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to expect dd to open up and explain her ways /odd behaviours

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ForZanyMember · 09/10/2024 21:18

DD 15 wonderful in many ways I guess however some of her lifestyle habits concern me a little.

I understand we are all unique. She is nothing like I was at her age which of course is not a bad thing however I do worry that everything is okay. She is quiet by nature and probably the opposite to typical 15 year old girl in that she has zero interest in shopping, clothes, girly things, boys, makeup e.t.c. for me she actually spends an UNHEALTHY amount of time studying/doing homework. Along with this she has what I would say are quite unusual interests for a 15 year old girl. She is obsessed with certain topics such as biology, history and geography. She watches documentaries on these topics on a daily basis in her room with a notepad taking notes. She is also really into what I can only describe as strange programs that involve midwifery/nursing/human biology/baby making/ all things to do pregnancy. She also watches documentaries on deprived areas and troubled youths.

Maybe I'm overthinking things but I just really don't understand where these interests come from and why she spends so much of her time studying these topics. I am just a little concerned that's all. I would image most 15 year old girls spend their time out with their friends and stuff doing teenage activities.

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CrumbleintheJungle · 09/10/2024 21:24

She's probably using "homework" as an excuse to just do her own thing in her room, or not have to go out! She sounds perfectly lovely.

NuffSaidSam · 09/10/2024 21:24

You can't really explain why you like/don't like certain things, you just do or don't. Surely you have the capacity to understand that different people like different things?!

lunar1 · 09/10/2024 21:24

You're pretty much describing my 15 year old son, can't say I ever thought there was anything amiss. I might not understand why he wants to watch maths problems on YouTube, but it makes him happy so I don't need him to explain it!

OhDearMuriel · 09/10/2024 21:22

Be very careful what you wish for.

Can I do a swap with you!?

Don't make her grow up too soon, that will all come.

You are so lucky that she is taking her studies seriously, so many Don't and completely throw it all away.

wellington77 · 09/10/2024 21:22

Wow! Your daughter is most certainly not odd!!! She is instead, clearly a very clever and mature young lady who is interested in the world. To call an interest in History and Geography odd- well I find it odd you would think this interest is odd! I’m a teacher and loads of girls I teach are exactly the same,- a love of learning. I was /am also the same as your daughter. Learning was also my escape from anxiety. You should be praising your daughter. Please never tell her what you think of it all.

LimeSqueezer · 09/10/2024 21:21

Is she happy? Content? Struggling to cope with life? Does she like school? Have friends?