MIL strikes again

It’s not the GP place to look after your sick kid and yea she is being completely reasonable to not want her other grandchild to get sick too, O E of you will have to take time off

Oh dear. Mine went to my mum’s for three nights when he was five months so I could go to a festival.

@Notamum12345577 anyone choosing to send a 10 month old to relatives overnight maybe shouldn’t have a baby…can’t believe you admit to sending a baby away for 3 nights so you could go to a wedding that’s shocking behaviour.

I did mean Mil. And as someone whose grandchildren have made them ill on numerous occasions I know what I’m talking about.

If you are a teacher, it is inherent in the job you will get exposure to kids. It's the same as doctors and nurses. It comes in the territory of that kind of work.

Grandparents are not paid workers. They are doing a favour. Would you not feel uncomfortable if a friend sent an obviously sick kid over to your house for a playdate with your kids? For the grand parents to get exposed, they themselves get sick, then they have to delay seeing their other grandchildren to avoid getting them sick. Ultimately it's the parent's responsibility to look after their own sick child, who is only 10 months old. I wouldn't feel comfortable babysitting a sick 10 month old in case something happens and the baby needs to go to hospital and I have to make those decisions because the parents are at work.

Would the child be well enough to attend nursery?
no? Shouldn’t go to GP then.

also, do parents never think teeny children and babies and toddlers probably just want to be at home with their parents when their sick :-(

It doesn't but @BIossomtoes meant MiL, I think. Older people tend to catch cold more easily and they are much sicker with them, therefore it's entirely reasonable to want to avoid catching a cold. OP seems entitled and as if she is doing in-laws a favour dropping GC off, whereas it's in-laws doing her a massive favour. She should have kept her baby at home and taken a day off. Ffs, she said the child had been poorly all week!

Yes but there’s old teachers that are grandparents age but people don’t keep children off with a cold

I totally think the OP is fully unreasonable. However, I disagree about a 10 month old shouldn’t be going somewhere else overnight! Quite a few kids that age have sleep overs at GP. We went away for a wedding for 3 nights when one of mine was 10 months old, they were absolutely fine with the GPs.

So your MIL raises safety concerns with you on the basis that all advice suggests to wait until 6 months and she’s the bad person? Get a grip.

YOUR child is sick so it’s up to YOU to look after your own sick child not other people. You should have taken time off work ! Your in-laws are doing you a favour and you’re putting them in a challenging position. You sound very entitled.

I can assure you it’s true. I know from bitter experience. As far as I know there aren’t many people of grandparent age in schools.

This thread is just one of the many reasons why we should try not to pass colds onto others, it causes all sorts of problems.
Stay home if you can with a cold. Keep your kids home if you can if they have a cold.
Adults who have respiratory symptoms and can't stay home should wear a mask if they can.
We all need to start looking out for each other more.

That doesn’t make sense, if that’s the case you wouldn’t put child into school then

I know what you mean - my gorgeous gs is very free with his germs everytime we see him!

The difference is that when you’re older you feel iller and it takes you twice as long to get rid of it.

Most people say on here that they wouldn’t keep their child off school with a cold, I’m unsure what the difference is

If your child is unwell, you need to stay off work to take care of them yourself; you knew this when you chose to have a child. Why do some people have children and expect other people to take care of them? It’s a choice. No way would I send a poorly child to share their germs with grandparents.

Wow wow wow. You had a child therefore you are essentially responsible and need to thank yourself lucky you have any help at all. Of course no one should be intentionally passing on germs to other people .Of course you or your partner couid take time off- you just don’t want to as it’s not convenient for you.

Then there is the bit about weaning. She judged you yes and rightly so- unless specifically advised by a pedestrian it’s a no- take it from someone who now has intolerances and stomach issues due to early weaning , as does my sibling. They were a hungry baby or we could not fill them up etc isn’t a reason. And anyone that tells you oh my kid is fine has survivors biased.

@YourMommaWasASnowblower I agree

It was pretty much standard when most of you were babies. You lived.

I was surprised about not putting baby in own room and having to be in the same room for sleeps but dd1 had her first baby this year and she's waiting until 6 months. Her dh has actually circled the date! I have 4dc and even with my eldest two, both in their 30s I was advised not to wean until 6 months.

Your kid is ill

You have to take parental leave unfortunately you can't just bin a poorly baby off and expect everyone else to get poorly coz you can't be arsed been off work

As she should, 4 months is far too early

I damn well hope she didn't cancel her own grandchild for yours.

You are assuming MIL and other child are in good health. Even if they are who has the right to expose them to ill health. Yes, it is good for children to be exposed to the outside world where they can build immunization that will help protect them as they go, does not mean you get to purposely make someone ill so your life can be a little easier.
The flu jab is to LESSEN the chances of the flu being harmful and causing death it is not a complete preventative so stop thinking you get to be this flippant with other people's health. Especially the elderly, the young and the immuno compromised. Again, the level of entitlement is staggering and disgusting.