured me to give my daughter the BCG jab. When I moved outside of London the advice changed.

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/society/2004/nov/10/health.medicineandhealth