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Not to help catch a stray/escaped dog! Now it’s my fault it’s been injured apparently!

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notmyproblems · 10/10/2024 12:32

Someone’s dog keeps escaping and for some reason it kept making its way into my garden. It had been dodging cars apparently and being a nuisance. Regularly have people knocking asking is it mine.

Two weeks ago someone saw it run into my garden and they were banging on the door . I answered (I was WFH and busy) and they were demanding to be allowed into the garden to keep hold of the dog till the warden could get there. I said no. Wait till it goes back out again (I didn’t want someone I don’t know in my house / garden) then catch it and secure it .

Ive since got the gap fixed and the dog can’t get in anymore. Haven’t seen it

Had a knock on the door today (same person) saying the dog had been hit by a car and they’d had to take it to a vet and how it all could have been avoided had I allowed them access and they hoped I was happy with having it on my conscience. So i just closed the door as they were still talking which made them shout and bang on the door???

Im not the irresponsible dog owner so it’s not my fault !

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ZiriForGood · 10/10/2024 13:07

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Wtf, calling someone "shitty person" for not allowing stranger with a dog story into her house and garden. If he wanted to help the dog, he could had waited at the hole.

outdamnedspots · 10/10/2024 13:07

thoonerismspread · 10/10/2024 12:35

YABU. Owner at fault as pp says however that dog was in a vulnerable position and you could have helped and chose not to.

Totally disagree. What if op hasn't been at home?

Owner is totally at fault.

coldcallerbaiter · 10/10/2024 13:07

No to letting anyone in your house. He could be a criminal. Could you even see the dog? Someone can stand in my garden, as long as there is no access to the house and I would keep an eye on them. But that wasn’t the situation, access was via house - no way.

Jessie1259 · 10/10/2024 13:07

I'm wondering whether the dog is actually a stray rather than one that keeps escaping and had been loose for 2 weeks at least now. What makes you think it keeps escaping?

I don't understand why you didn't go put the dog on the lead if you could though? Assuming it wasn't a XL Bully or something, alternatively why didn't the rando wait by the hole while you chased it out the garden? You're being silly to suggest they had to stand in your garden for two hours to wait for the dog warden, they could wait for him at their own house. You sound a bit weird tbh OP.

qualifiedazure · 10/10/2024 13:06

MilesOfCarpetTiles · 10/10/2024 13:03

I assume OP didn't see the dog go into her garden as well, so would be taking a man's word that he needed to go into her house and garden for that reason.

A strange man knocks at your door and says he needs help looking for a lost puppy, can he come in?
I think some posters skipped the stranger danger talk at primary school 😂

BouncerFish · 10/10/2024 13:06

You had a chance to help.

You chose not to. Own it.

RanchRat · 10/10/2024 13:06

Irresponsible human being - no thought for helping others at all. Karma mate.

ByMerryKoala · 10/10/2024 13:04

So the dog came out through the same hole and only exit to your back garden and then got run over? I don't understand how it would have been any harder for this good Samaritan to stand by the hole as opposed to the dog? Weird.

KnottedTwine · 10/10/2024 13:04

Fleur240 · 10/10/2024 12:43

I feel this is what’s wrong with society… this not my problem attitude. What happened to being kind and helpful? No the dog is not your responsibility and no it’s not your fault it got injured but you could have helped that person and therefore the dog to get the care it needed!

She was at work!

Someone else's unruly and untrained animal is not her problem to fix.

Katielovesteatime · 10/10/2024 13:04

There's no way I'd interrupt my working day to allow several strangers into my home while I was there alone. The man could have waited outside until it left the garden if he was so keen. It's the owners fault that the dog was injured and nobody else. What an inappropriate thing for someone to do, to bang on the door of a woman they don't know purely to have a go at her.

MilesOfCarpetTiles · 10/10/2024 13:03

I assume OP didn't see the dog go into her garden as well, so would be taking a man's word that he needed to go into her house and garden for that reason.

teatoast8 · 10/10/2024 13:03

YANBU

qualifiedazure · 10/10/2024 13:03

I wouldn't have let some random man into my house and garden either.

If the dog ran through your garden 2 weeks ago, how is that relevant to it being hit by a car now?

