MIL strikes again

Ops probably changed her username again and put up a post, as someone else, on her side. 😂

I'm exposed to the cold virus every time I step outside the house

Unless you live somewhere where everyone has a permanent cold then you are not exposed to the virus everyday you step out of your house.

It is only when you come into contact with someone who is close enough to be breathing on you or someone who is coughing or sneezing around you do you become infected.

I’d be greatful for her help rather than moaning! You could pay for childcare like most people!

MIL is in good health. Cousin is child in good health. Yes, a cold could kill me but unfortunately I'm exposed to the cold virus every time I step outside the house.

It's useful for small children to be exposed to colds so they don't spend their time at school or nursery off with every germ going. In the same way that every flu jab you get means that if you get flu, it won't kill you.

Just a cold can mean 6 weeks in bed struggling to breathe and wondering if they will survive to some people.

I wish people would understand that not all of us can shrug off just a cold in a few days

To me “just a cold” will be the one thing that will kill me. I have no protection for my lungs and every time I get a cold I get a chest infection and the older I get and the more chest infections I get I can feel them getting worse

So if you have “just a cold”

STAY IN AND STOP INFECTING OTHER PEOPLE

Yorkshire. Nuff said. God's own country and they do things differently there.

What are you talking about? All the MIL did was ask whether the baby was well enough to come and say that she would need to cancel seeing the other grandchild so as not to risk making them ill too. She didn’t cancel on OP and in fact did take poorly baby overnight. How on earth was she unreasonable??!

That makes it even more entitled.
I would be mortified if I was ever this rude to my in laws.

It'll be because she didn't want the baby to wake up in the night. At 4 months.

When my Child came along I went part time so I could look after him. He's 9 and my mum had him for the 1st time overnight recently.
YABU the GP don't want a cold and neither does anyone else.
When you have a child it's your responsibility no one else's.
As for the weaning you probably know when your child is ready. I personally don't agree with him being in his own room so young but that's my opinion. Again he's your child.

Can’t believe you even have to ask this question. Yes YABU!!! And quite selfish. Plus- if your baby is poorly shouldn’t you want to be with them? Hmm odd

I don't understand the part about needing to put your son on solids at four months because you "couldn't fill him up". Surely it would have made more sense just to give him more milk?

I hadn't noticed the "we have to drop him off" part. It really is the icing on the entitlement cake.

Doubt OP will be back. Very unlikely to realise the error of her ways despite overwhelmingly being told how dreadful and unreasonable she is being. People like that never take advice though. Just want to be told how right they are!

I'm keeping my eye out for a
'DIL strikes again!' post ,
complaining about a DIL who is completely ungrateful for the help she's given!

Read whole. The update was, she actually cancelled the other child and took hers overnight.
And you know what - this child is not even her GC. She is a step-mom-in law. So she cancelled her daughter's child, her real GC, to accommodate the one she is not even related to. And OP dares to complain about her! When she is clearly showing that she loves her son, although not even her GC. You got now that she is absolutely YABU.

It's not even her dad. It's her father in law.

'AIBU by sending GC or YANBU.. its just a cold and she's being precious about the other GC' .......... being precious??? I am sure if it was the other child with a cold you would be posting on here to say how unreasonable MIL is for putting your DC at risk of catching a cold from the other GC. you are VVU

I find your posts staggering @againanothernamechange. And the level of entitlement, self absorption and meanness is shocking quite frankly.

I doubt you will, but with kindness, please use this thread as an opportunity to do some soul searching and perhaps explore the idea of doing some therapy that can help with personal growth. Your thought processes are not normal and you are only concerned about yourself. Everyone else seems to be a pawn that you can move around or use to your own advantage. The fact you would send an ill child to nursery (using the staff/putting other children at risk) and then exploiting and manipulating your step mother in law (the one who strikes again according to your title! 🙄) and being so vile about her wishing to see her own blood grandchild says an awful lot about you and your desire to always put your own needs first. I am also assuming that you don’t show any gratitude to your FIL and SMIL either given the disdain you’ve shown in the thread?

I disagree. Why spread the virus to another household by giving the kid to the grandparents? No one is keen on being sick. Would you encourage a playdate with someone's sick child? I don't want to get sick or see my kid suffer unnecessarily.

But most importantly, when a child is sick all they want is their parents and most likely their mother. At 10 months with a cold, the poor thing might have sore throat and wants nothing more than comfort of his mother and probably breastfeed.

Im going to go against the grain here and say FIL's wife is being unreasonable.

It's normal to send a child with a cold to nursery, otherwise they'd never be there! So why not grandparents? It is a bit frustrating of them to cancel on you for this reason.

I wonder if there is prioritisation of the baby MIL is actually related to, but that's just a suspicion on my part.

Unfortunately not much you can do, whether or not they are being unreasonable, as they are doing you a favour at the end of the day.

And the older they get, the more likely your in-laws are to pick up illnesses too. Therefore they could end up being unwell too.

It's also incredibly tiring looking after kids when you're older.

You're being extremely unfair!

The audacity of the title of your op! Your poor MIL.

On this occasion you’re in the wrong. They’re doing you a favour, she’s right to be concerned about her grandchildren becoming unwell. You sound selfish and entitled ! And to say mother in law strikes again, you to check yourself. You chose to have this child, your child is your responsibility. Frankly I think you and your husband are disgraceful considering sending an unwell baby elsewhere.

so maybe take responsibility for your child and look after your own child. Not once did anyone look after my children I had to suck it up as that’s what being a parent is.

Your child is unwell so should be at home and either you or your partner need to take time off work. When you have children they should come first. Your MIL is doing you a favour looking after them when they are well, she is quite right to refuse being lumbered with a sick child that could pass the illness on to the child. I think your attitude is wrong, you don't seem to appreciate the help you get. Your child, your problem!