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What do you think of me? Mum on benefits.

53 replies

Purpledinosaur1990 · 09/10/2024 22:31

I am a disabled mum. I get PIP and LCWRA. To be honest I think I get a lot more money than I deserve. A couple of years ago I could treat myself and get my nails done etc. I always make sure my daughter comes first, we do so many classes and activities. I just can’t work due to the complexity of my disabilities.
After a relationship I dress like a scruff now and won’t buy myself a thing. I just don’t feel I deserve it. He would get me to pay for everything despite being on a good wage. I just don’t know how to feel myself again as I feel like I deserve nothing.

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DangerMouseAndPenfoldx · 09/10/2024 22:34

I think as a disabled mum you are doing a hard job and you should try to be kind to yourself.

Im glad that you have escaped the bad relationship, and hope you heal soon.

It would be good to treat yourself if you can manage to. You do deserve it.

DontBiteTheCat · 09/10/2024 22:33

You deserve nice things OP. It sounds like you might be depressed?x

Singleandproud · 09/10/2024 22:33

If you have low self esteem coming onto AIBU and asking people what they think of you is not a smart move.

I think you need to rebuild yourself after a crappy relationship.

Treat yourself to a haircut, and some new clothes that fit well and buy yourself a treat to relax with whether that's a book or a new mascara.

If you are on benefits because you are unable to work then that's that. You should still have some sort of goal in life though whether that's an OU degree or other course, learning to crochet or whatever. You need to find your identity outside of mother, disabled person, someone who had a shitty partner etc. Find something you enjoy and can achieve will do wonders for your self esteem even if you don't get paid for it.