Presumably it hasn't been lose for 2 weeks.

ElBandito · 10/10/2024 13:02

The warden usually gives the dog back to the owner anyway. I suspect your actions made no difference to the final outcome.

AllHisCaterpillarFriends · 10/10/2024 13:02

Backtoblack87 · 10/10/2024 13:00

Hmm. Random man trying to help a dog fgs!

So helping a dog doesn't make him random?

A man, that has nothing better to do than wait in a garden for hours?

Would let a strange man walk through your house and sit in your garden in any other situation?

No I wouldn't have let him in either.

He could have waited at the other side of the fence.

OrdsallChord · 10/10/2024 13:02

Paperchase100 · 10/10/2024 12:49

I’d be the same. I wouldn’t want a strange man (or woman) in my garden for 2 hours with a dog that’s not mine, especially being at home and I have young DC.

Definitely not! OP had no way of knowing if that bloke was safe, and the fact that he's come to her door mouthing off in this way indicates she was right not to let him in. Berating a woman he doesn't know and then shouting at her when she closes the door?! Fucking weirdo.

Anyotherdude · 10/10/2024 13:00

Fleur240 · 10/10/2024 12:43

I feel this is what’s wrong with society… this not my problem attitude. What happened to being kind and helpful? No the dog is not your responsibility and no it’s not your fault it got injured but you could have helped that person and therefore the dog to get the care it needed!

Oh do get over yourself! If someone is indoors in their own house, they are perfectly entitled not to get involved with something going on outside - especially when they are working.
Letting random do-gooders strangers onto your property makes you liable for any injury that might be caused, too, unless you stay with them to ensure that they don’t hurl themselves off the terrace - or get bitten by the stray dog.
Nobody should be expected to drop what they are doing to enable anyone (except an official, E.g Policeman) carry out a rescue mission…

MilesOfCarpetTiles · 10/10/2024 13:00

Saltedbutter · 10/10/2024 12:55

You were obviously under no obligation but they weren’t even asking for your help. Just to be allowed into your garden.
I think it’s quite shit you said no.

He was asking to be allowed into the house and the garden and wait there for an unspecified amount of time, while the OP was working. If OP needed to go out should she leave the stranger locked in the garden?

And then he just walked off instead of waiting outside the fence. It's not OP"s responsibility to let randomers into her house and garden.

conniefromaccounts · 10/10/2024 13:00

I'd've let them in to get the dog but them knocking and shouting at you is ridiculous.

Backtoblack87 · 10/10/2024 13:00

notmyproblems · 10/10/2024 12:45

I do because I was logged on and WFH and very busy plus I don’t want some random man in my house !

Hmm. Random man trying to help a dog fgs!

ZiriForGood · 10/10/2024 12:59

YANBU.
The way how he blame you shows that you were totally right to not let that man in.

And yes, some people are really working when working from home.

If they suggested to block the hole (they could had done it from outside of your garden), so the dog would had been contained and you letting the dog warden in later, maybe that could had been considered, but random person demanding to stay is absurd.

phoenixrosehere · 10/10/2024 12:59

Paperchase100 · 10/10/2024 12:49

I’d be the same. I wouldn’t want a strange man (or woman) in my garden for 2 hours with a dog that’s not mine, especially being at home and I have young DC.

Considering how the man acted towards OP , OP did right not to have allowed them in.

notmyproblems · 10/10/2024 12:58

MilesOfCarpetTiles · 10/10/2024 12:57

So is there only one way in and out of the garden for the dog, through the hole? If so why did helpful neighbour not wait there for the dog to come out?

That’s what I suggested

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MilesOfCarpetTiles · 10/10/2024 12:57

So is there only one way in and out of the garden for the dog, through the hole? If so why did helpful neighbour not wait there for the dog to come out?

MrMucker · 10/10/2024 12:56

There is nothing unethical about refusing to put yourself out for some random dog.
I realize this might come as a shock to some, but what if, say, you don't really care about dogs? Why on earth would you interrupt your working day in your own home in order to satisfy some random dog fans on here that you're a half decent person.

Is this our moral yardstick now?
How far will you go to help a dog?