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If you have 4 kids is it a shit show?.. honestly

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Mrsisolated · 09/10/2024 21:28

I currently have 3 kids 8 6 and 2. I am Feeling so broody it’s pathetic. One of the girls announced her pregnancy at work today and I just felt gutted that i will never experience bringing a baby into this world again. DH says no as we will need a bigger house and car and holidays will be too expensive and life will be extremely stressful. I am sure he is probably right but I just feel like I can’t accept that.

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Dogzillah · 09/10/2024 21:36

Yes

And it's even harder now they're all teenagers.
They all have so much going on and I feel like I'm constantly neglecting one of them because I'm trying to focus on something someone is going through.

I love them all but I have no idea why I kept going after 2 even.

tangoboxing · 09/10/2024 21:35

It is very expensive & we juggle 1000 balls at a time. My four are teen to university age & it feels far more full on (& did I mention expensive ? 😭) now than it was when they were small, I didn’t find that too hard tbh.

K37529 · 09/10/2024 21:34

I have 4 and yes most days it is utter chaos🙈

stayathomer · 09/10/2024 21:33

It is but to be honest in a good way. When I describe our family I just have to say chaotic, always busy, always running somewhere, there’s always chat and laughing but also stress- we have two who are Uber relaxed and two who need everything just so. Funnily enough they’re not the pairings for them palling around together! Yes from people we know I think three seems to be the ‘got it together’ family, four is ‘chasing our tails’. But happy out, as I think you’ll end up being whatever way it goes!

NuffSaidSam · 09/10/2024 21:33

If your DH doesn't want a fourth that's all that really matters, even if everyone else with 4 kids finds it a breeze.

Decafflatteplease · 09/10/2024 21:32

I have 4 and it's busy but lovely.

It was hard when they were younger but We've come out the other side and it's great having a large family!

I need to be very organised though!

scullybags · 09/10/2024 21:31

My mum is 1 of 6 and always says she hated her childhood, so she only had 1.

Pandasnacks · 09/10/2024 21:31

It certainly would be a shit show if your DH doesn't want a 4th baby OP. Bring a baby into the world can be amazing, but you've got 3 kids to watch grow in this world and you are one lucky person to have that. So enjoy that, and being able to afford them and watch them experience holidays etc.

Difficultworkdecision · 09/10/2024 21:30

Honestly it’s 1 too many for me. Life with 3 was busy but manageable, with 4 I’m dropping plates left right and centre. I don’t feel like a good mum anymore. Maybe it will get easier when they are a bit older but then there will be more clubs, more driving then round, more play dates, need more space and emotional input.

LivelyGoldOrca · 09/10/2024 21:30

Yes. We never feel that we are on top of anything!