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Anyone else have a dp who does this?

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autienotnaughty · 10/10/2024 12:31

Often when I go to speak to my husband even if I use his name or hes the only one in the room he won't realise I'm speaking to him and will suddenly go 'what?' quite snappily.
He also when I'm talking if I ask him a question either start to sneeze loudly or blow his nose or put food in this mouth so I end up waiting a few minutes for a reply. It happens too often to feel like coincidences.
The other day I asked him to check something I was working on. He looked made a noise that was an acknowledgment then walked on the other room to blow his nose. I waited and he never returned! When I went in he was getting a drink , I asked if he intended to finish the conversation. He said 'I said it's fine' (he did not)

I don't think he's always done this maybe the last couple years but it's definitely getting worse. Any ideas what it's about?

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Teeshs · 10/10/2024 13:38

He sounds both rude and uncouth.
I would take your examples to be disinterested rude contempt of you. Sorry.
I wouldn't want to be living with it.

twentysevendresses · 10/10/2024 13:35

He's not lovely though is he? He's treating you with contempt...that's not 'lovely' OP!

username3678 · 10/10/2024 13:06

autienotnaughty · 10/10/2024 13:04

White noise that's interesting. He's tuned me out.

Exactly. It's very hurtful and I can see why you're upset.

autienotnaughty · 10/10/2024 13:05

MounjaroUser · 10/10/2024 12:37

It's so depressing reading this sort of thread. What do these men think they are contributing to a marriage?

Do you have children together and are they still young, OP?

Three children youngest is nine.

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autienotnaughty · 10/10/2024 13:04

username3678 · 10/10/2024 12:35

You've turned into white noise.

Any ideas what it's about?

He doesn't respect you and sees you as an inconvenience.

White noise that's interesting. He's tuned me out.

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autienotnaughty · 10/10/2024 13:04

Chamomileteaplease · 10/10/2024 12:33

It must be horrible living with someone who does this.

Is he ever nice to you? What is the rest of your relationship like?

He's lovely that's why it's hard to understand!

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MounjaroUser · 10/10/2024 12:37

It's so depressing reading this sort of thread. What do these men think they are contributing to a marriage?

Do you have children together and are they still young, OP?

ByMerryKoala · 10/10/2024 12:37

I think with all the things you mention it does sound like he's regarding you with contempt.

I'm going to assume he's not in the middle of doing something consuming though, I'm having to bite my tongue when I'm concentrating and someone barges into my brain while I'm trying to get something important down, and the kids do get a stern, 'What?'

username3678 · 10/10/2024 12:35

You've turned into white noise.

Any ideas what it's about?

He doesn't respect you and sees you as an inconvenience.

PortiasBiscuit · 10/10/2024 12:34

It’s not very respectful, he obviously doesn’t rate what you are saying as important.

Chamomileteaplease · 10/10/2024 12:33

It must be horrible living with someone who does this.

Is he ever nice to you? What is the rest of your relationship like?

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