to expect dd to open up and explain her ways /odd behaviours

She sounds ace. Why are you finding it weird she has a mixed-sex friendship group and isn't into make-up? I had asany boy friends as girl friends once I was in 6th form, never got into shopping or make-up. Wasn't interested in going out much.

I went on to university where I made lifelong friends (26 years ago now) and had a great social life.

Your DD sounds brilliantly grounded and confident in herself.

do you have much education @ForZanyMember are your main interests makeup and clothes ? You sound like you don’t understand that your child is academic. I had no interests in boys or makeup at 15. I loved reading. I am highly educated to doctorate level now. I have a friend who is a gynaecologist. This friend watched doctors, casualty, hobby city anything medical she could on tv growing up. Your daughter sound similar to us.

I think it’s odd you’d prefer your daughter be out chasing boys and asking you can she get lip filler 🙈

I'd have been glued to the internet if it had been around, I had to make do with the library and family bookshelves, my Grandmother's old textbooks from medical school in the '30s were rather haunting though 😬.

very small circle of friends and they are not all girls which I find a little odd

I’m almost lost for words. Leave your poor DD alone and be thankful that she grown up to be a more open minded individual than you.

Is her name Matilda?

Seriously, she sounds bloody amazing.

You? Not so much.

I only have one female friend the rest are male, who cares?

I feel for her, being judged like this.

She's trying to learn how the world works. As long as you she also gets exercise I can't really see what the issue is. I think the only question is asking yourself why you find it odd, do you have any personal insight on why that might be?

My DD had these exact interests at that age - she’s on a gap year but next year will be a Physiotherapy student with hopes of doing aid work around the world in the future. You are spot on!

Sounds like me as a teen, I still have a very eccentric YouTube feed with minimal " feminine" content and love a good non fiction book. I did eventually develop a social life and even found a nice husband. Everyone wants me on their quiz team too!

A teacher at DC's secondary taught both my children for maths. At an awards evening he asked if we had any more children which I thought was rather odd. He said Ds2 and his group of friends talk to him when he is on playground duty and he says I never know what is going to come out of your son's mouth but he is clearly a very interesting chap who knows a lot about lots of things.

Ds2 watched guest lectures at universities when he was still in secondary, learned lots about history, watched TED talks. He is just loves learning new things as do I. Youtube is a brilliant place to find out about so many different things and also confirm that there are also lots of people watching the same video as you. Yesterday I was looking at building your own keyboard and the different switches for linear keys. 3.5 million people had also watched that video. It made me feel less alone in my interest.

What I did do though was ask him to show me the really interesting things so we could share some stuff. I never asked him to justify it, just share it.

I grew up with interests different to my peers and was deemed odd. For years it gave me a complex, thankfully now I can enjoy these interests without feeling like this.

Please just accept her and be glad her interests make her happy and aren't harmful in any way, I mean, why would you want to question what you deem odd? What would you be hoping to achieve by questioning them and why do you need to understand?

They make her happy, leave her be.

You sound like the kids that gave me a complex for years and you want to risk doing the same to her?

You are complaining cause your DD prefers to learn about the world instead of being into lipstick

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Why does a teeange girl have to bit put in a,box to act the same as every other teenage girl, so she doesn't fit in the box you picked for her so she is the one in the wrong?

She sounds lovely! Intelligent, conscientious & interested in the world around her. It’s great that she has such diverse interests already. Why do you want her to be interested in more shallow things?!

My 15 year old son could be described as having unusual interests. He’s extremely interested in philosophy, socialism, and ethics. He watches podcasts on niche subjects such as brutalist architecture and African dictators. He has a lot of friends, they accept him as he is. I think your daughter sounds wonderful. As a teacher I meet a lot of girls who have no interest in anything other than fashion or boys. You should be proud of her.

Oh wow! She sounds incredible! Very mature, sensible, caring. Perhaps she's interested in supporting woman's healthcare in deprived countries. She might go into aid work or something when she's older!

I get your concern, but really I'd suggest going out for coffee with her and telling her how proud you are of her studies and her mature approach, and then ask her to tell you about what she's passionate about. See if you can support her by looking for voluntary jobs together in local charities related to her interests? Or research gap year volunteer experiences like VSO.

I bet she'd love to know you're interested and want to help her pursue her interests.

She sounds really cool OP! You've done a great job raising such a lovely human 👍

(And the friends and socialising etc.. will come when she meets her people! Maybe when she's overseas in the future with like-minded peers!)

Her interests honestly sound far more interesting than makeup, clothes and shopping.

It depends - does she seem happy in herself, or does she seem sad/lonely?

Oh I think the things she's watching sound really interesting!

Why does she have to justify what she is interested in?

Honestly I don't think she sounds odd, I think you sound odd.

I would be thrilled if my daughters ended up like yours.

Your DD is content and has her own (fantastic!) interests yet you want to change her in order to fit the typical 15 year old girl cliché? You are being absolutely ridiculous and incredibly immature OP. What sort of example are you setting for your poor DD? I feel sorry for her if this is really the way that you feel!