To not like being called by forename by kids

Yes, yes they are.
But not fully rounded, and not entitled to grown-ups privileges

On average, someone who has lived 30 years longer than me will have contributed more to society than me, which deserves respect. Again on average they will have experienced more and learned more.

I think the concept of respect has changed over the last half century, from something which is earned, and not everyone will achieve (the respect you give to a top footballer, a person who has done obvious good, or a "national treasure" for example), to something more akin to basic human rights, due to everyone.

This may explain why many older people find it hard to understand they should respect a 5 year old as much as a 50 year old. Of course both have the same right to have their opinions heard (new definition) but if you were seeking advice on how to deal with a blocked drain, you may place more credence on the 50 year old's suggestion than the 5 year old's (old definition).

This may all be rubbish, I've only just thought about it.

If it comes with a general lack of respect, then I don't like it. It also feels weird when it comes from someone decades younger! But otherwise it doesn't bother me (much).

they do, they don’t use it very much but they still use it.

My youngest is 28 and all his friends called me by my 1st name. No one called me Mrs Lottery!
I grew up in the 60's & 70's and all my friends' parents were Mr/Mrs Surname.

That is also a Fair point.

You wouldn’t have been calling a random lady aunty who wasn’t such she would have been Mrs/Ms Pennyfold or if well aquatinted and allowed Julia.

Aunty is more cultural or working class for not actual relatives. If you are going class wise.

@OhTediosity "Has someone claimed that it is? It's heavily regional in my experience"

Nope-it just amused me that there doesn't seem to be a single Mumsnet topic that class isn't potentially part of!🤣

I went to schools (independent) where all teachers were called by their forenames (Christian names) so would feel really weird if anyone called me Mrs BotterMon. My DC friends always called me by first name and I always called my parent's friends by their first names too in the 70's onwards. YABU and a bit stick up your backside.

Has someone claimed that it is? It's heavily regional in my experience. Normal in parts of north England and Scotland. At my playgroup as a preschooler in the early 80s we were expected to address the staff as 'Auntie'.

Are you usually so uptight.

Humans is the overarching category. Adults and children are not the same.

Would you stress a child with your mortgage worries? We owe it to them to treat them differently.

@OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays but they are small humans 🤦🏽‍♀️

Even at 63, I call my uncles/aunts Uncle x, Aunty Y, etc, despite a couple of them asking to be called 'x'; (doing that seems so disrespectful)
But then again, we are in times where children are supposed to be the centre of everyone's bloody universe, and thus we should pander to each and every precious little whim

Because children are not just small adults

Born in 80s would never have DREAMED of addressing an adult by their first name, family members by their 'title' uncle/aunt etc.. and especially close family friends would be called Uncle X, Aunt Y etc..

It's fascinating to me how culturally-dependent this is. Where I grew up it was always first names. Never auntie or uncle anything unless they were. I'm 47.

@Roosnoodles nobody is arguing it wasn't the done thing in the past.

It's 2024.....:

Tell them you want to be called 'My son's name'
It is rude to address an adult by their first name, particularly uninvited.
But clearly their parents have not taught them manners

Born in 80s would never have DREAMED of addressing an adult by their first name, family members by their 'title' uncle/aunt etc.. and especially close family friends would be called Uncle X, Aunt Y etc.. Obviously that changed as got older but def not at primary age...

I hate to bring class into this thread-but this is Mumsnet I suppose🤣. But auntie and uncle for unrelated adults is most definitely not-posh.

I’m in the UK and agree all of this except our Dc do have uniforms but surely we can slide that formality through as equality!?

Why is she in charge of, or responsible for, anyone else's children?

Well I kind of disagree. Adults do need to be able to take charge.

Really? My family are as British as they come and I grew up with a whole load of "Aunties" and "Uncles" who were not related to me. My daughter is 4 and is more likely to talk about our close friends, who she refers to as Aunties and Uncles, than our actual siblings, who she's not that close to.

Well I’ve learned to more relaxed, but I think some of the shaming of “ old fashioned ways that are disrespectful” is pretty ironic if you look at some of the posts supposedly championing respect on here!

And sorry I called you “ she” without checking - also ironic on a thread about addressing people!